Iv been married for 6 yrs now last year left my family on business, came back 8 mos later, my husband was able to get a visa to travel with me overseas, right before we left for america he found out that another girl was pregnant with his child( withheld info from me) until about 3 days ago i found out that this girl had a boy by him, should i stay or should i leave he said it was a mistake he was only with her 1 time because i left him for so long, and promises never to do it again he says he loves me and poeple make mistake, but the fact still remains there is a baby involved although the child and its mother are in jamaica and we are here in america, he also gave her money for an abortion and she didnt get one, when she asked for the money to get it,, do you think he will contact them behind my back, even though he cant leave america for 5 yrs while he is filling for permanent residency? also he doesnt know if the child is his, what should i do, this gurl is a ho,
2006-06-15 10:14:45 · 6 answers · asked by jayrok027 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
IF he doesnt know for sure that the child is his..than dont do anything. She might just be little hood rat trying to make something up. It was wrong for your husband to have dont that, very very wrong. But it is up to you to be able to forgive him or not. If he truly honestly told you that hes sorry and it was a mistake, than you should know from anybody else, if hes truly sorry. So wish you the best of luck.
2006-06-15 10:27:40 · answer #1 · answered by Happily Married 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave, get out. If he didnt tell you about the affair and used the excuse about you leaving him for so long he was with her more than once. You mention he is filing for perm residency, how long did you know him before you married? Where is he from? Something just doesnt sound right. Run a full background check on him.
2006-06-15 17:26:57 · answer #2 · answered by Stewiesgal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lets say the girl is a ho. does that matter? let's talk about your husband... can you live with this? it's a trust issue for certain. if you can just forgive and pretend it's all the girls fault i would caution you to take another look. i expect more out of my husband and without trust we wouldn't have anything.
2006-06-15 17:27:21 · answer #3 · answered by JayneDoe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this kind of situation, the most important thing is trust. Can trust the word of your husband? Would you still be able to accept him no matter what? I can suggest that you may try to weigh if he can still be trusted inspite his failure.
2006-06-15 17:52:15 · answer #4 · answered by mom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I would have a paternity test run to see if the child truly is his. Then, it's up to you to decide if you want to keep him and his baggage or leave him.
2006-06-15 17:20:53 · answer #5 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave. He proved what he does behind your back. "When the cat's away, the mice will play."
2006-06-15 17:30:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋