The situation is this: My wife is working for a local nursing care home as a CNA. A little over a year ago, the place became unionized by the S.I.E.U. and because"no one else wanted the job", she got "elected" as the CNA union representative. Fine. Everything was proceeding apace with a few annoyances, and the union's business was conducted on the telephone via "conference calls". But as the year woreon, these conference calls became somewhat unworkable, because there were quite a large number of union reps of the line, some working at noisy nurse's stations during the conference calls, and it was almost impossible to get any business done. So it was decided that the union reps would all come together in Oakland(we're in Bakersfield, California) for these negotiating sessions. The parent company of the facil;ity where my wife works is Kindred Healthcare, and after initially granted some modest wage increases, they have dug in their heels and refused to go any higher.
2006-06-15 15:46:26 · 6 answers · asked by UCSteve 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Now, this is all background. The problem is, last month, my wife had to get up at 3:30am in the morning, take a ride in the district Representative's truck to LAX, plane to Oakland, conference all day, plane back to LAX, and a tired truck ride back to Bakersfield with a TAILGATING "Enrique" arriving at our house at 10:00 PM, for which the union is paying only 8 hours compensation, for what is essentially an 18 hour day, me and our son worried for her safety, disrupting our sleep in the middle of the week, and so forth. No, jealousy is not the issue. I just feel this union is using her like a tool, and it's time for someone else to step up and take over, if this is a real union. She's been at it for over a year, so I think she served her time. Well we had a big fight but I think I finally, calmly explained my point of view and she agreed to resign by 9-1-06. I'm writing the letter of resignation for her(she asked me to do so). Did I do the right thing? I usually don't make such
2006-06-15 15:53:45 · update #1
an issue. Thanks for your sincere input. By the way, I'm not crazy about S.I.E.U as it is really left-radical leaning, immigration rights, socialist in its views, and I'm not.
My wife just wants more money. Thank for your input.
2006-06-15 15:55:33 · update #2
Bottom line, I forbid her to take any more truck trips with Enrique, and told her she needed to resign the union rep job as of 91-06.
2006-06-15 16:00:23 · update #3
How about supporting her? She may realize that she is in over her head. But to keep working at it without the pay may mean that she really believes in what she is doing. You can help her by not being negative and putting her down for her ambitions. She may be helping someone who really needs it. You don't have to agree with her but leave her the right to do it. Money is obviously not she is aiming for. Sit down with her and calmly discuss with her your concerns. Make some concessions and make her feel that she is still worthy of your love. When you argue, hold each others hands. You did it when you first cared for each other. Bring that back to the marriage. Women need to respected for their contributions. She has enough people against her in the world. You need to be her safe place.
2006-06-15 16:26:04 · answer #1 · answered by Good 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I dont get your question... how are you supposed to "correct" her? This is part of th responsabilities she accepted as a member of the union. I assume she is an adult and can make her own desicions. If not, maybe you should let her take care of business and learn by trial and error. If the position is more than she can handle then she should resign it, but only if this is something she wants to do.
If she is bringing you this concern she may be just venting her ander and frustration. In that case, listen, be supportive and let it go...
2006-06-15 15:54:53 · answer #2 · answered by An Opinionated One 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your opinion on what you feel is right shouldn't be disrepectful for her. you being her husband thats part of your job and hers as a wife to repect the fact that you care enough to say something.why don't she just start looking around and find something else? sounds like she has enough behind her belt to find something that will take her higher than what she's at now
2006-06-15 15:54:12 · answer #3 · answered by kansasgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got a little lost but in answer to your original question:
Flowers
Then brutal honesty.
Do not prolong the inevitable.
Good Luck!
2006-06-15 15:52:07 · answer #4 · answered by La_Belle_LadyR99 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What needs to be corrected? Oh well it doesn't matter. If you try to correct a woman , you won't get any sex for a couple of weeks.
2006-06-15 15:56:09 · answer #5 · answered by Answer_dude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not exactly sure where correcting your wife comes in.
2006-06-15 15:50:49 · answer #6 · answered by funny_girl_70 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋