I caught my wife in a lie today. Not a big lie but a lie. How do I ever trust her again?

Question

I went to pick her up from work today. I was there already and she called me on my cell phone and told me she had to stay late. she was standing out side with a few male co-workers. I love her and i feel knots in my stomach from this. Any advice

Answer 1

Follow her to whatever bar, etc, she goes to and just walk in a few minutes after her and say "Hi, honey, I thought you were working late so I came down here for a drink, what the ____ are you doing here?

Answer 2

Hmm...I don't see how you "caught" her in a lie. If you saw her at a bar with a group of her male co-workers when she was telling you she was working late, then yes, that's a lie. But standing outside with a bunch of them, at work, doesn't mean she was lying. The best way to know what's going on is to let her tell you what happened. Tell her (in a sweet way) that you wish she would have called you sooner, because you had already driven all the way there and actually saw her outside when you got her call...So then you had to turn around and go home. If she gets nervous, or acts weird, then you probably caught her, but see if she says anything about hanging out with her co-workers...it might be nothing at all! If you caught her in a real lie before, then you should be very straightforward. Tell her you saw her outside with a group of guys, and you were curious if she lied to you. If you're all sneaky about it, then you're the one who's lying to her.

Answer 3

Wake up and think as a grown up. If it was two men, I really don't think she is into a threesome. The more space you give your wife the closer she will stay. Lock or chain her up like a dog, watch her run when she is released. Instead, encourage her to further her job related education and invest in her being independent. What better security for a husband, Having a wife that can make it with or without you. Ever think you might be out of work, house to pay for, and children to be raised. An educated professional learns the difference between dog ***** and a loving trusting husband.

Answer 4

I Think You Should Tell Her U Know That She's Lie About Staying Late And You Should Talk To Her About What Happen Their Is a Chance She Can Be Cheating On You!!

Answer 5

Not to be negative or anything, but if she said she was going to be late and was talking to a few male co-workers outside, something may be up. I will not say she is cheating, but that is cause for concern. Trust has to be worked on. You should talk to her. It will take some time, but you will be able to trust her as long as she is really to cooperate with you. This is your wife, for better or worst.

Answer 6

Ouch. BT,DT. Really, there's not likely to be anything to it... maybe she feels like you would be angry at her for talking to her co-workers because they are male. It is a little lie, but all of them hurt. Try sitting down with her and VERY CALMLY (read:do not yell, curse, raise voice or become defensive) telling her that you are hurt (don't say angry, even though you are) because she doesn't feel like you trust her. Explain to her that the next time she would like to visit with her co-workers, she should feel comfortable telling you so. Even if she gets mad at you, just stay calm. We women are funny about that stuff. Sometimes we don't say anything because we are afraid you men will get mad at us and we don't want that. Tell her she's even welcome to invite them over and visit.. then be friendly to them if she does, because she's trusting you not to make her look like a fool in front of people she works with. Barring that, just pull her to the 'puter and show her your letter and the responses you got. Ask her which one she feels best about and go from there. Good luck!

Answer 7

1. there is not enough information to assess whether she is cheating on you. could be she just knows you are jealous and was withholding information that would cause conflict

2. if she wants to cheat she will do it and there is nothing you can do about it. if you really think she is not trustworthy then end the relationship. don't argue, this is going to haunt you forever otherwise

3. you cannot control her, nor should you try to. if you really like her (love her) you will want what she wants for herself, which may be other men (sadly), and you should not deprive her of this NOR should you make it your lot in life to control her

4. not only is she not your possession, but you have other things that ARE your possession. spend some time with the things that are within your control and are just yours. if she values you she will see that you have other options and can dump her if she f's up. translation: get a life and respect it!

Answer 8

Why did you ever trust her in the first place? Women are way more conniving and slick than men could ever hope to be...I will never trust any of them ever again...that doesn't mean you can't be in a relationship with one, just don't be surprised when you come home early one day and find her riding another guy. Even the happiest of women will cheat given half the chance... they have no more loyalty in them than a mob informant.

Answer 9

Everybody lies sometimes....if you love her you'll trust her. Maybe she did have to stay latem you didn't get the facts. Just talk to her. You can't just jump to conclusions like that. Like I said, if you love her, you'll trust her.

I mean, before you get too upset, sit down and talk to her about it, and get it out in the open between the two of you. Tell her what you saw, and then LISTEN to her explanation. She might have a valid reason for the misunderstanding. Good Luck.....I know you're hurt!

Answer 10

omg she is your wife totally confront her now do not wait the signs are right in front of you she is cheating on you no doubt about it if i was getting off work and going out with a couple guy coworkers i would tell my hubby she did not tell you there is definatly something going on there and if your married in the eyes of god and the law lying is a total sin against everything you vowed on your wedding day don't let this go, talk to her good luck and i hope you get through this because i know how all that feels...=(