Someone please help ???

Question

I hate my life... my job... my faimily...

I wish either I was dead or start my life all over again...

Answer 1

You sound depressed and suicidal. Hon, get help. It's not here. Good luck

Answer 2

So whats keeping you from starting over? Just "re-invent" yourself, what do you like to do? Find a job that has that in it, or create that job.
Just because you are born to a certain set of parents, doesn't mean that your blood line is the only way to have family. Pick some others. Ones that will support you and lead you in the right direction. Ones that will tell you when you are wrong, and lift you when you are down. Then be kind to your blood line, be loyal, treat them like you want to be treated, respect them, and usually you will get it back. Pray for them. Maybe you just don't need to hang out with them as much if they are always on your last nerve.
I seriously doubt you wish you were dead. Just went to yet another funeral. The guy was only in his 20's and had a son that I'll bet he'd have loved to have had the chance to raise. I saw the little boy crying over by the casket.... That's a broken heart. Everything else can be fixed. Death cannot.
So, good luck on starting over.

Answer 3

Do you feel this way frequently? If so, please get to a mental health professional and get some help. Have your family doctor refer you, or call the suicide hotline (1-800-SUICIDE) and they'll refer you to some local organizations.

Of course, you could just need to make some positive changes in your life. What job do you have now? What job would you rather have? What steps do you need to take to get that job? Do you need to further your education, take a few classes, get on-the-job training?

Do you like where you're living? If not, where would you rather live? If you get a better job (or a promotion in the job you have), could you afford to move? How much would it cost?

What do you hate about your family? Are they abusive to you, do they ignore your needs because they expect you to look after them? Is there anything you can do to change this? You need to write down everything that you want to accomplish. This will help you see clearly what changes need to be made and give you some goals on which to focus. It IS possible to start a new life, but you have to be willing to take some steps yourself. I hope I helped!

Answer 4

I wonder how old you are. Life can't be all that bad if it is, you need professional help-someone impartial who can sit and listen and ask WHY you hate you life, your job, your family. Are you suffering from depression and need to handle that - it is not a taboo to accept that and deal with it.

Life is tooooo wonderful to want to miss a thing. Your time will come soon enough.

In the meantime, find meaning to your life. Try to un-focus from yourself - and help others. Go for the 'us' versus 'the me'. It is summer, which means so much is happening that you can help with: (1) Habitat for Humanity will be building houses in your community, I am sure. In our little town they are building 5!; (2) volunteer at Red Cross, Shelters, food bank -- somewhere where you can truly see that 'maybe' your life isn't all that bad.

You job: if you don't like it but can't change right now (no options) then you need to enroll in a class or two - they don't have to be towards a degree....but maybe a certification of sorts so that you can in time change your job. So see this job as a venue to a new and better one (it will pay for your schoooling).

Your family:My mother, God bless her soul, used to tell me (and today at 50+ I still remember when things get 'bleak' these words): 1) there is ALWAYS a light at the end of the tunnel. Things HAVE to get really bad before they get better!, (2) and we don't get the luxury of chosing our families - we are stuck with them. Nobody says you have to love and like them...but you have to respect them (if older) and deal with it - nothing you can do about THEM...BUT you have power over what YOU can do for yourself.

So start with small steps: go for an hour walk several times a week - it will increase the serotonin level in your brain which alters your mood. Eat chocolate (that definitely helps). Eat healthy (NO JUNK food or carbs for a while - veggies/fruit/fat free stuff, no sodas) ---- diet has a lot to do with attitude. Join a class - something you can do and get lots of money for (medical transcriptionist, medical billing clerk, who is hiring in your town? what skills do they need? something you don't know about computers? Go to the technical scool and take a course.

Change the home or room where you live - get a couple of pilllows, remove the trash, clean out your closets - make it shine.

Turn off that TV and even the computer - read a book, listen to music - Take a danicing lesson and get to meet some fun folks.

If you can, plant some flowers, veggies....see life come alive before you.

Do you know that hospitals need 'rockers' for crack babies ? Volunteer an hour or 2 a week to do this ---- as you rock that child, look at how wonderfully they are formed - how special they are. They need you.

You don't need to stick around your family if you don't like them - make new friends (see my recommendations above and you will meet folks) - BUT also at the same time ask yourself, WHY do I hate them? Have I told them? Do I need to just, for a while, stop seeing them?

Good luck and remember, YOU HAVE THE POWER and ONLY YOU to change this attitude. IF it is medical problem, go seee a doctor!!! NOW!!!

Answer 5

Start by taking stock of what you DO like, and recognize that EVERYONE feels down and out at some point in their life.
Deal with what you ARE, see the good in what you HAVE, and a good place to start with that is having faith, and communicating properly with your family.
Can YOU do something to make THEM feel better about THEMSELVES?
Can you help one of your neighbours or someone at work? Concentrating on helping OTHERS will make you think LESS about how sad a case YOU are. You need some self-esteem, try it, you'll like it.

Try changing jobs if you can. Some jobs suck worse than others, but anything that is WORK is worthwhile, even though it is apparently a human condition that the grass is always greener on the OTHER side of the fence.

Answer 6

WHOA!! Stop right there. Everyone feels like this from time to time. Everyone has hated their life, job, family etc. You have to stay focused on the things in your life that are good. they may seem insignificant, but you will look back and thank god they were there. This feeling WILL pass. Don't ever say you wish you were dead. You really don't wish that. Hang in there. It'll get better. Promise.

Answer 7

Feeling sorry for yourself isn't getting you anywhere. You need to look around and see how many people are much worse off than you are...
You can always start life over again. Simply change the way you are doing things and start by getting a more positive attitude.

Answer 8

If you really wished you were dead, you'd have probably done something about it...

Things got bad one thing at a time, you should probably try making it better that same way. Wallowing in your own misfortunes will only encourage you to see the negative. Change your routine, get a new hobby, or help somebody worse off. There's plenty that can be done to help you see that things really aren't as bad as they seem.

Answer 9

Don't wish you were dead. If you don't like your life at this moment, do something new,fun, exciting, something you normally would not do. Look into a different job, you don't have to stick to something you don't enjoy doing. Talk with your family about how you feel.

Answer 10

It is your life and you have the ability to change it.

Fill your life with things that you want to do, not what you should have in it.

If you hate your job so much, find one that you want to do, something that you love doing.

Your family you are stuck with. But you can move away from them for timeout.

Good luck.

Answer 11

Well honey life is never more than we can handle i have had a hard life just keep your head up and u will get through it is u believe in a higher power then pray.