My Daughter just told me she's gay... how should I handle this?

Question

some asked her age... she's 17 yrs. old

Answer 1

Easy. Accept her for who she is, irregardless of her sexual preference. Give her a hug, tell her you love her and mean it. Be very accepting of her, dont talk down to her, or berate her about this. Who knows, it may just be a phase if she is young, as in teenage young. Then again, it may be something she has ultimately chosen. Eitherway, so what. Tell her you love her and mean it, give her a hug and a kiss, and tell her its ok, that you still love her anyways.

Besides, would you rather hear that, or hear how she's been getting nailed by every guy she meets, and is 2 months pregnant and has no idea who the father is.

Be accepting of her. Trust me.

Answer 2

The best thing to do would be to sit down with your daughter and listen to everything that she tells you about her sexual preferences. Let her know that no matter what, you still love her and nothing will change that. Perhaps you have a problem with her sexuality, but she is your daughter and will remain your daughter no matter what. The worst thing you could possibly do is make her feel uncomfortable with the fact that she is homosexual. Embrace her and shower her with your love. Her regretting you is the last thing any mother should want. Your daughter is obviously at a point in her life where she needs you to be there for her. Please, whatever you do, don't turn your back on her. There are many people that feel that homosexuality is wrong and will be more than happy to let your daughter know that without considering her feelings. She will need you to be there for her during times like those.

Answer 3

The worst thing that you could do is to turn your back on her. She is still the same person that she was before she told you, so your love and the way that you treat her shouldn't change. She is still your daughter.

It is ok to tell her that you don't agree with her decision, but make sure that she knows that you still love her and that it won't change the relationship that you have with her.

Get to know her girlfriend. Treat her girlfriend the same way that you would treat a boyfriend. Don't give her the chance to say that you never even tried to get to know her girlfriend.

Be there for your daughter, she will need a place to come to where she knows that she is loved, safe, and secure. No matter how old she is. Let the world show her the discrimination, not her family.

Answer 4

It all depends on her age. If she's very young - early teens - she may think she is gay because she identifies with others that are. In this case, you should keep open to what she says and don't force her one way or the other. If you do, at that early age, she may just do and act gay to spite you and only find out her true sexuality later on when she matures.

If on the other hand she's mature - late teens or twenties, she's probably realized who she is and what she is at that time. Just accept her for who she is and love her and support her.

One way or the other, she had the courage to come and tell you, so that's something - she trusts you enough with something this delicate!

Good luck!

Answer 5

Honey, my son told me he was gay, when he was 14, I supported him completely. I told him he could talk to me about this, we could watch shows together and compare guys, (that was actually fun), and that I'd be there for him to talk to about all the problems that come along with this. It made us closer, and eventually, he got past this. He died June 7, 2005 at the age of 18, and I NEVER regret this time with him.

Also, my daughter, even experimented with this at the age of 14, I did the same way with her. She is now engaged to be married. Sometimes, I think they're trying to see if we're really gonna support them through anything.

Just be patient, and NEVER let her hear you discuss this with friends, (especially family), and others. This just tells her that you truly are ashamed of her. It can cause a REAL problem.

Good Luck and God Bless You, and im me at americanhousewife2005 on yahoo messenger, or send me an email at [e-mail], if you ever need to talk!!!

Answer 6

Im a gay , you should support her especially if shes a teenager , do you know the number of gay people who commit suicide for hating who they are and because no one they love excepts them. She is still your daughter no matter what as long as she gets with a girl who treats her right and who loves her then there shouldnt be a problem

Answer 7

Tell her the truth about how you feel, without offending her.
If you are scared, try counseling. You are not alone!
Either way, if you love her, support her as best you can.
Try not to judge. She can't help what she is inside.
If your religious convictions are the problem, talk to your clergy about how YOU can deal....not about how you can change her.
This is not about what you did wrong as a parent. You can't make someone gay.
Try not to listen to the frightened, narrow-minded, bigoted morons who say nasty things. They think of the sex act, therefore they have dirty minds.
This is about the people your daughter is going to love in her life. You might want to be there to enjoy her happiness.

Answer 8

Even if you don't support her lifestyle, support her in every way, shape and form. No matter what she does, she is still your daughter, the best way to handle it, is love your daughter, don't pretend she's not gay, that only makes the situation worse.

Answer 9

Love her and tell her how u feel about this matter and her choice in a dignified way. Ask her questions and dont push her away, that'll make your relationship bad or non-existing. Ask her things like, where did this come from? How long have she known? And what happened? Why isnt she interested in men. Tell her about the discriminations about her choice. Main thing. talk and be civilized with one another.

Good luck and pray for her.

Answer 10

You love your daughter right? Thats whats important to remember, its also important to not go with the flow of 'being gay is wrong'. Its a person's choice, we're not God, we can't judge.

You have to accept who she is, what she loves, and how she acts. She is your daughter, your flesh and blood, the very being in whom much of your joy lies.

So don't be apprehensive, be acceptant, no matter what love her. No matter what accept her, and her girlfriends, thats all you can do. Love and support her, be an allie not an enemy.