What do I do? I am 17 and just found out I am pregnate. I told my parents and they want me to get an abortion.

Answer 1

Follow ur parents order....They love u....I know its hard..to make ur life better n easier follow their wish.......this is not at all the right time.....GOOD LUCK.....GOD BLESS.......

Answer 2

Well, I put my fiance' in that position 4 years ago. Her parents were divorced...her Mom wanted her to have it, her Dad said get an abortion. She didn't even think twice about the abortion; we have a beautiful daughter by the way (obviously she didn't go with the abortion). But you need to do what YOU feel is right. Scientifically, a fetus isn't functioning until 3 weeks in, so you won't be killing anything if you do it before you are 3 weeks pregnant. But it is a hard decision, I am pro choice. I don't recommend it unless you are strong willed to do so. There are always protestors outside of the clinic and you practically need a police escort to get in (from what I hear it's just like the movies when someone goes to have one). You cannot have a single regret about doing it. If you aren't ready to raise a child, you can do that, or even have it and give it up for adoption. Trust how you feel, not the opinions of others, ok?

Answer 3

MMMMmmm I can understand that. Of course if you have the baby - you will love it, and so will your parents. A lot!

What they worry about is this:

If you have the baby, it will make your life twice as hard. You'll miss out on, most important, your natural fase of becoming a grown up.

Whether you are 17, 20, 25 or 30 - some things happens to you when you give birth. Your life stops for a year or two. When you are 25 or 30 this does not matter much, but when you are 17, it matters alot! So much happenes when you are 17 - it has to do with selfesteem, friends, its the most important period in your life when it comes to socializing and making life long relationships you know - all that. Consequense of this is that when you give birth to a baby when you're 17 or 18, you're natural teenage developement stops for a while, so when you are 21 and the child 3 (for instance) you'll maybe act and be as a 17 or 18 year old in your mind. Can you relate to this and understand your parent's worry?

Secondary comes their worry about you losing your friends cause they will continue to study and get a life with partying and boyfriends - you also lose the ability to do this with your friends. They worry that you'll get the need and urge to take this back when your child is , say 5 years old.

You know; I agree with them - I'm a pragmatic. I'd do the same for my daughter.

Good luck to you any way!!!

And please keep this in mind: abortion is not killing! I understand how sorry people hwo can't have babies must be, but do not take this personally right now. It's tough and sad to do an abortion - you'll cry and feel sad, but your parents will support you and be there for you. Trust them on this.

Do not even read the answer below. Please

Answer 4

Do you have other trusted adults that you can talk with? Abortion isn't always the best answer. If there's no one else for you to confide in call 1-800-395-HELP. Pregnancy help consultants are available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. (The Option Line is owned and operated jointly by Care Net and Heartbeat International.)

If there's a Planned Parenthood Clinic near you, they will also have counselors that you can talk to about your options.

Just remember that you will have to live with your decision (good or bad) the rest of your life. What is best for you may not be best for someone else....we are all different. Your parents think they know what's best, but at age 17 you are old enough to make up your own mind. Please get help.

Answer 5

You're about to become an adult, with becoming pregnant and turning 18. It's your choice to whether you want to get an abortion or not. I'd have the baby and raise it, even if it goes against what your parents want you to do. If your parents don't agree with your decision, I'd go and find help to try and get aid and money to help raise the child. It is ultimately your decision as to whether or not you want to have an abortion or keep the child. We on the internet can only make suggestions. You need to decide from what we say and what you want as to whether or not you want to get an abortion, give the child up for adoption, or raise the child on your own. Good luck with the decision you make, and I hope your parents and friends will realize you made the right decision for you. I also hope your significant other understands the situation and your decision.

Answer 6

Well, I'm not a women but I have spoken to women that have had abortions and they regretted it tremendously. If you can give the child up for adoption to a family that has strong family values do that. Tell your parents that I don't want to regret harming a child for the rest of my life. Plus you will be doing a great service to the family that would adopt, they may not have the ability to conceive. Ask your parents if they would have aborted you when they became pregnant and if the answer is no then why should I do that if you weren't willing to do that to me? And once you have given the child up for adoption don't not enter back into the child's life. Yes you made a mistake but don't make a second one by killing a child. Just own up to your mistake and ask for support and understanding.

Answer 7

Abortion i murder. Do you want to be a murderer. Okay so your young but you have 2 realize this is a human you are bringing into the world and the gift of reproducing. I would not get an abortion there are many ways teen moms get help for there babies if the father isn't there. You ll be fine and people say then it ruins your life the truth is you and your partner made the decision of sex so u have to deal with the consequences not by ignoring it by get-tin a abortion. Keep your baby!!!

Answer 8

You are so young to have such a burden. Just remember that everyone comes into this world for a reason. If you go through with it then maybe adoption is the way to go. There are lots of deserving couples that will love a baby. If you chose not to keep it and abort the child then it will be a decision you will never forget. You will make the right decision. Chin up :)

Answer 9

(it amazes me how many people on this site can't spell pregnant)

Do you love the baby's father? If so why not get married - if your parents will not sign for you to do that, hopefully the baby won't come until you're 18.

Does the baby's dad love you, and want the baby? Is he of age to get married? More importantly, is he free to do so?

Many people will say I'm wrong for posting this answer--the reason I am is that at 17 your parents should not be able to "force" you to get an abortion if you don't want one.

If neither you, nor the baby's father want the baby, or to be together--at least have the baby and put it up for adoption. So many people who cannot have children would be happy if more people did so.

Answer 10

It depends on what you want.
They can't make you have an abortion, but a baby is a huge responsibility.
Just look at most adults - even tey mostly fail at parnthood.
Baby is a lot of work, sleepless nights and no social life for about 15 years. It's not all that romantinc "someone to love" thing.
And anyway - you're before tha age of consent - what are you doing having sex and getting pregnant. Be happy your parents aren't dragging the guy to the police station.

Answer 11

I suggest you get an abortion. My former gf did it and she turned out okay (I wish I could say the same for our relationship). A few hundred dollars right now is a small price to pay in the long run. You're waaaaay too young to be worried about taking care of a baby. Just get the abortion and be more careful next time.