i met this guy and he is so amazing but i want to know if he really wants to be with me what do i do about this?
2006-06-15 14:59:11 · 24 answers · asked by reddishlady29 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to either dump the guy and save your marriage or be honest with your husband and let him go and go on with your life. Do not play your husband this way it just is not right! If it were me i would dump the boyfriend and reconcile and work on my marriage with my husband and stop looking elsewhere!
2006-06-15 15:03:33 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OK. I will go out on a limb here and describe what I think led up to this relationship. Maybe you weren't getting the compliments, affection, and attention you so deserved from your husband. This man found you attractive and started complimenting you on your beauty or whatever. In your mind your thinking wow my husband hasn't told me this forever. He see's your gleam in your eye when you hear this and figures he should delve into your feelings. This continues to go on for a little while until ya'll go to lunch or dinner or maybe just a walk at a park. Now he has you where he wants you. Your vunerable. This guy has impressed you so much that the first kiss happens. It gives you flashbacks of a high school feeling and or a passion your missing in your life. Then maybe soo thereafter ya'll have sex. Wow feelings are better. Now ya'll are in love. yes he is a great guy but I am almost certain it is not love but more like lust.
Remember. I could be totally wrong. However, the big majority of affairs occur because something is lacking emotionally. They usually don't happen because of the sex. The emotional lacking leads to a bond and understanding which leads to a connection which leads to a massive awesome sex relationship that the vunerable one thinks is love. Just a thought.
2006-06-15 22:10:17 · answer #2 · answered by Baghdaddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously have either not been married long (under 5 years) or your marriage has gone sour or gotten boring and routine. It is natural to enjoy having the feeling once again of passionate new love with an exciting partner who seems to really understand you and want to please you. However it is all an illusion, if not self-delusion. You seem to actually care about your husband and/or your marriage. You also have doubts about this new guy.
I suggest you go visit a family or relationship therapist, one who will keep your situation confidential, and hash out your questions and the details of these two men and what you want from them. It is an investment that will pay for itself in your future happiness, and that of one or both of these men. If you can't be happy with husband, it doesn't mean that you will definitely be happy with new-guy.
If you decide to give up new-guy and work on your marriage, you have to make the sacrifice of being honest with hubby, and he must be totally honest with you, and it will not be easy, but it will likely be more rewarding than the "easy way out" with Mr. New-guy.
2006-06-15 22:57:07 · answer #3 · answered by im_a_fun_nut 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never leave one person for another. Forget about the new guy and exam your marriage. Do you still love your husband? Is that relationship over? If it is then you need to end your marriage regardless of the new person.
If the only "new" thing is the other guy then you are in trouble because the relationship with the other guy is already BAD. He's with a married woman...that doesn't say much for him.
2006-06-15 22:07:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you think that guy is so amazing....think again. He doesnt have respect enough to stay out of your marriage and away from you. I suggest if you no longer want your marriage, then get divorced. I'll almost bet that if you get divorced, he'll run. Some guys feel secure because the woman is married and therefore, there can be no REAL commitment for the two of you!
2006-06-15 22:07:01 · answer #5 · answered by Hope 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you have to make a decision about your husband. Stay or go? stay forget thre new man. Go...go through the whole thing about finding out what type aguy he is. Isuspect that if he knew you were married.....he isn't too serious about you. No one really knowa. You have some deciding to do. Be careful...you have opend a can of worms. You could just cheat on your husband.LOL
2006-06-15 22:06:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you even need to ask this question, you are obviously not in love, or never was, with your husband. If you have no children to consider, then I would tell your husband about it and try to resolve your relationship issues, other get a divorce.
If the love is gone, why prolong the agony. You're an adult that should know what to do.
2006-06-15 22:10:00 · answer #7 · answered by DarthFangNutts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forbidden fruit is always so amazing --- why? because you're all wrapped up in the excitement and thrill of doing something like that without your husband knowing....you probably fantasied about it too(be honest with yourself). You both fell in heat(passion) --- your home life is in a rut...
When the reality hits - you find yourself facing divorce --- upset family members, especially your spouse....
2006-06-15 22:13:37 · answer #8 · answered by jaimestar64cross 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, your question is a little vague. How long have you been seeing each other? What is going on in your marriage to lead you to see another man? How do you feel about your husband? I need more details in order to give you a better answer to your question.
2006-06-15 22:06:57 · answer #9 · answered by hbunch11 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Appreciate what you have now... your husband. A man will appeared to be amazing to you at first because what you been seeing now is wow, he is so perfect but after a period of time you see his true self because nobody is perfect in this world. As you are married, why not stay with your husband and love him whole heartily?? Faithfull husband are hard to find, when you got one, grab it tight.........don't let go.....
2006-06-15 22:13:20 · answer #10 · answered by rose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋