How can I stop coming across as a snob?

Question

I don't mean to seem this way, but I am interrprutated as such.

Answer 1

I used to get that too. I was actaully just a bit reserved, and I also tend to act arrogant sometimes which I know is just a defense mechanism for being a bit insecure.
I also looked particularly good which lots of people are intimidated by and if you don't seem real friendly when you look good people think you are a snob.

I'm not sure what it is about you that people interpret as snobby.
If you have your head tilted up that would be seen as snobby,
or if you won't talk to certain people, that could do it.
Also watch your body language. No crossing your arms in front of you around people, or turning your shoulder to them.
It could be based on another question, that you carry yourself and look as if you come from wealth and that would make certain people uncomfortable. If that is the case there is nothing you can do about it. I always try to be as friendly and down to earth around people as I can so they feel like they can talk to me about anything. I like to have people share things with me, being naturally curious about people, and have found that telling them little things that happened to me or even rather personal things about myself (even to the point of showing my next door neighbor my gold crowns on my back teeth when we were discussing dentists) will open them up and make them think they can tell me things. I even tell my neighbors that I hate my condo the way it is, things like that, that are really on the personal side, so they think I am open and friendly.
I talk to everyone and do not fear rejection at all as I know it happens and never take it personally.
I was in sales of advertising for many years, and I learned how to get people to relax around me and not see me as threatening, so I could sell them ads.

Be sort of friendly and chatty with everyone and don't fear or care about rejection or if they like you or not.

Answer 2

Without any concrete examples of what you do, it's a bit difficult to give advice. However, wanting to fix a problem means that you know that it's a problem and that's a good first step.

Here goes:
be humble
try not to compare what someone else has to what you have
be nice
don't say, "Well, I have..." in response to anyone

If those suggestions don't work, the people who think of you as a snob may have already formed an opinion about you that may not change any time soon so you may wish to seek out new company. Often, peers will try to pressure you into something that you may not wish to do and will then use ridicule in order to get you to conform with the group. Sometimes the resistance to peer pressure can leave you termed as a snob.

Hope this helps.

Answer 3

"You can't judge a book by its cover." We say this, but we're quick to say someone's a snob if they don't say much. When I was in college there was a girl I thought was a snob. One day I got a letter from my dog, supposedly, and I was walking along reading about interactions between him and the cat, and just at the moment I passed this "snobby" girl, I looked up at her just as I smiled really big at something in the letter. The girl smiled back at me! I realized then that maybe she thought I was a snob too.

The moral of the long and silly story is that people are too quick to judge, and many times what we take for being a snob is just being quiet, or shy. Okay, so practice saying hello to people, or just smiling, without waiting for them to go first. See if it helps.

Good luck!

Answer 4

Have you ever heard of the saying TREAT OTHERS THE WAY YOU WOULD WANT TO BE TREATED? The first impression someone has of you is the one that lasts forever. If you don't smile or say hi meaning it people will think you are a snob or at the very least a very unfriendly kind of person. Do you really want people to think that of you?

Answer 5

First, evaluate how you talk to people. If they get the impression that you are talking downon them, they might believe you're a snob. Also, if bragging is your thing, avoid doing it around people. That's one of the fastest ways to get people to not like your presence. Hope that helps.

Answer 6

The best way to start that is to try to do or say something nice to at least one person every day.
Remember, everybody deserves at least one compliment every day. You can't give it to everybody, but you can give it to somebody!

Answer 7

Talk to people like you would want to be talked to. Check to see if maybe you are in a pissy mood when you get online.

Answer 8

Don't forget eye contact along with the smiles.

Answer 9

Smile more. Be open. Be friendly, body language says a lot.

Answer 10

My dad told me, "Everyone you meet can teach you something"

If you treat everyone as a potential teacher, you will be perceived as an interested student.