2006-06-15 10:16:39 · 19 answers · asked by crazytexasgirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Not unless you are completely alone in the affair.
2006-06-15 10:19:21 · answer #1 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it possible that you would allow your mate to have an affair with out you knowing? If you would know, wouldn't your mate also know? If you would be jealous of another person being with your mate, would your mate not also. If you could do that to your spouse, is there really a marriage at all?
**This comment is to enhance the one made by I_am_the_dida and scooter trash**
I have read some of the responses you've gotten. I can only say that "What goes around comes around" is true. From the good things we do in life, good will come. From the bad things we do in life, bad will come.
It doesn't really matter if you get caught, or not. What matters is what will be in your heart afterwards. You will have already been caught by you. Chances are that you will seek the expected punishment whether consciously, or not.
**This comment is to enhance to one made by xbrex43, dancingqueen378, and Jer**
Yes, break up with your mate if you feel the relationship is unsavageable, but DON'T jump into another relationship. It is best to give much needed time between relationships. One, to heal. Two, so that you don't carry one relationship into the other. Even if you are in a relationship that you don't like, the next person will be judged according to the previous relationship(s) unless you put the much needed time between the two relationships.
When we are in a relationship, we have a good idea where we stand with that person. Your mate will move, act, and react in certain ways. The person in the new relationship will move, act, and react. The problem comes when your mate acts, reacts, or moves a certain way that will cause you to react accordingly. However if the relationships are too close, you may be reacting to the wrong person. This will cause unexpected reactions by the person in the newer relationship.
**My comment to yummymummy**
Adultry knows no gender... Sure, men have been doing it for years. But, so have women.
2006-06-15 10:54:50 · answer #2 · answered by gejepsen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly yes... and I know this from personal experience.. I was his first love... I moved away he got married.. He found me.. we had became friends again.. then something happened that I was not expecting.. This went on for several years and now he is divorced.. His wife knew.. her and I are best friends... She is now with the man of her dreams and I am with mine.. so we are all happy.. If you are having an affair with someone and you do love them and they love you...then you do need to figure things out.. because it won't last if you don't.
2006-06-15 10:28:37 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you always have to think that you MIGHT get caught. Or maybe tell on yourself. You should really look at why you would want things to be that way. Commitment issues maybe.?
It is possible to not get caught but if you do, but someone will get hurt and it may be you.
2006-06-15 10:29:09 · answer #4 · answered by brokenheartsyndrome 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't have the affair at all. Break up with one person and be with the other. If you feel you need to have an affair because you don't have the balls to break up with someone, you don't deserve either person, or anyone for that matter.
2006-06-15 10:21:14 · answer #5 · answered by dancingqueen378 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why even have an affair?
Get rid of the person you feel like cheating on.
Seriously, what the **** is wrong with people
If its that bad, leave.
2006-06-15 10:27:26 · answer #6 · answered by xbrex43 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, men have been doing it for years. If you are smart about it you won't get caught but how are you going to feel about yourself? How is the person you're cheating on going to feel if they do find out? These are both questions you need to consider. I could never do it. The guilt would kill me and I couldn't bear hurting someone like that. I have been cheated on so I know how painful it is.
2006-06-15 10:21:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's possible. What you have to do is listen to your heart and pay attention! Do you really love the person that you are with enough for it to bother you? If the answer is yes... then you are doing the wrong thing for you and your "other". Maybe this might help, maybe not.
Just listen to your heart.
2006-06-15 13:43:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to be confused on what "Love is, and is NOT". If you have to SNEAK, CHEAT, LIE, that is not LOVE; that is Lust (LOST). Seek help from someone you respect and admire. There are consequences for everything we do, Good and Bad,
especially with our bodies. Be good, any one can be bad.
2006-06-15 13:23:48 · answer #9 · answered by Festina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lie will always catch up to you. Cheating IS the same as lying. A cheater/liar is a stinky assh*le.
2006-06-15 10:20:41 · answer #10 · answered by i_am_the_dida 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋