they always act like they live a perfect relationship, well I had this talk with my friend and said that everyone is the same it is whether you are verbal and honest about your relash or not ??what do u think?
2006-06-15 16:55:10 · 16 answers · asked by seniorcaredallas@yahoo.com 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Everyone's relationship is different (wow, I should get 10 points for THAT shining example of a BEST answer!!), meaning my sister and bro-in-law who have the perfect, easiest, in love relationship, they've been together for years. THEY ARE IT on the marriage meter. My husband & I, we don't fight constantly, but when we disagree, we fight, and it's loud and passionate and everyone is always saying we're one step away from divorce court, which we did. And now we're back together and My sister and brother in law are dunzo, gone; two separate states, never to be again. The pressure of being the perfect couple was too much for them. While my husband and me? I agree with someone before me who said if you can laugh you've got it mastered. We still make each other laugh, we've made a committment to stay together and we now have a codeword that if we're fighting and it's not even about the fight, it's just being hurtful, we say the Buzzword and we stop and usually crack up! (Plus all that lost passion is great for make-up sex!) No one knows what goes on in a marraige other than the two primary people involved...
2006-06-15 17:10:22 · answer #1 · answered by Sidoney 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well there maybe couples that may not have alot of issues like some couples, but I'm sure that they don't have a "perfect" relationship.. I dont believe there is such a thing. Some people are just better at working out their problems than others.
I believe your friend is right to a point too though, some people will make their problems known.. and others won't.
Nothing and no one in this world is perfect.
2006-06-16 00:00:09 · answer #2 · answered by emeraldeyesmiles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are happy in our marriages yes but there is not Perfect relationship or marriage as there is no perfect person or couple! You have to choose to work out your differences or not and yes honesty and communication has alot to do with it of course! Marriage is what you make of it and loving and working it out is a choice! If you need help in your marriage seek marriage counseling as well. The reason why some marriages seem perfect is because the couple has resloved in their hearts and minds to make their marriage a top priority in their lives and work together on things through the good times and the bad! If it is worked at and on and it is the first relationship on this earth other then your relationship with God marriage will become heaven on earth! Every couple and marriage has their good times and their bad it is how they face and work on the bad times that will make or break the marriage relationship!
2006-06-16 07:17:46 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married for 10 years and everyone thought we were the perfect couple. My coworkers, family, and friends thought I had the perfect husband because I hid the truth. When he ran off with another woman, everyone was very shocked. I learned that I had suffered alone for so many years when I didn't need to. If I had let people in on the truth, then someone would have been able to help me and give advice.
2006-06-16 00:05:39 · answer #4 · answered by southernlisa37 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dunno. We have a very fun relationship and we're probably the type of couple that you're talking about.
If I'm trying to figure out if a couple has a good relationship, I look for an element of fun. My husband and I have a lot of fun. We know how to tease eachother so we laugh, we know when to stop. People at church and other places where we're known as a couple come up to us and ask how long we've been married and tell us that we look so much in love.
We argue sometimes. Mainly about whether or not it's a good time to argue. I always look forward to seeing him, though.
2006-06-16 00:04:38 · answer #5 · answered by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that relationships are as varied as the people who live in them. Do I think that any marriage is perfect? No, because there are no perfect people. Do I think that there are some marriages that are more functional and harmonious than others, absolutely. My husband and I have a very good marriage, we have excellent communication skills, we rarely argue and when we do disagree it doesn't spiral down into the screaming, yelling, name calling matches that I witness in so many other marriages. We're respectful towards one another, even when we don't necessarily agree.
2006-06-16 00:05:23 · answer #6 · answered by RMarcin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear nothing is perfect. Marriage is something you work at. It takes good commucation and just being honest with one another. People that have the perfect relationship on the surface are often a mess underneath. It just might take you to scratch underneath the surface to find it. It is very true and your friend is very wise.
2006-06-16 00:01:40 · answer #7 · answered by clarnely_2001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think all relationships are the same because you have abusive, infidelity, and the list goes on, theres even relationships that contain all that bad stuff, BUT most relationships deal with the same problems,its just most ppl wont be honest about it and also ppl work out problems different ways.
2006-06-16 00:01:20 · answer #8 · answered by cherrybc032000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are right every couple has their ups and downs some people chose not to display their problems in front of others but behind closed doors everyone will have disagreements about something, unless you are beaver cleaver!
2006-06-16 00:20:41 · answer #9 · answered by roughgar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some married couples are truly happy. Others fake it. Everyone and every relationship is different.
2006-06-16 00:07:14 · answer #10 · answered by gator 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋