do u believe?

Question

do you believe in spanking children?why or why not?

Answer 1

No, just my monkey.

Answer 2

Absolutely! All children should be disciplined and spanking is a part of discipline. I think it's okay from the ages of about 2 years until they reach the age of about 10-12 years, ages are depending on the child of course. Some children start being bad earlier than others and some kids are bad longer than others. A child must have a small element of fear in their subconscious mind for their parents so that it will help them make decisions, hopefully right ones. If you watch any animal with their young they discipline them accordingly. That issue is a good reason why America is in decline as far as integrity, honestly and overall morality. Most kids I see these days have no respect for others especially their elders and they have very little respect for themselves. I don't want to make this a racial issue but that is even more evident with minorities. Most of them feel that America owes them something! A person can discipline their child without going to far. The ones that do should be punished no doubt.

Answer 3

Hell yes! There are some BAD kids out there that need a good spanking! If the kids deserve it then YES. There are a lot of people out there that have been spanked when they were younger and agree that they deserve every spanking that they ever got. Sometimes it's unnecessary to spank your children... you just have to put the fear into them that they DON'T want to F* with you

Answer 4

No because personally I think it's worthless. Children need to be punished in a more for real way. For example, time out or threats to taking away toys for a period of time or grounding for a week or however long you believe is a match for breaking rules or whatever they have done wrong. Spanking wont do anything much.

Answer 5

I dont believe in spanking children. Its not good for the kids. thats what a time out is for.

Answer 6

- Is there a need to spank children...? No. certainly not.
- childrens are too young to do things as matured and they dont know what they they really do.
- they have no power to resist themselves and the threats make them adamant even in good things.
- beating children is nothing but abusing them. Instead they try to make them understand the negatives and advantages of their actions.
- physical and emotional abuse can be just as devastating on a child's development.
- what message the spanking sends and why, when children become adults, should they not lash out rather than trying to control their temper and manage difficult situations with reasoning and argument rather than violence?
- We must stop the violence among childrens and a legislation to prevents parents beating them is inevitable.
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Answer 7

it depends on the situation. Sometimes spanking children is brutal and other times its a suitable punishment. personally, i find it a form a child abuse. It's okay when the kid is like 3 and doesn't understand if you talk to him about what he did wrong, but as they get older, it's wrong.

Answer 8

Yes I do but the operative word is "spank", not beat.

It didn't hurt me and it didn't hurt my brother. I am a retired US Air Force Senior NCO and my brother is a heavy equipment mechanic, in demand state wide.

My female sibling, one the other hand, was NEVER touched and she is a manipulative little b i t c h who is not even welcome at my funeral let alone my house. Add to that, she has an untouched daughter who is a pure hellion and a spanked son who is a good kid.

In other words, "IT WORKS".

Answer 9

I was spanked a lot when i was younger and i survived,lol, i don't believe in spanking kids,but i strongly support punishing them when they've been naughty,it'll make them distinguish btw good and bad behaviour,and hopefully they'll grow up to be responsible adults.But you must correct them with love.

Answer 10

Proverbs 13:24 says "He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline him."

I feel spanking is to be sparing used. The fear of being punished is more effective than punishment itself.

Answer 11

IF YOU ARE CONFUSED then you will have tO continue meditations. Confusion is the illness: meditation is medicinal. Both the words -- meditation and medicine -- come from the same root. If you are confused, you will have to go on meditating. When you see the point without any confusion, then there is no need. But meditation will prepare you, meditation will force you to see the point that there is no need to do anything. Only meditation can do that.

Just listening to me... I have told you that to be natural is to be enlightened. Now you think, "So, that is great! I can sit silently and do nothing." But can you really sit silently and do nothing? If you can really sit silently and do nothing, then this question would not have arisen. You would have sat and known and you would have bowed before me and thanked me. There would have been no question. You would have come dancing to me, not with a question and a confused mind.

If you can sit silently doing nothing, what else is needed
That's what Buddha was doing under the Bodhi Tree -- sitting silently doing nothing... and then it happened.That's how it happened to me! That's how it always happens!

But not to do is not so easy. Because you have become so accustomed to doing something or other, even sitting will be a doing to you. You will have to force yourself in a yoga posture and you will sit strained, still, in control, holding, trying to sit silently and not do anything -- and boiling within, to do a thousand and one things, and thousands of thoughts will clamour around, will distract you.

Can you just sit and do nothing? That is the ultimate. That's what nirvana is, samadhi is.
It can happen; just listening to me also it can happen, but great intelligence is needed then. Then, simply, you have seen the point -- that to be natural is all. Then where is the confusion? From where can it come? Then what is the confusion? You have SEEN it, or you have not seen it. If you WILL sit silently, you will walk silently, you will eat silently, you will talk silently. You will become a non-doer, you will become a natural being.
But if you have not seen it, then you will need a few more crazy things; you will have to go through them. Those meditations will force you to see the point. Either you see just by listening and sitting by my side, or you will have to see the hard way.

Buddha meditated for six years, and meditated intensely, totally. Then this realization arose in him: "What am I doing? Trees are perfectly happy, birds are perfectly happy -- what am I doing? And these trees are not meditating, and these birds have never thought about meditation, and they have not read Patanjali's Yoga Sutras, and they don't do yoga asanas and they don't chant any mantras. And the whole existence is so tremendously ecstatic! What am I doing standing on my head and fasting and all that nonsense?"

He SAW it, but six years it took for him to see this. And he was no ordinary man. He was tremendously intelligent. It took six years for him to see the point. But the moment he saw it, he relaxed under the Bodhi Tree. He fell asleep and the next morning he was awakened. Not only physically he opened his eyes -- spiritually his eyes were opened. Next morning when he opened his eyes, he was totally a different man -- the real man had arisen. And just a glimpse of the real man, says Ikkyu, and you are in love. And the moment he saw his real man, he started living a life of compassion and love. There was no other way now, no choice. He became a natural man.

So, if you feel confused, then go on meditating. Meditation is not for enlightenment: meditation is for confused people. Meditation does not lead you to enlightenment; it simply makes you fed up with your confusion. Just see the point: meditation is not a way to enlightenment -- it is just a way to get rid of confusion. And when there is no confusion, enlightenment comes of its own accord.

Meditation's work is negative. It takes things away from you. It does not give you anything; it simply goes on taking things away from you. Anger disappears, greed disappears, desire disappears, and you start losing whatsoever you had. You become every day poorer and poorer.

That's what Jesus means when he says: Blessed are those who are poor in spirit.

Anger is not there, greed is not there, ambition is not there. Slowly slowly, chunks of your being are cut from you. And one day suddenly nothing is there -- or, ONLY NOTHING IS THERE. That very moment, light penetrates. All those things greed, anger, passion, lust, hatred, ambition, ego -- they were hindering the path. They were not allowing the light to penetrate in you. They were functioning like a rock between you and God. All those removed... suddenly God enters into you and you enter into God.

If you understand me, there is no need for any meditation. But if you don't understand me... to understand me meditation will be needed. Then go on doing it.

I understand your confusion, your trouble. You can do it only if it leads to enlightenment. That's what your problem is. You have not said it so clearly, but that's exactly where the problem is. You can do it if I emphasize that it will lead you to enlightenment -- that I cannot do, because that is not true. You want me to promise you so that you can go on doing meditation. You want me to hypnotize you, you want me to go on supporting your desires, your goals, that you want to become enlightened, that you want to become natural... now look at the whole absurdity of becoming natural! How can one become natural? NATURAL YOU ARE! All becoming will lead you towards unnatural structures. Becoming cannot bring you to being natural. Becoming means becoming unnatural.

Natural you are, but you want me to support you because you cannot sit silently. You cannot sit, really; you need something to think about, something to do. You want some goal. And if I take the goal away you ask, "Then why should I do meditation if it is not needed?" It is still needed. Needed, not for enlightenment -- needed just to destroy this constant restlessness in your mind.
It is like this: if you live in a room with closed doors the sun will not penetrate, although opening the door is not creating the sun. By opening the door you don't create the sun -- the sun is there. But by opening the door, you become available to the sun. Meditations are just like opening the door.

So right now if you sit, you will be sitting in confusion, and the confusion will grow more and more if you sit. You will gather it; it will become almost impossible to bear it. And you will have to go to the movie or to the radio or the TV or to the club -- you will have to go somewhere.

Meditations are cathartic. They throw all the rubbish that you contain inside. They simply cleanse you. They open the doors, they open the eyes -- the sun is there. Once you are available, it starts penetrating you.
Then you will never say, "I became natural." You will say, "I was natural. The problem was not how to become natural -- the problem was how not to go on becoming unnatural."

Your meditaion is the best answer. No one else..