I need people with personal experience... anyone out there that has kids, and is trying to meet someone new.. have you found that most guys will shy away from you after you tell them you have kids.. or do they seem not to care?
2006-06-15 17:06:50 · 10 answers · asked by emeraldeyesmiles 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am not even saying that I'm going to run right out to look for someone else, my kids are my number one priority and will always be. Their happiness comes before anything else. I would stay alone for the rest of my life if it meant that they would be happy.
2006-06-15 17:24:55 · update #1
not meeting anyone.. not even divorced.. just curious as to how it is out there for us women.
2006-06-15 17:52:31 · update #2
It really depends on where you go looking for the guys, if you go to the bar you will probably find guys who like to drink and get lucky. If you go to places where you can take your kids with you you might find guys around that have kids, or at least like being around them.
Just make sure any guy you date knows you have children from the beginning, don't hide it from them
2006-06-15 17:13:46 · answer #1 · answered by Alan Winans 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand you might be lonely, or sad or something, but where are your priorities? A guy who shys away after knowing you have the biggest blessings in the world? You would want someone like that? Why are "guys" and your "kids" even in the same sentence right now? Your kids are experiencing loss and pain too. It's time for you to put your arms around your little ones and let them know you're there for them forever...if they even THINK you're looking to date right now, the sense of insecurity could be really harmful. You had these wonderful people, it's time to think of them first and please trust me, if you keep your priorities straight, the rest will follow. TRUST me it will...Don't be worrying about being alone right now, these little ones don't want to be deserted either! And you never said how old they are, but the age doesn't really matter, separation is loss for everyone no matter the age.
2006-06-16 00:22:51 · answer #2 · answered by Sidoney 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When i was dating as a single mom if the guy did not accept the kids as part of me and of the relationship I dumped em flat lol! If they shy away they are not worth it anyway. But not all guys are like this my husband loved me and the kids when he got to know me and he is a great dad to them and he has loved and raised my youngest daughter since she has been 2 months of age as her deadbeat father wants absolutley nothing to do with her! He has never even wanted to meet or see her. My husband is her daddy and that is all that matters!
2006-06-16 07:22:48 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
through experience i have found that women with kids do not have a hard time finding a guy. men are usually very accepting of a woman who is raising a child or two on her own, its almost expected that a woman will have one or two kids or so at a certain age.
men are like disposable heroes, they come in and stay till they are replaced, like a general recyclery practically, most men have come to accept this and do not shy away from a woman with kids.
on the other hand, i have found that women shy away from a guy who has kids, especially if he is raising them on his own, gets kind of wierd, but tis ok, i'll stay on my own
2006-06-16 00:31:19 · answer #4 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents without partners hold regular picnics on weekends. You could probably make some good friends there (both sexes).
The people there know what to expect, so if someones interested they already know your situation.
But most guys will not shy away, perhaps you are meeting the wrong kind of guys in the wrong kind of places.
2006-06-16 00:48:33 · answer #5 · answered by Kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I was pregnant with my 5 child when I met my husband. My baby is 3 1/2 months and we have been married 1 1/2 months. We are so happy.
2006-06-16 00:12:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most at least do the gentleman thing and act like they don't care.
Slowly they are suprised that they really don't care, be patient and be truthful.
If you're a kind open person it won't be difficult - Chin up!
P.S. - Always make your kids number one.
2006-06-16 00:10:47 · answer #7 · answered by La_Belle_LadyR99 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys do not shy away. The problem is that they think single moms are lonely, desperate, and horny. They think we are easy targets so beware!!!!!
2006-06-16 00:09:48 · answer #8 · answered by southernlisa37 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
can you blame them Their not their children that's why divorce is so stupid.
2006-06-16 00:10:14 · answer #9 · answered by bigblock_475_hp d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some of us don't care.
2006-06-16 00:08:59 · answer #10 · answered by Dusty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋