How do you fall back in love with someone you're married to.?

Question

married for 10 years trying to relight the spark

Answer 1

You know what? I don't think it is fair what some of the others have said..i think it is entirely possible to lose abit of that...and what you need to do is relive a lot of the past...remember a lot fo the romantic things you did for him and sneak those things back in to your repetoire...by that I mean...I sent my wife an Easter card when she went back to see her family in South America and she loved it..my wife and I started off by writing and emailing and while we've known each other for 11 years we've been married for 7. I always try to do things, read old letters, look at pictures and read diaries of things we did together and I try to do them again...go to fine restaurants (tough with a child) but we do what we can. I haven't fallen out of love with my wife but I think that it is necessary for you to start dating your husband on a weekly basis so that it doesn't happen again-FLIRT WITH HIM-go park..hehe whatever.....life is a long journey..sometimes it seems as though your priorities with children and work that sometimes you may lose the spark a bit..just light the pilot light again and do what you can to get his attention and it doesn't have to go back to the bed-especially if you are trying to see where his feelings lie with you...(no pun intended)...yeah that will get his attention in the short run..as it will in most men...BUT....it won't stand for the long run...so there has to be more. maybe play hard to get a little..make him feel as though he has to give chase a bit...don't play the game too long...but...entice him..take him out for ice cream or even to a ball game EVEN if you HATE baseball or football...or a concert if he doesn't care for sports...
amusement park..you get the idea...do things that he LOVES to do that you would normally not care so much for because you CARE about doing stuff he is interested in...it is just an idea...surprise him...

Answer 2

That's a really tough one. I think that the "spark" in a marriage fades and relights on its own many, many times throughout a life. I would say break out of your rut. Go to bed at the same time. Fake it till you make it. Start doing little things that you know will make your spouse happy--even if you don't feel like it--and maybe your spouse will start doing the same, or maybe just seeing how happy you've made him will remind you of the things you love about him. Start a list of the things you appreciate about him. Write one new thing every day and give him the list after a couple months. Interview him--start asking him about the best movie he's seen recently and why, his favorite childhood memory, etc. Go out together and watch him flirt with other people. Give him a wink.

Answer 3

I've been married for nine years and we literally had to learn to co-exist in the same places together. My wife and I got married as BEST friends. And we like a lot of the same things, but we are DIFFERENT people. No one can tell you how to re-light your flame, but you can't do it unless both of you REALLY want it and from there you just take it one day at a time. Going over the reasons why you fell in love to begin with is a start, and plenty of patience. Good Luck

DvL

Answer 4

Picture your husband gone, or dead, or injured. Think of yourself without him in your life? Now, go tell him you love him before something dreadful happens to your marriage. And try some self-improvement activities. Take a dance class or community college class in history or something. Broaden your horizons and make different dishes to eat. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and count your blessings you are still married. It's hard to find a partner that has 'staying' qualities today. And for pete's sake, put down the Nora Roberts romance novels, they're just fantisies!

Answer 5

First off, you have to remember that love is a verb. Take little steps. Start leaving notes on steering wheels, on the fridge. Get him a card. Leave him a sexy voice mail and send him an email inviting him for some "private one on one" time. When he understands what you are doing, he will begin to do the same things. Once he recipricates, the game is to out do the other. Don't be afraid to surprise him and do new things with him, even outside of bed. But you will be the one who will have to get the ball rolling!

Answer 6

When you marry someone, the feelings come and go over the years. Love is a choice not a feeling. You choose to love and the feeling will come. God's love is one of the most powerful things in the universe. Ask Him to help you love your husband. Also, do things for your husband that you notice he likes done and be very grateful to him when he does things for you in return. Thoughtfulness and respect do wonders for a marriage.

Answer 7

Falling out of love is like more like falling out a plane than falling out of a chair. You should have married someone that you were strapped in tight to in the first place...

Answer 8

rember the reasons why u feel in- love in the frist place. recreat when u meet going together. your spouse winning your heart doing that all over again. if u truly love your spouse that should bring the spark back into your life.

Good luck and GOD BLESS

Answer 9

it could be that you are just bored with doing the same things, you need to be open and talk to your husband .it could be that he is thinking the same way.once you have spoken too him and that is the case, you can try something diff together try new things.im 43 have been married 25 years in october.

Answer 10

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