I've been living with my boyfriend since last nov., when we started talking last july he told me that he would never marry me understand that this was said late at night.. and i dont even know if he remembers saying it.. but now that i have been living with him i dont know.. will he ask me? will he marry me? im afraid to ask him cause im afraid that the answer will still be the same.. but i wanna know!! i dont want to be in this for the his pleasure..
help me?
2006-06-15 13:11:32 · 8 answers · asked by Hannah 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Rather than wait and wonder, ask him. I know quite a few people that are completely happy as a couple but not married. Whatever works for them. Let's not jump the gun on whether he's having his cake.......... Make sure the commitment is there.
I know you want the white wedding, your family, his family. You need to decide which you want to please. You, him or your family? Can you be satisfied with the way things are or do you want something more?
Good luck.
2006-06-15 13:23:54 · answer #1 · answered by just me 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Now's a h*ll of a time to be asking this. He made a statement (that he probably remembers VERY WELL). Why should he marry you? He has what he wants (sex and someone to take care of him and his house) and you have what? Let's see--do you own the house? no, do you have a wedding ring? no, do you have your virginity? no, does he offer to do the housework? I'll lay odds he doesn't (why should he?)
I'm sorry to be blunt, but I think you've been caught in a trap of your own making. If I were you I WOULD ask him. If he says no, I'd be gone the very next day.
2006-06-15 20:29:28 · answer #2 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want to marry you. He told you that he doesn't want to marry you. He is staying with you now because it is convenient and easy and he is having his needs met. He will not be asking you, and if you ask him, he will likely just get angry with you.
If your needs include getting married, then you will have to end the relationship with this man and find someone who is looking for a commitment.
Best of luck, and God bless.
2006-06-15 20:15:53 · answer #3 · answered by bobhayes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably won't ask unless you bring it up. If he had changed his mind from that night, he probably would have told you.
Either way, talk to him about it. Holding it in will only make you bitter if it doesn't happen like you want.
2006-06-15 20:22:04 · answer #4 · answered by Tiffany 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is sort of old-fashioned. You have to ask yourself, do you love him or do you just want him for social status or some other benefit that marriage offers? If you really love him, then you don't need marriage.
2006-06-15 21:21:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey he's not going to marry you he told you so. It doesn't matter what time of day it was. A guy doesn't forget that kind of thing.
2006-06-15 20:29:21 · answer #6 · answered by butterflykisses427 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think that he is going to marry you, its like the old folks say.... "why buy the cow ,if your getting the milk for free".
2006-06-15 20:15:29 · answer #7 · answered by ami_blue22 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe, but mostlikey yes
2006-06-15 20:16:04 · answer #8 · answered by dannym7500 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋