If someone says "You don't need any friends because you have a family." What do you think of this statement?

Answer 1

are they trying to imply that you're too busy with your family to support any friendships? this is wrong: you always have room for friends. a true friend will understand your priorities, and allow you to devote as much or as little time to them as you are able. we are ALL busy.

maybe they mean to say that you shouldn't be allowed to have friends... your family is most important. again wrong... you DO have the right to have friends. cultivating friendships outside the family can be very rewarding, as they can give you perspectives you may be unaware of, and can be an outlet for you.

it's possible they really mean to say that your family is (should be) the most important thing in your life, so far as relationships go. this may well be true, but it's not a very nice way to put it. i'd say you should put your family ahead of your friends, but you certainly have the right to have both. and if you're VERY lucky, the two will mingle and become greater than each would be individually.

Answer 2

I agree with your other answerer: this is definitely a statement made by a person with big control issues. I've heard this same thing before when I was very young (we had a family of six and us children were close in ages). Since I was chronically ill with severe asthma as a youngster, it was hard for me to make and keep new friends. So I thought this statement meant I didn't have to look outside for good friendships and relationships and I could just stick by my family for everything. Wrong! Family is not the same as friends. Two completely different concepts here. Your family is tied to you and you to them throughout your lifetime; and nobody gets to pick and choose their family members. Family and friends are separate relationships because you must have that outside contact, that third party who is bonded to you through blood and can deal with you in many ways that family cannot. Families are a wonderful, fortunate thing to have, and in your case whoever said this to you must love you to want you all to themselves, but friendships and other personal relationships are just as important as families.

Answer 3

That sounds nice to say but what when your family is gone? Are you then to be alone? We have the ability to choose our friends and over time really good ones become family. We are assigned family and over time, really great ones become friends. Sounds like the say'er of your statement is trying to avoid losing a potential family friend.

Answer 4

I don't like that statement because I feel that everyone should have a friend that they are not tied to by family. There are some things you just don't want to go to your family about.

Answer 5

I guess it depends on who's saying it. I'm a 35 year old single mother of a 16 year old girl. I date, socialize with friends (clubs/movies/dinner) about once a week.

My sister, on the other hand, has been married for 23 years and has four children. She NEVER does anything with anyone outside of her & her husband's family. She gives me a hard time about not only doing things with them.

She also admits that she's jealous of the fact that I do have a circle of friends and that she's closed herself off from making any new friendships.

My point: Don't compromise who YOU are for someone else. It's normal and HEALTHY to have friendly relationships with others outside of your family.

It sounds as if whoever said this to you has a problem with insecurity, jealousy and control issues.

Be careful!!

Answer 6

A relationship is based on two emotionally healthy and fulfilled people who care about each other. I don't think it's possible for two people to be emotionally healthy and fullfilled if you don't have friends outside your family. Interacting with other people is an important part of life, and if you spend all of your time interacting with the same few members of your family and nobody else, you'll get boring and bored, and your relationship will likely fall apart sooner or later.

Answer 7

Their selfish and that you should reconsider the relationship, because being around the same person day in and day out will make you nuts and cause problems in the relationship. Men and women should always have an outlet (friends) to sort things out before they go home and cause bigger problems. If he is telling you this then he needs to have a valid reason and cause ain't one.

Don't be couped up in the house, family or relationship and become miserable..Good luck!

Answer 8

Friends come and go...Family is always gonna be there...My mom used to tell me this when I was younger and I never wanted to believe it...I always wanted my friends and thought that spending time with my family was boring....However, the older we get, the more responsibilities we have as TRUE friends...You will see that the people you considered your friends will not want to live up to those responsibilities...We sometimes outgrow even our best of friends and when all that has come and gone...Guess whos still there to catch you when you fall?? You family...Now I'm not saying that true friends don't exist....Tons of us have friends...I have more associates than friends and oh yes, there is a difference...

Answer 9

The person making that statement is insecure in their own relationships, not to mention very selfish and self-centered. Be confident in your choice to have friends outside the family.

Answer 10

Life says you get to "choose" your friends, but your always "stuck" with your family. What do think about that statement.