hangin out with popular people doesnt work for me! this sucks, i have tried everything and dont tell me to cheerlead i hate that and im a pnk person but i have a touch of preppy......wat should i do?
2006-06-15 13:41:07 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Beauty & Style ➔ Other - Beauty & Style
popular people aren't all they cracked up to be. When you get to college there are no popular people, and the people who were popular in high school are the lamest of them all cuz everyone thinks they are asses. Just be who you are and when you get to college you'll be better for it.
2006-06-15 13:46:18 · answer #1 · answered by Greg W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best you can do is mostly be yourself and have your own opinions.
Cliques are fun, but they are really just a power play--over others not in the clique and mostly within the group. It is not good if you cannot not leverage yourself with a means of escape.
Have friends in several different groups, so when the clique (assuming you're a girl) plays power games with you, as they always do to everyone, you can just hang out with other people until the clique gets a new scapegoat. (Remember, the clique may be "popular" in name, but no one really enjoys being around them long, even the core members of the clique.")
And be sort of sarcastic and untouchable with the clicque to give yourself a cool mystique (this is natural if you have self-confidnece and people can feel it). Or date a guy that may be a little unpolished and turn him into somone totally hot. It will get everyone's attention. Of course, he will dump you to date the girls you are trying to be friends with since he will also being to think he is hot stuff, but those girls will think of you having more status. There will be other guys at that point. Also other girl friends--don't put yourself in a position to be too disappointed when you are betrayed.
Oh, if you got a modling contract or dated a college guy that would give you big perks. People at school with think, "Whoa, what do others better than me know about this girl that I don't know?!"
In college, like someone said, it is different because there are so many parties and so many ways to make friends with different groups, like dorm mates, greek, classes, sports, and just parties.
Definitely, keep friends in other groups so you can express a wide variety of interests and talents and creativity that will not be tolerated in a clique. This is important to remember for life in general. Don't not give more of yourself away each day than you cannot buy back each night. (Meaning becoming numb or self-loathing is extremely distructive, focus on conquering fears and developing character and as many different talents as you can--experience as much as you can of life.)
2006-06-15 14:10:18 · answer #2 · answered by l l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poularity is so over rated! Be popular within a group of your own friends who are just like you! Join a group, chior, theater, science, church, whatever it is that you are into. Just talk to people say "hi how are you doing?" just say anything and watch your posture! People wont want to talk to you if you slump around and look sad all day. It annoys people and turns them away from you. Its about body language too. When you speak to someone or a group of people you dont really talk to that often (you may be meeting them for the first time) dont stand with your arms crossed and your head down, thats a no! Look them in the eye, hands to the side but relaxed. And just say whatever comes to your mind. :-) Dont worry yourself over this,ok just keep your head up and smile!
2006-06-15 13:54:41 · answer #3 · answered by Kitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know it seems like ur in hell rite now, but ur nt... wen u eventually grow, no one will know if u were popular or not, no one Will even care and all those popular kids in school rite now, no will even know if they exited or no... cos in the mature old of adults, its not ur popularity that counts, its the person within an individual that counts, its the kindness, the niceness and the goodness of a person that counts... so try to be urself, dont give a damn about the popular kids, live ur life as u want to and enjoy it cos this time in ur life wont come again and i dont suppose u want to remember this time of ur life as u being miserable and wanting to be someone ur not...
2006-06-15 13:57:51 · answer #4 · answered by beautysexychick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why is it important anyway to be popular? be yourself. to me, being popular is like serving other people to gain status. why do you want to do that? just because they have privileges? and you want privileges, too? it's not even a big deal. to become popular, you lose your real identity. being popular, you'll end up like every other popular person. there's nothing unique or special about popular people, really. that's how i see it...
2006-06-15 13:48:57 · answer #5 · answered by anak sendu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be yourself!
you don't have to be in the "popular" crowd, and even though it seems like school is "it"; it's not
don't let other people change you, or make you something you're not just to fit in
you'll be proud you stood your ground
2006-06-15 13:45:46 · answer #6 · answered by paj 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be happy with the friends you have you know they probably arent that bad...dont worry about being popular....if that dont work for you try being a slut
2006-06-15 15:21:58 · answer #7 · answered by sha.babyblues 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
socialize more with the popular kids
2006-06-15 13:44:05 · answer #8 · answered by confused 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find ppl like u
2006-06-15 13:44:31 · answer #9 · answered by ☼Jims Brain☼ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love yourself and people will love you = popularity
and try not to care the more you care the more you seem wanabee
2006-06-15 13:45:35 · answer #10 · answered by meowmix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋