I have been with my husband for over 4 yrs and it is going down hill. I hate because there are times I think of my ex's. It really sucks. I think I am somewhat still in love but like a little. And I know I do not want to split for my kids and because I do not think we have worked to much on it. Well, I am pretty unhappy in all the aspects of the realtionship-- he is becoming too macho and is always telling me things like you are gaining weight and who in the hell would want someone like you. You know I like romantic guys and he has killed all the desire to be with him. I know I have to because I do not hold my tongue too much-- I say what I have to say. I know I am wrong but he makes me sick-- it is like i can't even stand his presence. And I have tried to work on it. But the more I work on it he starts with stupid comments and attitudes. He tells me I am the best thing you ever had in your life. And I feel like just screaming and letting him have it but he always starts crying.
2006-06-15 16:09:19 · 5 answers · asked by maria l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
hmm this question is actually helping me more than my answer would help you. But I think that taking a break and separating for a bit without getting divorced is a good idea. Then I, just like you, would try really hard to keep working on it, and after getting some more strength - come back and battle some more. But if that still doesnt get through to him - leave him, see if he understands the seriousness of the situation that way
2006-06-16 04:11:07 · answer #1 · answered by Jackie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would imagine that if your kids were not in the picture you would have left him by now? Is there anywhere you can go to at least be separated for a while to show your seriousness in the situation? You want to do what is best for you because ultimately if you are happy(happier) then this will be healthier for your kids than staying with someone you are unhappy with. This unhappiness will rub off on your kids I imagine. I agree that his insecurities are part of what makes him insult you. Do not feed into this as hard as it is. Know that you can make it without him. No one said that this would be easy, but you cannot let him treat you and talk to you like ****.
2006-06-15 18:00:09 · answer #2 · answered by Josi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like u need to be looking for a door to leave, there is alot of anger in ur question, time to stick a fork in this one , its done
2006-06-15 16:20:32 · answer #3 · answered by charlesjerrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yoiu know the old saying, you can only change yourself, it is only his own low self esteem, and he is trying to bring you down to his level, he obviously scared to lose you, or he wouldnt be crying.
2006-06-15 16:14:15 · answer #4 · answered by vespa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I KNOW JUST HOW YOU FEEL. THE BEST THING YOU COULD DO IS TO DIVORCE HIM AND PROVE TO HIM THAT YOU AND YOUR CHILDREN WILL DO JUST FINE WITHOUT HIM AND THEN HE WILL SEE THAT YOU WERE THE BEST THING THAT HAPPENED TO HIM
2006-06-15 16:15:30 · answer #5 · answered by <<SEXY MOMMA>> 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋