Why do you feel there is so much divorce going on in the church and Christian families falling apart today ?

Question

I want to see feedback to this... This really has me curious!!!! Do our churches really have enough resources and things for couples to keep them together and to not even think of divorce as an option in marriage? What can be impoved upon in our churches to make this better!!!! I see so many couples not even sit together in church and that is sad! If as Christians we cannot be successfully married how can we teach non Christians and unsaved people how to work on theirs ?

Answer 1

Now that i have thought about this for a while i can answer it as best as i can and know how to. Here goes nothing lol! I feel because one of Satans main attacks that he wants to do on us as Christians is to destroy relationships that he really works on everyone especially parents and kids alike and he loves to do it to us as Christians and as families! The marriage and family represent untity and love and togetherness and Satan hates that as he wants divisions. hate and strife and bitterness! Sad part is we as Christians sometimes do not recongnize Satans attacks and when our eyes are not completely focused on God we will get weak and slip up and fall. Remember the eyes are the window to the soul so Satan will use tv and hollywood like Suggestive commercials or tv shows like soap operas or movies that show adultery as ok and everyone is cheating on everyone and that is ok! No it is not ok it is wrong but Hollywood and the world seems to think it is ok and normal. Satan also draws mens eyes to half naked women or men walking down the street or dress seductively instead of modesty and if we are not careful and check our emotions and thoughts we can easily keep looking and start lusting and wanting what we see and know we cannot have. Also porn and suggestive material is another way that satan will try and grab us! These are all Satan's way of trying to get to us and to make us think it is ok to do this and to lust and not be happy with our spouses. Then it does lead to adulterous thoughts and adultery ultimately ending up in seperation, divorce and destroying the marriage and family relationship that God has brought together. We as Christians need to be on quard every day with prayer and the Word of God and to keep or minds stayed and fixed upon God all day long so as we are less likely to fall and yield to the wiles and ways of the Devil!
On the other hand most churches do not have enough resources in the church for married couples and families today. I am so thankful that my church that my wife and I attend has videos and books on marriage that you can borrow and watch and learn from at home and our church also has family and marriage activities and events that happen periodically and two or 3 times a year they have couples Sunday School classes. We also have marriage seminars and weekends at our church once a year or so. Yes marriage is what you make of it but God has to be the center of the marriage or it will not be truley successful and it will be open to Satan's attacks and temptations .... We need to stay strong and Remember to keep our eyes and minds on God. One thing that really helped my wife and I in our marriage is a video series from Jimmy and Karen Evans called Rock Solid Marriage . It is a great series and very helpful and their website is http://www.marriagetoday.org This site is a great rescourse for married couples. A couple from our church has helped encourage us alot too with their testimony! We also are involved in the marriage ministries at our church as God has called us to do this . My wife wants to go to school and study to be a marriage counselor.
If we as Christians cannot stay commited and true to God and to our families and marriages then how will we ever be abld to really help hurting families and marriages of those that are lost and that don't have God in their marriages? Lets work on our hearts and lives and marriages and relationships and then try to help and reach the world! Remember sometimes the only Jesus they see is us!
Another sad fact is that when we have marrital problems we get too embarrased and will not seek the help and counseling that we need to save and work on our marriages. Christian marriage counseling is very much needed and a great resourse and alot of Pastors and pastors wives do it for free!

Answer 2

1 John 5:19 "We know we originate with the Father, but the whole world is lying in the power of the wicked one."

Yes, Satan's influence is being felt everywhere, but certainly he attacks the divine institution of the marriage unit and family.

Also, today many people do not think that the Bible has up-to-date counsel on how to improve our marriages, even though it most certainly does. They go by 'self-help' books, or therapists that say 'do whatever makes YOU feel good'. They don't generally promote the selfless attitude needed to have a happy marriage.

Too, the role of women has changed. They are now trying to be 'equals' and have also entered the workplace. But actually the scriptures say at 1Corinthians 11:3 "The head of the woman is the man, the head of the man is Christ." So the husband is the head of his family, but this does not mean that he gets to rule the roost his way. He also has a head, that being the Christ, so he is accountable for how he treats his wife and his family. 1 Peter 3:7 says "in order for his prayers not to be hindered". (I think it's 1 Peter anyway... I'm just typing this from memory at the moment.) If he exercises his headship in a way that provides all the spiritual, material and emotional needs of his family and wife, she will find it rewarding and easier to respect him, and therefore won't vie for the role of the head in the family and supports his headship. That is how the family was designed. This does put most of the responsibility on the man, and I think men lately in general have stopped being caring leaders sensitive to their families needs. (Selfishness being a big part of that.)

The two most important requirements for a happy marriage are love and respect for each other, and a real sense of commitment, not thinking 'ok well I'll just divorce and do what's good for me.' Now, sometimes there are certainly valid reasons and justification for divorce and separation, especially where domestic violence and abuse (including emotional) are involved. However, it would be good to try and save the marriage first, which most people don't bother doing. (If you do, kudos to you, you can feel that you did everything you possibly have could of, and that brings blessing from God.)

God hates a divorcing. Let's take our committments and vows seriously and make every effort to love and respect our mates. I'm going to go love on mine right now...

Answer 3

You know in this day and age of computers, televisions, game systems..ect.. I find that our energy goes towards that instead of your spouse. How easy is it to turn on a computer and get lost? Tune into the t.v. program you are watching? Families no longer eat at the table, which helps bring them closer together. When a family starts seperating in little ways, it drifts everyone away, and then they become strangers in the same house hold. Now turn off the computer,t.v and eat at the table.. You now have to talk, look and listen. No one takes the time anymore... you need to MAKE the time...I feel that todays familys are falling apart because it is accepted to just give up and not try.

Answer 4

Nobody gets married for the right reason any more, they all do it just to get married. We need to put a little more weight in the words we say and think about them BEFORE we say them. It's sad to see couples that start out totally infatuated with each other fall apart in six months or a year. Take your time people whats the rush? More than that, Whats the appeal?

Answer 5

Why do you feel it is your fault? I will be blunt, and this is not to be cruel but most people won't tell you this, SOMETIMES kids do cause marriages to fail. Kids are a major stress on a married couple. I suggest this: Write down why you think you are the cause. Then remove that cause from your parents relationship. Odds are they will still have problems. If not the cuase you wrote done, then it would be something else. Very rarely does a child cause that level of damage in a marriage.

Answer 6

people have changed so much, things that were not accepted years ago, are now done in everyday life, but we as human beings have strayed from the church and the way our parents and grandparents were raised, sometimes change is good, but alot of it is not, i blame alot on our court system and people who do not stand up for there rights, this is the only country, the usa, where everyones rights are taken away and givin to someone else in order to change something that didnt need changing in the first place

Answer 7

frist thing i have been married for almost 9 years now and my husband and I both think the reason why we are still together and still going strong is because God is the center of our marriage and we both were brought in christian household's were our parents both went to church and brought us up in the church.

it's like it is said until death do us part marriage is forever.

Answer 8

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