Ihave a live in boyfriend we been together for one year he does everything but don't want to have sex.?

Question

we;; he is not cheating on me he just has a problem in the touching department. every time i want to talk about it he doesn't want to talk. every night when we go to bed he doesn't touch me
how can i get him help.

Answer 1

You need serious counseling. This just not going to work unless you get to the cause of his lack of interest. He may need a physical check-up, too.

Answer 2

Wow,
Tough one to call. There could be several reasons why he doesn't want to. Have you two ever had relations at all? Several things come to mind. First is he might be gay and is not interested in having sex with women and just don't know how to tell you. Thats why when you bring it up he don't want to talk about it. He could still be a virgin (maybe) and just don't know what to do. He could be waiting til gets married. He could just be unusually small down there and is embarressed about it. It really could be a ton of things. But I'm going with my first guess that he is gay and still in the closet. He probably loves you very much, but only as a friend. I think you should just be blunt and to the point. Ask him why he don't want to do anything. My girlfriend and I have been together 17 years. I could not imagine living with her and not touching her.
I have a few other ideas if you would like to hear them. there are certain things my girl would do when I wasn't in the mood that would get me in the mood. You can email me at [e-mail] Good luck with your problem, Jack

P.s.- you can't help someone until they want to help themselves

Answer 3

Men are endowed with a strong chemical compulsion to have sex. This isn't to say they are controlled by it, but even casual sex comes easy to most men. You shouldn't have to work very hard to convince him to have sex with you, so if he is resistant to the idea, there is most likely a psychological issue in the way. Working through what ever it is will require a great deal of emotional energy, and if he is actually gay (as some here have suggested) "getting through it" means helping him to realize it, and he'll leave you in the end, happier and mentally healthier. That won't make you happier and healthier, though, so figure out what you want to invest. Help him if you love him, but dump him if you're not sure. It will save you a lot of anguish and esteem issues to find someone who can reciprocate you affection.

By the way...if I were you, I would ignore Jack's advice and his invitation.

Answer 4

If he is going to bed with you, it is not waiting till after marriage for sex because if you truly believe in abstention until after marriage, you don't crawl into the same bed with your lady.
You should talk to him and find out exactly what is going on. Is he a virgin? Is he a victim of child sex abuse with issues? Is he afraid of premature ejaculation? Is he afraid to expose his manhood (penis size)?
Does he allow you to perform oral ?

Answer 5

He's not a boyfriend,he's a roomate.Couples living together usually enjoy some type of sex life.

Answer 6

Maybe he's a traditionalist and doesn't want to have sex until he marries you. Have you discussed this with him?

Answer 7

it seem to me that he have a childhood problem, you need to be very gentle with him if you love hin this is something that he is going to work out himself

Answer 8

You can only have sex after marriage!!!

Answer 9

Don't marry him if he asks. He needs serious help!

Answer 10

helloooo, when are you going to see that he is GAY!!