How can i deal with being ugly????

Question

i have a very ugly face and i can't get over it. i'm ashamed of myself and hardly ever leave the house. i hate myself and i get jelouse of other people when i go out. i know i'll always be alone and no girl will ever want me, but how can i deal with it and not feel pain all the time? please help!!!

gosh you people are so kind, i didn't think i would get such helpful answers, i'm gonna have such a hard time choosing one best, cuz they're all great.

Answer 1

Go to walmart look around, see alot of people that look worst than you, and then you will feel alot better

And next learn that beauty is how we feel about each other, so learning to be happy with who we are is what is important

Answer 2

Are you actually ugly or do you just see yourself that way? The saying 'Beauty is in the eye of the beholder' is true... We are all beautiful to someone and all have attributes that make us attractive. Remember also that everyone has different taste in partners - my best freind and I do not agree AT ALL on who we find attractive. Seriously...
Whether you are conventionally good looking or not, it doesn't matter. There is someone in the world for everyone but that is not the issue. It seems the issue is more about how you see yourself and that you have very low self esteem. You need to work on this before anything else and also know that some people out there are shallow and plastic and they're opinion doesn't matter - they are very rarely happy anyway.
Perhaps start with visualising the ways in which you are lucky - you have a roof over your head, you can eat and you have faculties enough to use a computer. Some people cannot claim any of these things. Then perhaps progress from there.
Maybe you can also join some volunteer groups - get out and help people on the streets etc... a soup van maybe. This will get you out and make you feel good. Start with the small things...
If you want to you can send a message through the avatar and we can chat some more. I would like to help if I can. Hope all this helps!

Answer 3

First I have to say that it's what's on the inside that counts I know this sounds lame but it's try. And just have a great personality and a good sense of humor. Don't stay in the house, get out and don't be jealous of other people, you are only what you think you are. If you think you are a beautiful person then act like it. It is all in your head and whatever you tell yourself is what it will be. So get up take a shower and put on your best outfit, and go outside and have fun. P.S. I have seen really ugly people with great personalities and after awhile people just want to be around you because you are fun and it's not what they see.

Answer 4

I am sure if you look in the mirror you will be surprised to see a real outstanding person standing there. Perhaps you think you are ugly but others indeed may not. Go get an outstanding hair-cut. Should you wear glasses see about getting some frames that will do justice to the shape of your face. Some places will cut your current lenses down to fit the frame at a low cost. Start dressing differently. Add mens Cologne sparingly. Get a new style of shoes and really look at yourself inside out. Beauty
comes within not without. I am sure you will then find yourself a knockout. Now get the positive attitude of liking yourself and you will be fine.

Answer 5

Dear doumit,
I also felt I was ugly growing up. Never had a date in high school and to tell you the truth it was really miserable. I would have done anything to be one of the beautiful people. I can't tell you how not to feel the pain. But I will tell you, that it fades with time. I know that's not very helpful at this time, but it's the truth. I have a really great life now and from time to time I get that old feeling, but it is pretty rare. I guess that comes from growing up and developing a feeling of self worth. I also have a strong connection to my God. Doesn't matter what faith it is, as long as it brings you comfort.

Put your energy into the things you love in life. Bill Gates was not a beautiful kid, but he's laughing all the way to the bank. He followed his passion and got what he wanted out of life. Oh and by the way....... I believe he got the girl. :)

Answer 6

1) Go easy on yourself - and realize that all/most people feel "self-conscience" about their looks, education (or lack of), inability to interact with others (especially the opposite sex), and pretty much everthing else!

2) Make an effort to understand the old adage - "Beauty is only skin deep" - Read "Beauty and The Beast" - Not just the words, but the feelings and emotions that grow between them.

3) Take a good, hard look at Queen Victoria - and for that matter, the existing Queen of England!

4) Read about "The Elephant Man" - Certainly unslightly, but brilliant and someone we should all emulate.

5) Look at everyone's picture on their drivers license! (This is a joke, you know) - But I'll gaurantee you 99.9% of the folks that look at their license think, "Oh, my God! What have you done to me!!"

6) Check out pictures of Einstein and Hawkings - Two of the most brillant men who ever existed.

7) Look in the mirror and see yourself for WHO you are - Look yourself in the eye and be proud of the TYPE of person you are.

8) Remember that we are all "our worst critics", and we need to go easy on ourselves.

9) Envision yourself as "unique", and lose the word "ugly" - Remember that "beauty is in the eyes of the beholder".

---- And I offer this - If all else fails, ask to see a picture of me! -I can assure you, you'll feel much better about yourself!

BOTTOM LINE - See yourself as having something to offer and others will see the same.

Forget looks and consentrate on deeds.

I could list a thousand things to do, but it's all up to you to realize that ....

Answer 7

You sound like me when I was going through my teen years. I had a really bad self image that totally crippled my personality for years to come. It all came about because of something someone said to me when I was about 13 which, looking back, I now realise meant **** since they were only saying it to be nasty. However I became really introverted after that and spent a lot of time sleeping (since then I didn't have to think about it). I suffered from bad acne as well which didn't help.

Believe it or not (and this is really funny) the only thing that kept me going was knowing that when I got older I could grow a cool moustache like my Uncle and everything would be alright. Stupid but it gave me a crutch to get me through.

Looking back though I think it had some benefits. It made be a lot less superficial as I realised that there was more to people than what we see on the surface. Since I thought the only people that wanted to know me were those decent people who "looked deeper" I came to regard that as a good trait and developed it myself since I knew what it felt like to be persecuted for your looks. Sometimes people told me they thought I was attractive but I always thought they were being polite but then later I realised I was missing the point completely. Even if they were telling me out of politeness, they did it because they cared what I thought and didn't want to hurt me.

Since then I've become much less materialistic and think that it is whats inside that counts. As Forest Gump might say, "Ugly is as Ugly does" and a nice personality and good temprement can go a long way to making someone look more appealing.

On the other hand though I think it's important to be presentable and clean as well. It gives you a certain mindset, like dressing corporate for work does...

And believe me there are plenty of girls out there who rate nice guys higher than himbos with godlike bodies and gnat-like brains and morals.

Answer 8

The lady for you won't see or care if you are ugly. If you stay shut up in your house and don't take the chance of meeting someone then you are NOT giving any woman a chance to see you for who you are inside. It is not likley that your woman will come knocking on your door, out of the blue. Go find her! Work on your personality so when you do go out into the world people see a man with a warm, friendly, caring, humerous personality. Those things are what matters! If someone only dates others for looks then things can go bad, very quickly. The person inside is what matters, dude. I am a ugly lady. I am overweight and my teeth are rotting out of my head, but my husband married me because I am pretty inside. I am good to him and he doesn't have to worry about me cheating or anything like that. You will find yourself a fine woman. You just have to jump out there. Take baby steps at first and as you get better (personality wise) then things will all come together. Do excersizes in the mirror to help with self-esteam and personality. Then try it in public. Remember, baby steps! Good luck to your new journey.

Answer 9

I know how you feel. I was always the one being laughed at and made fun of. I was very overweight and didn't believe i was good looking at all. I have been married to a beautiful women for over 2 years now. LOOKS MEAN NOTHING. Most people don't realize (or believe) confidence is just as important as looks. You need to hold your head high and feel and act confident. Make other believe you are too good for them and never show anyone (who you believe is better looking then you) that you are intimidated by them. You WILL eventually find someone, but do it by being yourself. My wife fell in love with me because of who I am, not what I look like.

Answer 10

You honestly should have no reason to feel like you are an ugly person. Everyone is beautiful in their own way. You probably have some special talents or something that makes you proud of yourself right? You should not stay in just because you think you are ugly. Im sure you aren't ugly at all, you just have a very very low self of esteem....and staying inside all day will not improve your self of esteem. God made each and every one of us all different. And each of us have a purpose here in life. And I for one, do not believe that anyones purpose is to stay inside and do nothing for the rest of their life. You are beautiful to a lot of people, Im quite sure. Just keep your head up.

Answer 11

Sweetie, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Who says you're ugly? Maybe you are not Brad Pitt, but I guarantee you have some good qualities.
Are you clean? Is your hair cut neatly? Do you look people in the face and smile or do you hang your head? Attitude has a lot do do with people's perception of you. If you exude confidence and friendliness, you don't HAVE to look like a movie star!
You're a worthwhile person. Examine what you have to offer others - and one day, the right one will fall in love with who you are. If looks are all they want, they are too shallow to have a real relationship.