Why is my birth mother so nasty to me?I havent done nothing to her and she is always threatning me saying she is going to tell my partner all this crap about me..like make it up...and her sister adpoted me from birth so at least we are still family but she hasnt spoken to me for like a week now..and tha funny part about it is...is that I dont care if she doesnt ....she gave up 5 or us and kept 4 of her kids...and now is like I am tha blame for something that she had done...I dont get her sometimes..and I have talked to her and told her how I feel ..but she thinks she knows it all...Now I hold alot of anger towards her....and she is evil sometimes...she doesnt even notice her own grandchildren...confused and angry I am...HELP>>>>>:)
2006-06-15 11:57:17 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Thanks ppl...More advice would b great..and Yes I agree with cuttin her off until she knows where shes at...but its been like this for like years now..and yes I really love my mum that brought me up...and yes when I c how my birht mother is treating me...I have told my kids..I will never treat them like that...as U only live once.Thanks...:) More ppl More...:)Ty
2006-06-15 12:06:25 · update #1
Situations like this are so hard. I myself, thankfully, have never had to deal with something like this, but know many people who have.
My mother can be psycho sometimes too, but there's controllably pyscho and just plain evil psycho. If you've tried talking to your mother and it doesn't help, I would say see someone preofessionally, and talk to them about how it makes you feel. You say you don't care, but we all care one way or another, whether we admit to it or not. I said for years I didn't care what my mother thought, but at the same time I denied who I really was for her, because I was afraid of disappointing her.
I wish I could give you some sort of sound advice, but all I can say is the best of luck.
2006-06-15 12:05:30 · answer #1 · answered by Agent Double EL 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible that your birth mother has unresolved issues that she unwittingly or deliberately has failed to recognize. That is what society calls "being in denial". As a result, she may feel that she has to threaten you to cover up her own feelings of low self-esteem and guilt for NOT noticing her own grandchildren. I would recommend that she enter therapy immediately so that you can have peace of mind and your "inner" circle can thrive with love and security. I can't make any promises though. Some birth mothers refuse to respond to any suggestions by their adult children. But I wish you the best of luck!
2006-06-15 12:06:33 · answer #2 · answered by piscesnsecurities 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say that she has a personality disorder. Don't get into confrontations with her. You can't win because she has a mental problem. I am glad that you were raised in a stable home. Your adoptive mom is your "real" mom. Forget about a woman who had 9 children and would give up 5 of them. You have to know that there is something seriously wrong with her.
2006-06-15 12:04:02 · answer #3 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A mother should be the one person a child can always go to. All you can do is break the cycle of abuse by doing EVERYTHING necessary to make sure you don't treat your children that way. Professional counseling would be a very good first step.
2006-06-15 12:02:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother needs psychological help....or she needs to be on meds. Do you really think a woman who truly loved you and cared about your well being would say such things?? Please for your own well being, it is time to cut the ties at least for the time being. In the future if she does manage to get herself some help, maybe you can rebuild the relationship. Until then, cut the cord
2006-06-15 12:01:07 · answer #5 · answered by blueyedfaerydoll 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first do not be mad with her.. she is not a normal person (it sounds like that) so just enjoy your life with your kids and the woman who raised you up. she is your real mother...
2006-06-15 12:01:42 · answer #6 · answered by Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why bother with her? i would not worry about her get on with your life. i was lucky when i found my birth mother it was great.dont worry about what she says she messed up her own life you had nothing to do with that. she hates herself and taking it out on you.
2006-06-15 12:03:06 · answer #7 · answered by greeneyes634970 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn by example, never rise your kids like she raised you. should i say never raised you
2006-06-15 12:03:25 · answer #8 · answered by fatjoke2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's mad at something in the past and she doesn't know she's taking out on you.
2006-06-15 12:02:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget about ur brith mother and move on with your life.
2006-06-15 12:00:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋