Is there any girls here that didn't get orgasm in sex?

Question

I'm married for almost 4 years now but i didn't get any orgasm. According to sex expert you make a mistake when you get orgasm. Just one thing for sure it's nothing to do with his penis size. Ha...his also gentle and do it sometimes long time just in case i get it but i never felt it. One time he said there's lady's who never get orgasm is it true? he said also that maybe i never get orgasm because i have so much nerves problem. One time i told him I get orgasm just so he don't pity me to much.

Answer 1

Let me try to give you an answer...

From what I understand, it is not just SOME women who never orgasm, or who have a very hard time coming to climax. It is MOST women, especially women under the age of, say, 25 or 30. Apparently, it's just one of those differences between men and women. As for yourself, don' worry about it at all, you just belong to that category which is the majority (which is to say, yer "NORMAL"). Don't concentrate on climaxing, and don't make it a big thing. Just try to take it easy. If you want to concentrate on making it happen, though, you might try getting your husband to find some other way of pleasuring you. Another thing which I have found out, is that many woman CAN achieve climax through oral stimulation (him on you, not the other way around :).

As a male, finding out these facts helped my ego a little. I've never brought a woman to climax.

Last of all, please don't lie to your husband about orgasming. It's just a slippery slope to lying about other "small" things, and it's a sure way to undermine your intimacy. Be open with him. Trust me, he's not pitying you, and his ego don't need the "bump".

Answer 2

Women in general have a harder time reaching an orgasm than men. Before I married my husband I never had one. He knows what makes me feel good. All I can say to help is to tell him what works good for you, or you can even show him what you like. Maybe a book will help get you started.

Answer 3

Some don't but there are steps you and/or your lover can take to get that climax...have your lover stimulate your clitoris during sex, and the "g spot" is located on the inside wall just behind the clitoral wall. Your husband can stimulate this with his finger or penis or sexual toy.

Practise stimulating your self and letting him hand stimulate you to find out what kind of touches work best...this way when you two are having intercourse he will have a better idea of which way to send in his penis. Also watch porn...women often deny them selves this pleasure because of stigma around it...watching sexual acts can stimulate your nerves making you more ready to receive your lover...If you are shy about figuring out what you like while your lover is there...wait till he goes to work and try looking stuff up in the video section of your favourite search engine. Any more info needed email me.

Answer 4

I've read all the other entries, most of them are good, but none of them suggests that maybe your head is not in the right place. Environment, where and when you have sex may have much to do with your inhibitions. Are you truly alone or is there people in the other room? Do you feel safe to express yourself? I mean...do you move (shake that bed)...do you vocalize (groan, breath, squeal, yell etc.). Do you try different positions, like you on top? What about fantasy...where's your head, where's his? If you're worried about what he's thinking (does he think I fat, am I making stupid faces, do I sound like an animal) you are not going to relax enough to feel what's going on. If all that's in check, maybe he's not rough enough with you. Women are not made of glass and we are built for multiples . We are the only animal on the planet that can have an inney and and outey orgasm. We are sexual by design. If you're not, take my advise and try harder! Check your heart; loving someone doesn't mean you lust him. Do you feel lust for your husband? If not, have you ever? Has he become a father figure to you or a little boy you care for? You certainly wouldn't want to make love to either of them. If this is the case maybe you can talk to him about this. If all else fails try to fantasize him into the man you desired enough to marry. Maybe you don't think he apprieciates you, does he listen to you with his heart? Women need to connect heart to heart with their lovers. We need respect, to feel beautiful, to feel sexy, and to totally trust our Man. If this is out of wack...we're no good in the sack! Our heads have to connect with our hearts have to connect with our vaginas, not the other way around.

Answer 5

Finger the g spot furiously (or use a g spot viberator), masterbate the clit fast at the same time (like rub a power viberator on your clit). Maybe have an object in your a-nus. You have to be horn*y in order for the orgasm to work, so you may want to incorporate goat weed. G spot is inside top wall of vagina.

Answer 6

dont fake it. the more that you fake it, the less of a chance you will actually have one. sometimes stress can play a factor. sometimes, the sensitive areas can be not as sensitive as they should be. check with your gynocologist on the physical and a therapist on the mental. but yes, some women rarely achieve the orgasm.

Answer 7

Many women do not experience orgasm but it is rarely their fault but that of their partners. Young men are notorious for premature ejaculation because of their overexcitement and inexperience. Most of them learn to do it properly sooner or later.There are women, however, who are actually frigid because of traumatic experience or overly rigid religious education which can also be a source of psychological trauma.

Answer 8

I honestly don't usually organsm during sex, although my boyfriend is well endowed. I always, always orgasm when he gives me oral sex. I am more stimulated by my clitoris than my actual vigina. You may want to ask him to give you oral sex or try new positions or bring in toys. Just an idea.

Answer 9

Many women do not get a orgasm from penetration alone, many women, myself included need clitoral stimulation.

Answer 10

Go to a doctor. Yes, sometimes women do not have orgasms during intercourse. Sometimes, a doctor can help you.