I had a longtime friend that I noticed was lying to me more and more about all sorts of things so I stopped talking to him. I had known him 25 years and the lying about everything all the time got so bad. Would you stop being friends with someone who lied all the time?
2006-06-15 14:46:06 · 47 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
everoyne gets one chance after that they are history.
2006-06-15 14:54:10 · answer #1 · answered by Calvin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would confront them about the lying...I don't know if it is lying about insignificant things or about really important issues. Sometimes people lie to make themselves appear better or more interesting, but you don't need that from a friend. Don't just stop being friends with this person without letting them know what the reason is...after 25 years your friendship deserves a chance to work out. Reassure your friend that he can be open and honest with you and that you won't judge him. Be open and honest and explain to him how the lies make you feel and that you don't think you can stay friends with someone who doesn't trust you enough to be truthful...that should hit home. If he still continues lying, he does not value your friendship enough, so I wouldn't bother staying friends.
2006-06-29 11:33:39 · answer #2 · answered by sexy_devil 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, why have a friend who lies to you. They obviously have a lot to hide. Why put your brain through the stress of whether or not what their saying is a lie or not.
It is much nicer being around people who are real, and their are plenty of them out there.
Also I have from experience, found liar's are thieves and thieves are liars.
If you've been missing things here and there, chances are the liar has them.
And sometimes the liar won't steal from you but will steal from people you introduce them to, Then your other friend asks, Do you know if lire would take something that doesn't belong to them or not? Since they haven't stolen from you you tell them, No.
But when lire gets asked, Liar uses you for a scape goat and says something like "Well they've been known to take things here and there."
Now your friend is now liars friend and you don't hear from them any more, no one but liar sticks by you. So you the unsuspecting innocent is there for the next time liar steals.
Get rid of the jerk.
2006-06-29 01:35:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I had a friend in high school who didn't seem to be able to help but lie. These lies weren't about anything that were to his benefit they were just lies. Being young I could not understand this and eased out of the friendship because I was so shocked at his behavior. With age I realized that he had a problem and needed help. However I still would have distanced myself from him but I wouldn't have judged him. A true friend would have been honest with him and suggested he get some help.
2006-06-28 13:59:24 · answer #4 · answered by Alan B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think constant lying would be a buzz kill ... some people are users and will lie to use you. If you are really my friend, you should be able to tell me what you really think. Because I will still be your friend, no matter what. If I can't trust you to tell me the truth about what you really did with the twenty bucks I gave you, or why you have that bruise on your face, or what you were doing when we were supposed to have dinner together, then it is going ot be hard to have real friendship. I feel sorry for people who don't know how to have friends.
2006-06-19 17:59:59 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, i did. Every once in a while we meet up at a function or go somewhere together but they're spaced out. It's hard and it sucks because sometimes she was fun and other times she was lying. I would suggest cutting most strings with this person if it dosen't stop and you've talked to him about it. But still keep in touch: at a distance. Good luck.
2006-06-29 03:16:53 · answer #6 · answered by scrdudie7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would first let them know that I know they're lying and then ask them why are they lying so much. But, I couldn't remain friends with a liar because I like to have people around that I can trust. Keep in mind, you can't trust all people.
2006-06-15 14:49:54 · answer #7 · answered by CuriousGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've known them so long but only noticed this recently perhaps they have developed a mental health problem. If so, now is probably not the best time to stop being friends.
2006-06-29 13:46:58 · answer #8 · answered by V. I. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always ask, what's the most loving thing for me, and if it is to still talk to my friend that lies to me, and then just trust them to lie...then ok, but I often noticed that in that situation I choose to keep the friendship very shallow.....for me if I have a friend that lies to me often, I usually choose out of the friendship
2006-06-15 14:50:50 · answer #9 · answered by jjrrkk_01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A friend does not lie to you about anything, I've been in the same situation myself. It will not get any better, only worse so why waste your time on a liar??? So look at it this way you don't have to stop being friends with him.... He's already stopped being friends with you when he started lieing to you.
2006-06-15 14:58:11 · answer #10 · answered by Texas 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like an opportunity to screw with someone's head. Tell a bunch of lies of your own, Make him expand on his lies and get them so big he can't remember the details, all sorts of fun things to do.
2006-06-15 14:51:45 · answer #11 · answered by normobrian 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋