does it make me gay if i like one other person of the same sex, but is not physically attracted to other females?
2006-06-15 17:59:36 · 9 answers · asked by MzChamillinator 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Yes, and let me tell you why.
Because it always starts with one.
Every lesbian or bisexual woman I know went through a "I don't like women I like one woman" phase early on. Then, over time, when feelings for the original woman faded, they fell for another woman. Then they said "huh".
I mean, I'm sure its possible that you're bucking the trend here, but I wouldn't bet money on it. From what I've seen, the "I like only one woman" phenomena is a way to tippy toe into gayness, while still holding onto the comforts and conformities of being straight. When you just like one woman, you don't have to come out, or be public about it, or be discriminated against, or be talked about behind your back, or be called names. So we hold on to that heterosexual privlegde for as long as we can, and who can blame us.
But don't close any doors on yourself, and realize that while appearing hetero does have privledges, it also has costs. Don't decide anything about who you are until you've walked (and f*cked) in this world a bit more.
2006-06-16 08:31:32 · answer #1 · answered by dani_kin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont think you can "make a gay". being attracted to the same sex is something that can't be denied. you can either work with the feelings or work against them. some people have problems either way. its all in how you let it affect your life.
2006-06-16 01:14:29 · answer #2 · answered by mm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, I read an article in some magazine about how women are genetically conditioned to have "crushes" on other women, they think it was a survival trait back when we all lived in caves.
2006-06-16 01:06:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it dosent. its probably cuz of her personality its that u love her as a close close friend or a person u would like to be friends with but not as a person u would love love but u just love to know or to be around. people love their friends but its not the same kind of love as you would love a boy. there are alot of diff kinda loves so u might be confused with them.
hope u undrestand.
2006-06-16 01:21:30 · answer #4 · answered by servant of AR-RAHIM mostMERCIFUL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya I'd say it was kind of lesbian. I mean it isn't right and it would be hard to tell, but I would say it was lesbian. But i would ask myself why do I like her, and I would talk to someone, like a parent or a counselor.
2006-06-17 18:28:47 · answer #5 · answered by VGW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're gay.
2006-06-19 14:27:59 · answer #6 · answered by Boy Wonder 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, i dont think it makes u gay.....i'm gay and i have crushes on girlz all the time.....thats confusing isnt it?.....yea well thats me
2006-06-16 01:08:53 · answer #7 · answered by sexyashell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope! i have crushes with both grlz and guyz too, its not wrong you know.
2006-06-16 01:03:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
straight <----------------> lesbian
and you are in here (^)
straight <------------^----> lesbian
which means that you're in your way about being a lesbian (or maybe bi)
2006-06-16 03:39:52 · answer #9 · answered by ..... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋