and it is affecting your intimate relationship, including deception and lack of physical contact, what would you do?
2006-06-15 18:06:01 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Define "addicted". Are they looking at it every day for hours on end, or is it more of a preference (i.e., they're choosing the porn over you)?
If they're looking at it for hours every day, then he/she has a serious problem and should probably seek therapy. If they refuse, say goodbye and don't look back.
However, if it's the latter, then this is a problem you could potentially work out on your own. Rather than condemning your significant other for looking at porn, why not try to get involved? How about initiating a fun night of porn surfing together? Odds are they'd much prefer have someone else pleasure them than pleasure themselves.
2006-06-15 19:12:44 · answer #1 · answered by CrazyOphelia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More often than not, Porn is something that is a part of a persons life prior to getting married. Don't let anyone tell you that it is because of you in ANY way !!!
I just got out of a marriage that ended because my spouse would not take his addiction seriously. 3/4's of a day is pretty serious!!
My spouse is a computer programmer. So it was easy to abuse his time on porn.
Deception along with control is a huge part of an addicts behavior. They lie for a few reasons.
1- They do not want to be discovered.
2- They know it is wrong ( if they have a relationship with the Lord)
3- They will loose you if exposed.
Thus continuing to lie keeps them in control of not loosing you.
I would insist on having him go to counseling. Your marriage deserves honesty. There are programs just for men for this situation. Every Man's Battle is one of them. It shows a man just how selfish and destructive porn can be to a marriage and to children in a marriage.
I'll be praying for you and yours.
2006-06-16 02:59:57 · answer #2 · answered by drgnfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How to avoid porn addiction on the Internet
1. Consider installing porn content filtering software( Strongly Recommend NetDog ,you
can get it from www.netdogsoft.com ) on your computer. it will help to protect you
from stumbling into pornography by accident, That's important.
2. Do not try to guess what the address of a Web page is. Many pornographic sites have
similar addresses of respectable sites. For example www . whitehouse . com is a porn
site. The real address is www. whitehouse . gov
3. Never click on Web site addresses that you receive in an unsolicited email.
4. Do not open attachments that come in email that are unsolicited.
5. Use filtered search engines or reputable directories to find the information you
need.
6. Do not search for terms like girls. Think before you enter a search term.
Stick with reputable sites.
If something looks questionable, don't let curiosity get the best of you. Delete it or close the window.
Resource: http://www.netdogsoft.com
2006-06-20 01:30:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first and ex husband was. He always lusted after other women and it hurt me so bad that i feel out of love with him and ran out on him and away from him alot. We both did wrong and it destroyed our marriage. Instead i should have went for help and counseling and if he kept it up i should have just divorced him! Yes it did affect us bigtime and it made me not want to have sex with him!
2006-06-16 08:21:23 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let him know how it is affecting my intimate relationship with him and if that doesn't work F*** that damn computer up!!! LOL
2006-06-16 01:33:51 · answer #5 · answered by tantalizin1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him and ask him to get some help... addiction is addiction and he needs help
2006-06-16 01:08:42 · answer #6 · answered by Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let him enjoy his life. can 't you see that he is not enjoying you?
2006-06-16 01:42:16 · answer #7 · answered by Cherry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you gay. if so HA HA
2006-06-16 01:11:37 · answer #8 · answered by rickinobetz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋