Is it wrong/dangerous to love a married person?

Question

I mean really love that person and not just lust after them. To really and trully know that person loves you to,but because of certain circumstances you know that you two coulod never be together. ( i.e. you are married also, he is married to your friend, age difference)

Answer 1

It is wrong, and yes it's dangerous. First of all, you are setting yourself up for disappointement. Secondly, your actions (should you choose to act) will affect not only your relationship with anyone you know, but also his//her family and friends.

Don't be that other person. Run from them, hide from them, lock yourself out to them...as though they are dead.

Answer 2

Well, a lot of people are claiming that they would never get involved with someone who is married, but the reality of the matter is that people do it all the time. I think the concept of marriage has dissolved into a temporary alliance that gets trashed as soon as a someone "better" comes along. The problem I see all adulterers face is this: You love who you can't have, but once you have them, the love dies and you will most likely cheat on them as well, or they will cheat on you.
If you like living in a world of distrust, then go for it. But cheating will NEVER bring you the happiness you think it will. The worst is when children are involved. If you are married and have kids, stick it out for the sake of the kids, unless someone is being abused. People need to stop being so damned selfish and so determined to be "in love".

Answer 3

I was actually in this situation for a few years before I decided to walk away from it and marry the man that is my husband now. The married guy I was with was not a lust relationship. It was mad love. I have never experienced anything like that before and since. Follow your heart and do what feels right to you. I learned a lot from that relationship. I don't treat my husband like I own him and he is welcome to have other relationships if he chooses. If the married man's wife was as open I don't know where I would be today. I'm glad that I got out of that relationship because I found my husband and things have been good.
Love & Light
Sharon

Answer 4

Who can say it is wrong I can say it will be hurtful to all involved...But look closely because it is hard to know that you love someone when you are not really with them...Keep in mind that no matter what anyone on here tells you we can not decide if this is wrong for you but if you can never be together than you both need to do whatever you can to save the relationships you have and move on so as not to ruin innocent peoples lives

Answer 5

The mere fact that you are asking this question already tells me that you feel it is wrong. I can understand that you can truly love someone who "belongs" to someone else. Sometimes, you meet someone "too late" and he/she is already promised to another person. It depends how the other person feels about you and how much of their response is true, or just embellished by your love for that person. try to stay away and focus on other things in life. You won't be highly regarded for breaking up a relationship and I am not sure how much this could influence your feelings for the other person. Unless the other person is separated or on the way there, keep your feelings to yourself.

Answer 6

It is never wrong to love another human being, but to be "IN LOVE" with a married person is not only disastrous, heart breaking (normally to more than one person), and emotionally stressful to all parties involved. As difficult as it may be to let go, I highly reccomend it. God has someone intended for you who is unattached. I know what I am saying is easier said than done when it comes to matters of the heart, but as humans we should respect the feelings of others before ourself, and that means to avoid hurting the innocent spouse of the married person. To gain from another's pain is wrong.

Answer 7

Definitely wrong. If current circumstances change in the future and you are both no longer attached, look each other up and get together. If its truly meant to be it needs to be handled the right way otherwise you start living a lie and both families suffer.

Answer 8

It is both.
There is a reason adultery is wrong... and I don't just mean sex.

His mind, body and soul have been sworn to another and when those vows are broken it breaks something other than the marriages. It damages your ability to see the difference between right and wrong... proof? You are online looking for other people to tell you it's ok when you know absolutely that it isn't.

Good luck... and I pray neither you nor him have children. Broken homes do SOOOOO much more to damage children than anything else our society tolerates.

Answer 9

Just asking this question should give you your answer... if you think its wrong/dangerous, then most likely for you it is. It's called unrequited love... I can sympathize tremendously... the woman I've had a crush on for nearly 17 years has no idea of my feelings for her. I've had to mask them and haven't told anyone how I felt. There are some complicating factors such as age difference that's kept me from coming out and declaring my undying love for her. Just sitting on the sidelines longing for her.

Answer 10

It is wrong to lust after anyone.
True love is to do that which is in the best interest of the other person. So, just be platonic friends. If you can't, then go separate ways.

Answer 11

Yes, I think it is because of the fact that you can get hurt. And, even though it seems like it's meant to be, maybe the circumstances are trying to keep it from happening, just do your best trying not to dwell on the feelings, and just be friends.