2006-06-15 14:23:16 · 13 answers · asked by applecheeks 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, it does NOT. It may mean that you need to speak with your doctor and/or a counselor. We went through that, and it turned out that I was feeling, um, not so sexy any more. We both went to a marriage counselor for a few months, and it has worked out fine. I'm SO glad we were honest with each other, and took it to our doctor. Good luck.
2006-06-15 14:28:57 · answer #1 · answered by Just Curious 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
No, I don't think that Love should be reduced to sexual intercourse ... perhaps there is another reason why a person would hate having sex with a partner. I would say that I can Love someone, but not be sexually attracted to that person, and it doesn't mean that I am "just friends" either It could be more of a brother-daughter, or mother-son relationship (not actually, but just not a sexual relationship)... I mean, who would want to have sex when it feels like it's not right? Sure, it can be done, but after a while, I might end up hating it.
Yet, sometimes Love calls us to do things that we don't want to do, and find ways to accept things that we haven't thought of. If I convince yourself that I hate it, I certainly will. If I don't try to explore why there is hatred, I will simply feed the sensation of hating sex with the partner. Perhaps it's a good time to do some exploration of self ... openly, honestly, and be ready to answer some tough questions in order to get to the truth.
2006-06-15 15:29:11 · answer #2 · answered by Earl G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex & love are 2 diff. things! That said, you have a serious problem, not something you can just "learn to live with." If you 2 are doing something that hurts you or that makes you feel guilty, or if he just can't satisfy you, then you could benefit from a sex therapist and/or a relationship therapist. If it goes deeper - like, you hate sex period or you have a loss of libido/sex-drive - then you need to be honest with yourself and with your partner and decide if you should remain a couple.
Love is very complicated and it is possible to want to be with someone, even be intimate with them to some extent or with certain boundaries, without having/enjoying sex with them. It is also possible to enjoy sex with someone you either don't know or don't want to have any kind of rel. with beyond carnal pleasure.
The true test of love between 2 people is whether or not you can work out your differences and build a life together that is rewarding/happy for both of you. This is not easy and takes a huge commitment from you both, esp. in the long-term. Sex is one of many areas of possible conflict that you will face as a couple, and if you can't see eye to eye, then you should split up rather than make each other miserable.
2006-06-15 15:36:13 · answer #3 · answered by im_a_fun_nut 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you know if you love your partner or not. Are you in love with your partner? Maybe that's what you need to ask yourself. Sometimes we just get tired of what seems to be routine in our lives. Try to spice things up a bit. Tell your partner, that you want to do something different. Try role playing. Anything that's going to give the spice back. Good Luck!
2006-06-15 14:40:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily. Do you enjoy, or did you enjoy sex with your partner at one time, or has it always been unpleasant? Have you ever had an enjoyable sexual experience? If you want to stay married, maybe you need to spice up the relationship, some wine, some candles, a naked all over body massage might help. Just a thought.
2006-06-15 14:26:56 · answer #5 · answered by wild1handy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends, do you hate their performance, their scent, their body, or just being around them? If it's any of the first ones, then no it doesn't mean you don't love them. However if it's the actual intimacy that is a turnoff, you definetely need to reconsider your position within the relationship.
2006-06-15 14:25:16 · answer #6 · answered by opticalnoise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, that's definitely not normal. It doesn't mean you don;t love them, but there is certainly something wrong with that! Is he just bad? Have you just recently lost interest? What happened? Do you normally have a good attitude about sex? There are too many unanswered qustions...
2006-06-15 14:26:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it does mean you don't love them completely. You should want to be intimate with a person you love enough to marry. If you don't love them enough to share your body with them, then you need to be with someone else. The lack of intimacy will slowly undermine your relationship. He, may be deeply hurt that you feel this way, and seek a sexual relationship with someone that validates his sexual skills. Or, maybe you have to love him enough to teach him what makes you climb the walls. Teach a man to fish... (bad analogy) (and that was bad too) lol
2006-06-15 14:35:49 · answer #8 · answered by bluejtrain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need attraction in your relationship to make it work. If that person doesn't attract you, how can you feel good about being with them? I think you can love them, but it feels more like a big brother or sister. I have a friend who has this same problem, and I wonder everyday how she snuggles up to her hubby or even kisses him good bye with out feeling uncomfortable and eventually lonely.
2006-06-15 14:40:12 · answer #9 · answered by Kymmi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it does not. Everybody is different. Some people cannot stand sex all together, get bored easily, or just do not need it accept for reproduction purposes.
~Travieza
2006-06-15 15:01:18 · answer #10 · answered by Yuri ^_^ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋