I met another guy that i thought really liked me, and it was a friend w/ benefit relationship. He ended up hurting my feelings and i broke things off w/ him. My b/f of 7 yrs has never treated me right and i feel that we're together for our kids sakes. The other problem is that a part of me gets excited havin an extra relationship. A part of me wants to tell my b/f but another part doesnt want to see him get hurt because i dont think that it will be the last time i cheat on him. I have no where else to go so that is why i dont leave the relationship i'm in. Can anyone give me some good-hearted advice?
2006-06-15 13:31:14 · 10 answers · asked by the_charmed_one 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you don't think it will be the last time cheating on him then why bother sticking around? You say he doesn't treat you right but you never explained on how he doesn't. Tell him when you are able to stand on your own feet and then let him go.
2006-06-15 13:45:25 · answer #1 · answered by James B 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Oh, I know well what you're going through, and it's an awful situation. My partner and I were able to resolve our issues, though I haven't yet felt secure enough with myself to disclose what I'd done. If you are excited being with other people, then you are going to cheat again. I hate to say it like that, because sometimes it doesn't feel as though it's cheating. However, staying with your partner because of the children you have together may or may not be the best road. Sometimes children can bind a couple again despite their differences, and sometimes it's best to dissolve the relationship for the sake of the kids. My advice would be to start talking to your partner more; not necessarily tell him of the infidelity, but simply discuss anything be it hopes, dreams, mutual wants, or even your sexual relationship. If he is open to talking with you about any or all of these things, there might be hope for your relationship. If, in fact, he still doesn't treat you right (I'm not quite sure what you meant by that), then start making long term plans of making sure you and the children, should you choose to take them with you, will be secure and safe. I hope this helps.
2006-06-15 20:42:08 · answer #2 · answered by Zaira 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Holy shmolies, Batman. This is gonna get interesting. Sure, tell him. What the hell? He doesn't treat you right so why not go running off with whoever comes around. You're entitled, right? And the kids won't mind growing up with two people who don't have any respect for each other 'cause you can always find someone else to hop in the sack with rather than working things out with each other. That's the real world, isn't it?
Look, if you're serious about your 7 year relationship and raising kids to be able to do right for themselves when they're older, then you're going to have to be a responsible role model for them. First, respect yourself and forget about going outside your relationship for the answers. You need to get some communication going and either work things out like adults (and I don't mean like the ones on Jerry Springer), or come to some understanding about splitting up.
No matter what you end up deciding, remember that when you have kids, you decide you're going to be the kind of person they can look up to and learn from. Figure out what you want them looking up to and learning.
2006-06-15 20:45:04 · answer #3 · answered by David 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My advice is, tell your b/f because it will be worse if he found out & trust me the truth comes out eventually. So get out of the relationship while you can & stop hurting him. Don't stay with him just for the kids sake, i think you will be better off living single with the kids & then date as many guys you want but don't get into a relationship. It seems like as if you like your situation so why not eliminate one of your problems which is your current bf. After all he is a human being & he has feelings so don't play around his back but live your life the way you want to without him. Good Luck!
2006-06-15 20:41:34 · answer #4 · answered by tigereyes2481 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you tell him? What do you think is going to happen if you tell him? Do you think that it would make his life better, make him happier? Make your life better, make you happier? Are you bored and want to stir up some sh*t for the excitement of it? Will it make you feel powerful to hurt him?
If you can't handle keeping your guilt to yourself, then don't do things you feel guilty about is my advice.
2006-06-15 20:43:29 · answer #5 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you should tell him because if you think you going to cheat on him again you should get tell him.. and don't worry about the kids they will be hurt but once they see you happy again they will forgive you.
2006-06-15 20:38:35 · answer #6 · answered by Britt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For your kids sake don't tell him, and don't cheat anymore
2006-06-15 20:34:59 · answer #7 · answered by Andrew P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no dont tell him until ur married
2006-06-15 20:34:29 · answer #8 · answered by ~SEXII MAMII~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG YES!
2006-06-15 20:34:41 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ Vogue ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOT IF YOU WANT TO DESTROY YOUR RELATIONSHIP
2006-06-15 20:35:17 · answer #10 · answered by stacie p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋