Not asking philosophically, but practically: when people say "Don't bring up the past," where does the past end? I've had arguments with my husbands in which I might bring something up from two months ago or two hours ago, and he would say "Don't bring up the past." So, what's my quantitative measure of the past-present boundary?
2006-06-15 13:52:06 · 13 answers · asked by sundrizzler 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If the issue has been resolved, it is the past. If the adverse behavior is ongoing, it is the present.
2006-06-15 14:05:40 · answer #1 · answered by lifeisgood 1 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Depends on the situation. If the "past" is brought up to make the other person feel bad or "hitting below the belt" and the issue has been put to rest , or is it because an issue isn't resolved. If it's the first thing, 10 minutes ago is the past. If it's the second then the situation isn't in the past, it is still very much in the present still and needs to be dealt with. In an arguement it is never wise to bring up any issues that are not the one that is at present hand.
Only one thing can be dealt with at a time and if more stuff get put into the mix, nothing gets resolved. When you find yourself bringing stuff up like that, what is your motive? To hurt him, prove a point, why? It's best to walk away and talk about it when tensions are not as hot.
2006-06-17 02:03:54 · answer #2 · answered by SonoranAngel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The past is the past - it could be 10 minutes ago or 25 years ago. So when talking with someone - you could say "don't bring up the past" and basically refer to anything that is technically in the past. The past present boundary is quite simple - if it's in the right now/in the moment it's the present, and if it's a hour ago or a day ago it's the past.
2006-06-15 13:57:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The boundary between past and present is only as long as an individual feels it is...To some the past is 20 minutes ago and to others its 20 years ago...Then some and I might think most just say it to avoid a situation the don't want to talk about...Hope this helps...GeneO
2006-06-15 13:59:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-14 20:13:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once an argument or problem has been discussed and both parties have gotten a chance to speak their mind, let it go and forget about it. Definitely don't bring up stuff from two months ago!!
2006-06-15 14:00:47 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've found that with most men the "past" is anything that occurred prior to the current conversation (i.e. more than 5 minutes ago).
2006-06-15 14:02:09 · answer #7 · answered by passion8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmmmmmmmm. The past used to rear me up all of the time between us. One day, I decided that the past was the past!
2006-06-15 14:14:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the past would be anything from 2 days ago.
2006-06-15 13:57:24 · answer #9 · answered by ice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd consider anything that happened yesterday to be in the past.
2006-06-15 13:55:07 · answer #10 · answered by Troy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋