A older woman age 36 wants to marry me...im 27m and she has 2 girls under15. What should i do..she loves me and wants to be with me so much.
2006-06-15 12:51:13 · 48 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i do love her and feel great talking to her on the phone and online and her kids are great. I want to be with her but never been in a relationship with a woman...i am bi and been with guys alot but i feel sexually and physically attracted to her. The kids do not live with her only visit once in awhile and her mother already wants me to be with her. She is kind, sweet, good heart and needs some help on a little things but we can work it out.
2006-06-15 13:21:05 · update #1
Only be with her if you know that you will not stray and be with anyone else including men. This would not be fair to her. If you can not commit all of yourself to her then don't. Good luck
2006-06-28 23:22:24 · answer #1 · answered by kelsey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look, KIDS... age is just a number, marrying someone is based on whether or not you love someone enough to want to spend your life with...... If you have doubts, because of past "bi" then you better re think it, and make sure this transition, obviously, for the better, is what you truly, without a doubt, want!!! Coming around to want to live a "normal" life with a woman, is a good thing, just take it slow, and really get to know each other. Go with your heart.
2006-06-29 08:30:16 · answer #2 · answered by Katz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think long and hard about the consequences of this marriage. Taking on a ready made family is a big responsibility. Remember, you will be taking the financial responsibility away from the childrens dad. He won't have to pay child support. You will be taking over that responsibility. Are you ready for that. Are you ready for his left overs. And what if he is still in the picture? You won't be marrying with a clean slate. It's up to you my dear. I hope you have a good J.O.B. cause children are expensive. and mentally and emotionally draining. I have four. You can have all the patience in the world with your own kids cause they are a part of you and you teach them to respect you from day one. It's hard get that same respect when you come in after the fact. Good luck.
2006-06-15 13:19:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with the age differece. But, I don't think you are in love with her. You might love her. And you need to WANT to be with her as much as she wants to be with you.
If you have to ask the question here you are most likely unsure.
It is not your job to rescue her. Also taking on two teenager can spell T R O U B L E.
If you are Bi are you ready to give that up? It sounds like this woman just wants someone and you are available at the moment. I can't see this as a good situation.
Be cautious. Take your time. It needs to be a mutual decision.....not one she is pushing for.
2006-06-26 21:07:57 · answer #4 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe your bi could be a major issue. Maybe you two, if you really love each other could go to some kind of pre marriage counseling because you are bi.
Just an idea.
Goodbye BI and Good Luck
2006-06-25 07:50:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first and foremost since you claim to love her, i would say age has nothing to do with love. age is nothing but a number and number is nothing but a thing. furthermore, age is a thing of the mind it is only when you mind that it matters.
if you love her enough to marry just follow your heart. no one can tell you to marry her or not to. it depends solely on you. Marriage is a thing of the heart that can only be decided upon by the individual involved in the romance. think twice about this and good luck
2006-06-29 02:55:40 · answer #6 · answered by minny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you known this woman and do you love her and feel the same way for her? If so date and see if she is the one for you. Is she single or divorced. I sure hope so and do you love and accept the girls as a part of the package and are you ready to be a dad?
2006-06-15 13:19:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO..don't' marry this woman. You need to think of her and those kids. Other than what you feel. I don't know if you have shared your past with her or not..But you need to.
What happens a year or two from now and you have a relapse? Think of someone else other than yourself..I suggest you get counseling to find out which team you really want to be on.
2006-06-28 05:10:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
SWEETIE IF YOU'RE BI THEN DON'T MARRY HER. DATE HER, HAVE A GOOD TIME, BUT IT'S ONLY GONNA BE A MATTER OF TIME BEFORE YOU CRAVE SOME UH, WELL YOU KNOW AND IT'S NOT FAIR TO HER.
SOUNDS LIKE YOU TWO REALLY NEED TO DATE AND GET TO KNOW EACH OTHER. HELL MAYBE EVEN MOVE IN TOGETHER ONE DAY AND LIVE TOGETHER FOR A YEAR AND THEN SEE WHERE IT GOES. IT'S A GOOD THING THE GIRLS DON'T LIVE WITH HER.
IF THEY DID, I'D SAY DON'T DO IT. YOU'RE WAY TO YOUNG TO BE A PARENT TO TWO TEENAGERS! SO GOOD LUCK TO YOU AND TAKE CARE.
2006-06-27 19:24:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you never said if you loved her.if you love her and you get along with her kids then maybe you should.the thing you have to ask yourself about marrying and older lady is will you want kids down the road,and are you really inlove with this person.
just to let you know im 43 and my husband is 56 and the sex is still as good after 24 years.just wanted to say that as 1 person said something about the age gap and sex
2006-06-15 13:03:22 · answer #10 · answered by greeneyes634970 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you seem to be a little confused about your sexuality. Normally this type of question is answered by the heart. If you need to ask, then you have issues that need to be adressed.You need to be 100% honest about it with your g/f. You also need to evaluate the fact that you're walking into a ready-made family situation.
2006-06-29 05:50:04 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋