2006-06-15 09:16:17 · 6 answers · asked by daniwani 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hey MARICV...I loved your answer and would like to hear more...could you email me directly at danicali8@yahoo.com...Thank you!
2006-06-15 09:28:34 · update #1
Because libido and weight are not related.
Many heavy woman have strong sex drives and many skinny woman have weak sex drives.
Losing your weight probably will make no difference to how you view your husband.
2006-06-15 09:22:12 · answer #1 · answered by northwestguy45 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear asker,
What yu are experiencing is a common psycological chance cause by motherhood. Because you have a small baby you feel "guilty" to be a sexual person if you are a new mom, and in a way, you feel as if you would be "betraying" your baby.
Motherhood comes with not only psysical changes but also emotional ones. You change from "all about me and my mate" to "all about the baby", This is a natural psicological change in other to better care of the infants.
Normal or not, you have to take care of your man because he hasn't changed psysically or emmotionally like you have. Do not neglect your partner's needs because he can find pleasure elsewhere and you won't want that.
Get a close and trusted relative or a licensed babysitter, and get the man some TLC. Men need this psysical conection and you are his wife. Try to please him. I understand that is hard to concentrate when you have a colicy baby or your are just psysically exhausted because of sleep deprivation and the constant work of caring for an infant. However, try to find some time for both of you...don't neglect your marriage and your man..... don't make this mistake. You have to put effort and nurture your relationship, it's not about the weight,,,,, it's about being committed and loving your man enough to get over yourself and at least try.
Good luck
2006-06-15 16:28:23 · answer #2 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After our second child my wife lost all sexual urges. Doctors said with chemical
She is attractive as when we married. Turns heads. Does not care at all.
I understand the situation. I still love her as it is not her fault. But she and I have not had sex in years. But we are together for our children.
Rember the old B&W movies that showed men and women sleeping in different bedrooms...that's my house.
2006-06-15 16:31:29 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had to tackle this issue with my marriage. I had a baby 16 mos. ago, and my sex drive has completely plummeted! I feel "dirty" having sex and caring for my son. It's a weird Freudian thing. I've lost all my baby weight (and then some), but I still don't feel sexy. Let me know if you want me to share more.
2006-06-15 16:20:34 · answer #4 · answered by maricv 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are referring to losing the weight you gained while pregnant, this does happen...there is a hormonal shift after pregnancy which may be effecting your libido...the same shift may cause post-partem depression, depending on the person and circumstances...speak with your doctor...also, you may simply be tired and run down from dealing with a new baby
2006-06-15 16:20:43 · answer #5 · answered by twentythree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was with my second husband, I was quite overweight. He would make remarks like "You disgust me" and call me a fat pig.
After losing over 100 pounds and looking quite good, I had no desire for him anymore.
I figured if he couldn't love and accept me when I was heavier, then he didn't deserve to make love to me when I wasn't.
2006-06-15 16:19:36 · answer #6 · answered by dubbledee71 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋