My boyfriend is in the Navy and is getting stationed far away. He wants to get married but I don't know if the military lifestyle is right for me. Do you move a lot and is it hard being away from each other for long times at sea?
2006-06-15 10:14:57 · 9 answers · asked by Caitlin B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Not only am I a Marine wife but I as in the Navy and I'm a Navy brat. My parents both spent over 20 years in the Navy. You do move a bit (usually every 3 years) and yea it's hard having you hubby gone. I honestly thing the strongest people in the world (mentally and physically) are single parents and military spouses. My husband left for Iraq right after our first child was born. I was far away from family and didn't have many friends. Not only did my son and I survive, we thrived! I learned alot about myself while he was gone and our marriage is stronger for having gone through that.
I was born in Italy and lived in Peurto Rico for three years, how many people can say that? I think it's wonderful!
You're more than welcomed to e-mail if you would like to talk more on the subject.
2006-06-15 10:32:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I got married at 18 to my boyfriend in the military, We moved to California right away. It was hard he was gone days weeks months at a time and it gets lonely. I ended up moving back with my mom while he was gone for his 6 month tour the 2nd time because the first one was too hard to deal with being all alone in a strange place, especially because I was pregnant the first tour and a new mom the second time. We have been married for 7.5 years now and if you truly love each other you can get past the lifestyle. I hope that helps.
2006-06-15 10:24:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You (and your close friends and family) are the only ones who can answer this question. Are you an outgoing person? If so, you won't have problems finding friends since you will most likely move a lot and you will also have many long periods of time where you will be left alone. When my husband was home, I did great...but I am shy and didn't like it when he left. I couldn't hang out with our "married" friends because all of a sudden I was single. Also, I am very independant and didn't like that I would get a great job that I loved and then have to give it up because he got an assignment. In the end, I guess it wasn't for me.
2006-06-17 07:50:38 · answer #3 · answered by spain_105 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question you should be asking yourself is, do you love your boyfriend enough to want to be married to him? The moving and deployment issues will be variables in your marriage, but not the final factor that decides whether or not the marriage is right for you. You can always get over or deal with a deployment or a move, but if you aren't ready to make the committment to your boyfriend, you'll never get over that obstacle.
With that said, the military lifestyle does not have to take over your life. If you're able to make friends outside of the service and still keep an active role in the "civilian" world, it helps keep everything in perspective. Good luck!
2006-06-18 15:33:05 · answer #4 · answered by qleavitt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, depending on his rate and his sea/shore rotation, you MAY move every 3-4 years. Some of the larger bases do offer sea or shore duties (Norfolk, VA...San Diego, CA) so you may get to stay in one area longer. Being apart is hard, but something you have to accept to be with the one you love. There are many things that could be worse than a seperation for a 6-9 month cruise! If you love him and want to marry him, go for it....enjoy the opportunity to see new places and make new friends!
2006-06-17 06:21:05 · answer #5 · answered by yogazen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in the Military for seven years and I can't tell you the countless times I have had to travel away from home. But thankfully I married a wonderful man who is understanding of my job and my ambition to go far. I know it hasn't been easy on him but he knows I will be forever grateful for letting me fulfill my dream. You may find that you love being a military wife; and all the perks that come with it. And as always absence makes the heart grow fonder.
2006-06-15 10:43:58 · answer #6 · answered by RX2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes a strong, independent person to be a military wife. I am married to an Army oficer and it hasnt been easy. I love my husband and I support him . Yes you will be away from home, family and friends, but you will meet new people and will get to go to a lot of places. You will be by yourself a lot of times, yes they go to war. Some of them more than once. Some of them dont come back. Its a very hard decision for you to make. Good luck to you.
2006-06-22 09:54:25 · answer #7 · answered by xadralix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I loved being a Military wife!! I met my best friend while our husbands were stationed at Carswell AFB. You will love it if you at lease give it a chance.
2006-06-15 10:21:17 · answer #8 · answered by joonam_21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard but you can do it with support of other wives!! i'm a marine gf also!
2006-06-19 04:34:33 · answer #9 · answered by Hill's Wifey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋