my family opposes my decision to marry a divorcee for religious reasons?

Question

this person loves me and i him - i have no doubt about it but my family's critical stand frustrates me sometimes. how can i convince them of the real world beyond sacred texts.

Answer 1

If he treats you like Gold, eventually everyone will see it's real

Answer 2

I don't know how old you are so it is hard to answer this question. If you are of age the choice is totally yours legally and you can do as you please. If you love your parents as well as your religious beliefs then you had better do some checking into the persons affairs to find out why he separated from his previous wife and get some truths to prove to your parents that the divorce was a necessity for him and try to convince them he is worth marrying. Too many women are vulnerable to being taken in by jack-asses who mistreat their wives and toss them out at their will. In either case it's a damned if you do and damned if you don't sitsuation. I believe that the main thing is that your parents love you dearly and only want the best for you.

Answer 3

start slowly, neither you keep bringing him home into your room watching a movie or play xbox, doesn't matter. Just get him more into your family life. Then your parent can see that he is in your daily life. Or you can start sleeping over at his place twice a week or so, to a point where they know you to have sex already. They will give in.
But if you want your family to respect him and honor him into the family is going to be a long road. Here is fews things he can do. Is that someone moving he or out that require a man to carry stuffs. Does your house need painting or gardening. If you man is a good man, your parent will see that. But it is going to be hard.
But I wish you the best.

Answer 4

This is 1 where only you can decide what to do.

If your family are extremely religious you must realise you may be faced with the ultimate decision...them or him.

I believe that real true love only comes along once in a lifetime & you shouldnt let it pass you by...if this person is your true love I would go for it regardless, but I dont have the same problem.

However, I did have to chose between my boyf & sister...she made me choose & she lost...luckily for me the rest of my family were v.supportive.

Answer 5

Seriously? Speaking from a divorced man's perspective, I say do it. Why? My ex and I both come from strict Catholic roots. Both families didn't think we'd get divorced and neither did we ... but we did. So here's the point I want to make: Time will heal all wounds. If this guy is Mr. Right and Mr. Wonderful to you and for you, everyone else including your family is background noise. They'll get over it when they see how well he takes care of you. And any parent wants that, to see their baby will be taken cared of if they are not there.

Answer 6

Ask yourself which means more to you the love and respect you get from this man or the approval of your family.
You may have to give up on one of them, you cannot change peoples heartfelt beliefs it is a major, essential part of who they are.
If you all cannot reach a compromise then you will have to choose.

God is said to forgive the sinner so surely your family should try to do the same?
I'm sure you can find some verses in the bible to back you up on that, maybe you and your boyfriend could talk to your father/pastor/clergyman and get his advice and help

Answer 7

Turn the tables on their, their relgion and their god logically spitting in their face all the real bad things it does... Whats the relgion I'll give you ammunition. But them on trial and hold them guilty by conspiracy...

ie if islamic look at all the contries supporting female circumcision or stoning and threaten to have them stones...

If chritainity how about witch burning or all the abuse in their kids homes.

They must be made to obey you and aplogise. not you them. You are right, they are wrong. if they don't like it tough on them.

God cults are usually homophobic and sexist theirfore evil...

Ie how many gay wars have their been? what about all the nice witches killed for healing the sick...

The jews robbing the palestinains of their land making their lives **** then crying when they hit back...

Answer 8

You shouldn't have to explain to your family who you're in love with. They should be supportive of your decisions and have faith that you know what is best for you. It sounds as though your family is just trying to watch out for you and they only want what's best for you. Perhaps talking to them about the situation and reassuring them of the feelings you two have for each other would help to alleviate their concerns.

Answer 9

You need to talk to your family and let them know how you feel. Just because they don't approve doesn't mean you need to listen to them. It's your life and if you love this man then go for it and get married. They will get used to it eventually and they will have to learn to respect your decisions.

Answer 10

Chances are you won't. Other question is-- what religion? Was he previously married in the "church" (or other religious ceremony) or was he married in a court (civil ceremony).

If the later-- you could also play the-- it wasn't in church so it doesn't count.

not knowing the circumstances of his divorce, you could also play that angle-- e.g. did his ex cheat, leave, etc.? In other words, was the divorce not of his doing?

good luck-- follow your heart and make sure your ready to be with him and he you.

Answer 11

Do what you feel is right and what you would be happy with... if you tink being with him will make you happy then do it.... dont do what other people think you should do cause you'll never be happy if you dont do what you think is right. and honestly you cant really covince anyone exspecialy in something they belive in that is so important like religon... just tell them like it is and if they love you they'll be behind you every step of the way.