Why do husbands almost always try to control their wives?

Question

My husband says he is not trying to control me, but it seems as if he's tightening the grip the longer were married.

Answer 1

I don't have enough information to answer this...what would give him reasons to believe that he needs to tighten the grip in your opinon? in his opinion?

I think plenty of women try to control their husbands as well...the moment a woman cannot buy what she wants....she gets nervous financially as to whether he can handle her needs and wants...whether those needs and wants are warranted or not..they ARE to her and that is all that matters...

Answer 2

Most men try to control others, especially thier spouses and children, for several reasons. The main ones I think are insecurity of themselves and or their relationships. They are also control freaks and can't seem to help it. And or they grew up in a houosehold where this was modeled to them.

I was with someone like that for 20 years and it did nothing but break me down, until I finally woke up and left for good. I am not saying that this is the best thing for you to do, I am just saying that it is what I did. I have never been happier in my life and am now engaged to someone who does NOT do that and doesn't believe in doing it, let alone anyone else doing it.

Have you talked with your husband about how you feel about what he is doing? If not, I would do so. If that doesn't help, then I would consider counseling for the two of you, and him alone as well.

After what I went thru for so long, I would never let anyone control me again. I hate to see others controlled by someone. It is a h**l that only those who have been or are being controlled can understand.

Good luck!

Answer 3

He's now not ordinary. He casts you in a 'unwell' position and uses that to justify abusing you. It can be known as altercasting and it is just yet another manner of 'pathologizing' you. He is blaming the victim, and yet, you're a victim of his abuse. He says you're doing these matters given that of your earlier, but he's the one dragging all of it up. Why? To avoid accountability for the way he influences you. He claims that he can control you while you cannot. Fact is, he can't support himself, he need to be a faulty character so blames you so he would not have to develop up' or outgrow his 'childhood' or face his possess private demons. If any person wishes counselling it's he. There are such a lot of transference and counter-transference disorders going on between you two it is going to most of the time not ever get sorted out. Where did he be taught to be this fashion? What can you do to change him? Depart him, please go and in finding any individual precious of you, anyone who can understand and admire you. Any person who sees that when you're prone, he's going to preserve you, as an alternative than kick you. Someone who will Love you for who you're.

Answer 4

Not knowing the dynamics of your relationship with your husband I can only make several general observations.

#1. If you are a working wife, he might be threatened by your potential to upstage him as the tradtional provider for the family.
#2. He could have insecurities brought on by stress and other variables.
#3. He grew up with a poor family model. (i.e. same pattern in his parents)

There are many other potential reasons for his behavior, but you need to elaborate more on the situation in order for us to offer better advice.

Answer 5

It goes back to the stone age, your his girl and thats what it is.

You know your man, you know how to turn his head any which way you want. you know what to do. If you don't like something change his mind with out him knowing. You know what im talking about.

And don't give him too much of a hard time. Your his girl and he loves his girl. unfortunitly guys are pretty dumb about how they show it you know they gotta be manly

Answer 6

Testosterone. They think they need to be in power all the time. Think about it--have you ever heard of a woman starting a major war?

Answer 7

I think that he has low self-esteem. You are partners. He shouldn't try to control you. Some people "get off" on telling people what to do. Remind him that you are as one and that you aren't his child.

Answer 8

What is he doing and what signs is he showing? If he is then put him in his place and stand up for yourself. Do not let him walk all over you and treat you like a doormat!

Answer 9

Someone has to be in control. If you're not in control of yourself, it is up to your husband to be in control of you.

Answer 10

Just protecting you from that mean old world.