I am in love with someone who I should stop seeing, I am seeking the best way to break the cycle
2006-06-15 17:28:24 · 20 answers · asked by elskar 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The best way is the quick and permanent way. Tell him you cant see him and stick to your guns. Don't answer his calls or email. Avoid places he would normally frequent. It wont be easy but necessary to break it off quick and truthfully. He might get angry or try to persuade you to relent, DON'T allow it to continue!
Good Luck
2006-06-22 19:43:02 · answer #1 · answered by eldertrouble 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no good way.
It is going to hurt. I had to break the cycle with my husband knowing I had to. It was a second marriage and he was not a good man. I didn't spend enough time before marrying him to find out the truth until I was married. I gave him 3 times separated and get back together and the horrible lies and cycle continued.
There came the day when I knew I had to stop the cycle. I knew it wasn't good for me. I knew it wouldn't change and only I could do something about it. Once I got to that point I cried my eyes out the whole time but all I could say was I've had enough and I have to break the cycle or else it will just go on and on. I deserve better than that. I am healing now. It has been three years. They deserve to know why if you care about them or they care about you. Then you have to go and not look back, speaking of going forward with your life.
2006-06-23 15:53:33 · answer #2 · answered by sweetpea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You stop it within your heart. Some people believe that just the in thought of cheating shows the intent of your heart. People are and will get hurt from this. What is the devoid in your life that draws you to cheat? Any time you sleep with someone other than your partner you will bring something to your bedroom and lover. It may not be sexually transmitted but it is foreign to your partner. Could your partner know, but choose to look the other way? Are you feeling secure in your relationship, but bored for attention? Is this a pattern with you or a one time deal? Do you have any remorse or do you make excuses for your affair? All ways take a complicated situation and break it down into questions like I did. Then answerer your questions with yes or no answeres. That should be able to help you. Any time you sleep with someone you will develop feelings. When you get caught you can't take it back. This will pull your relationship back words. Are you ready for that?
2006-06-15 17:56:30 · answer #3 · answered by LadyRedWild 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stop. Don't call him or take his calls. Don't go to his house or his work or wherever it is you've been meeting him. Don't let him come over to see you. Don't have internet contact with him. Don't "drive by" to check up on him. If you really want the cycle to end, you will make an honest effort to stop it.
2006-06-24 19:44:09 · answer #4 · answered by Samba Queen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am the same, i love him.. he is married.. and its been two weeks 4 days that ive managed to dodge al calls texts and emails. its so hard! i wanna just pick up the fone, but i no that if i ever speak 2 him again, within 10 mins, iyl be back with him.. but im doing okay so far.. ive been going to the gym.. and just going out with my m8s or having a mate with me most of the time, hitting my bed at 11, havent eaten dinner alone yet.. just keeping myself busy.. its so hard,.. i no.. im trying my best.. i love him so much.. but u can do it... it just takes time.. and even though its been only more than two weeks, its getting easier.. im constant calls from him, today, it was 27 til he's given upm i have 6 voicemails and 13 texts.. ive not picked up any calls, deleted the texts without reading them.. and not dared opened my voicemail! its hard .. really.. im not gonna lie...but its getting better.. uyl get there.. al the best, and wish me the same.. we can do it....
2006-06-26 09:11:42 · answer #5 · answered by lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are probably in love with the dream..... not the reality. Or did you forget that you at one point felt like this about the man whom you are cheating on? End it. Don't cause yourself more grief and stress that you are obviously experiencing with your present "relationship". The lawn looks greener on the other side, but you have not yet seen the problems with that lawns upkeep.
2006-06-15 17:48:15 · answer #6 · answered by Josi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think he has a wife. Why don't you tell someone that your having affair and if you do not seeing him, then your friend will tell the wife. Just a idea
2006-06-15 17:35:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's your reason for your other Relationship that make's you want to cheat on him,Think about what you are doing if your other man is not what you want then
by all means move on to the one you are inlove with
it may just workout for you both,because i did the samething that you are doing right now and i am with the
one i had the affair with he live's with me now.
2006-06-27 12:10:50 · answer #8 · answered by wendi_timney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell the other person it's over.
if this keeps going on what do you have to lose.is it worth it.
are you married ?
If he finds out whats going to happen?
what if you bring home something like the crab's,, or something that will never be cured.
IT MAY BE FUN BUT IF YOU ARE NOT HAPPY GET OUT BUT IF YOU ARE HAPPY THAN GROW UP..
2006-06-15 17:40:08 · answer #9 · answered by gbinnicker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk away and dont look back and ever talk to or contact them again. This is the best way!
2006-06-16 00:54:59 · answer #10 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋