I was with a guy for 6 years, we had 2 kids together. We broke up, then it was like i had to force him to see our kids. He started dating again, and i havent even thought about it. But, he came to me about 2 weeks ago wanting to patch things up, and possibly give our relationship another try. I wasnt sure and i said i needed a little time, he was fine with that. Last night i told him that i was starting to feel like i was ready to try again, and that i still loved him. He blew me off, and left me alone to cry. I dont understand why, or how he could do that? I think that i should just move on with my life and just worry about myself and my kids. But a lot of my friends keep saying "dont give up on him yet", any opinions on this matter?
2006-06-15 09:19:59 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
hurt me once--shame on you
hurt me twice--shame on ME
2006-06-15 09:24:40 · answer #1 · answered by catastrophic event 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for you pain.
Broken relationships are among the most devastating things we experience as humans. I remember when I would get lonely after breaking up with a girlfriend, after a certain amount of time all the bad memories and reasons we broke up would fade away. Eventually I would really start to miss the good, which is all I could remember. That is the moment of weakness. When are so lonely that you make the phone call you know you should not make.
You situation is interesting because you have 2 children with this man. If he was interested in getting back together you need to test the waters first because anyone who would run out on their kids like that would really have had to change significantly before they are ready to accept their role as a baby-producing member of society. It doesn't sound like he has, but I don't know him and you do. Use you best judgment and ask yourself if he really wants to be back with you or is he just lonely. Keep in mind here that your children have already lost a member of their typical nuclear family and any unneeded drama is not fair to them either. A two parent family is always preferential, but if the father was just a DNA donor and not a father, you and your children are better off without him.
2006-06-15 09:37:21 · answer #2 · answered by askjohn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to focus on you and your kids. He probably did that to test your resolve and to prove that he could have you back whenever he wanted, to prove that he knows how to pull your strings. You may not want to give up on him, but give him the impression that you have, and see if he chases you and begs you for another chance, you need to be able to discern if he is being sincere. Don't fall for petty lies and fake whines.
Be strong and firm, even if it hurts you to, and tell him that you are moving on with your life. Let him know you are your own woman and dont allow him to manipulate you. Its obvious you love him, but sometimes you have to look beyond that for the sake of your sanity and pride. Chances are you will be happier in the long run.
All the best.
2006-06-15 09:57:51 · answer #3 · answered by birdy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did he call you just to see what you would say ? Does he want only what he cant have ? Is he pissed off that you didn't say yes right off the bat ? Any way you slice it your unhappy and he's the cause. He didn't even want to see his own children. Why waste any more time on this guy ? Open your life up to better things.
2006-06-15 09:25:04 · answer #4 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he has time for you when he doesn't have anything better to do. He's immature & playing games with you. He doesn't seem to care about you or the kids. you obviously aren't happy so why bother with him? Always put your kids & yourself first & don't ever depend on a man for your happiness.
2006-06-15 09:33:39 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it another try. Don't be a selfish coward like C.A. was.
2006-06-15 09:23:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋