my bf and I are planning our future together, we get along pretty well but he doesnt like my Mom and just recently he said that he doesnt want anything to do with her and my other relatives. our family is a tightly kneat one since that is a part of our culture and one of our values. i was hurt when he said that and told me that he doesnt care if he is too mean. he said he is not changing his mind and that i have to think about whether i stay with him or not. he also said that im the only one in my family who he loves and nobody else. i love him so much but i couldnt just turn my back on my family. its like he is making me choose and this is the very first time this has occured to me. what would you do if you're in this situation?
2006-06-15 18:02:21 · 4 answers · asked by intense35 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sounds like he is very controlling.
If he separates you from your family them you will be all his to gain control over.
Asking you to do that is also very ignorant and dissrespectful to you. If he has any love, concern and respect for your feelings he wont expect you to do that.
Men come and go, families do not!
2006-06-15 18:13:07 · answer #1 · answered by lovingfeathers 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To be honest, if he hates your family now I don't think it is going to get any better. What's going to happen if nothing changes is that he will continue to rag on your family and you will resent him for it. This will be an issue every holiday, birthday, or family event that you want to go to. If you break up with him, he will get the message that it is not an option to hate your family. I think that you should end it now before you get any more attached than you already are.
2006-06-16 01:26:25 · answer #2 · answered by Christy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he is a jerk, already making you make choices like that, between him or your family.
never turn your back on your family, your family will always be there for you, this guy may not, things might not work out for you in the future and so he is not guaranteed to stick around forever but your family is guarranteed to stay forever by your side.
your family is a part of you, find a guy that will accept that part of you too
2006-06-16 01:19:04 · answer #3 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him do you love so much? if he said, " yes i love you so much than he will not making you hard time choice at all." sometimes hang out with your family ask them why they did not like which part. ask him which part he doesn't like your family. that time you can figure out what is problem between them than. creater one activity both them join
2006-06-16 01:09:02 · answer #4 · answered by bong_hoa_2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋