I have a girlfriend overseas and she is very young so am i. i am at the point of break where i don't enjoy this anymore. i used to take long distance relationships seriously but as i grew older i realized that they weren't that meaningful to me. but it seems like she is taking it very seriously, and i don't know what to do. i feel like i should take my chances with the girls i can see easily instead of waiting 6 months before i see my girlfriend. please can anyone help me out to deal with that. i need some advice.
2006-06-15 08:55:57 · 10 answers · asked by Izzo_3x 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
She's on the other side of the world!. What are the possibilities of you and her seeing each other?. I may be wrong for saying this,but I think you should find someone closer to home. I don't think she wants to hang on to the relationship,she wants to keep you from seeing someone else,and who's to say she is'nt involved in another relationship right now?. I would 'nt wait 6 months to see a so-called boyfriend,and he's not going to wait for me!. Both of you should move on. Pick cherries in your own back yard.
2006-06-15 09:03:17 · answer #1 · answered by Squeakers 6 · 2⤊ 4⤋
The question is if you think she is the right person for you, not the distance...
If you think she IS and you would like to have her beside you for life, distance should not be a problem. In such cases you don't question it and you can bear the distance even if you say "I don't enjoy this anymore" sometimes... cause yes of course - it is not easy!
I think distance is a good trial for a relationship. Those who are longing only for comfort will remain always unsatisfied anyway... cause life changes and you cannot tie the other person down to stay and be with you and aroud you physically 100% of the time!
Even the girls you date in your area may wake up some day that they wanted to try a 6 months elsewhere with study or work... and then what do you do? You have to start again from zero, with a new one! What did you get in that case? Nothing. You even lose what you had before for sure: a girl who took it seriously.
Don't forget: "no pain, no gain"!
:-)
Wish you strength and clarity of mind.
2006-06-15 09:07:43 · answer #2 · answered by Hibernating Ladybird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am soon to be in another long distance relationship. My boyfriend is in the military. If the love is not there, it's not worth the time. I feel, with my relationship, we'll make it through. But if it doesn't seem to be working, I'd much rather tell him than to drag things on. Hearts heal and can love again...this I've learned with many past heartbreaks. The longer you wait though, the more it hurts and the harder it is to get healed. So I'd say you should go ahead and end it if you have any doubts...which it sounds you do. God will bless you with the right person when they come along...and always remember, if this girl is the "right" person, you guys will end up together anyways...
2006-06-15 09:01:48 · answer #3 · answered by beautyforall@marykay.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was involved in a long distance relationship for 3 years. I agree, it's rough for both parties. There has to be a large amount of trust and communication thru phone calls and letters, or in this case e-mail. Good luck to you.
By the way, we ended up getting married and lasted for over 20 years.
2006-06-15 08:59:40 · answer #4 · answered by City slicker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no point in stringing this girl along if you no longer have feelings for her. Just tell her the truth. That's a lot easier it deal with than little white lies that you tell because you "don't want to hurt her feelings." Just tell her the truth.
2006-06-15 09:00:19 · answer #5 · answered by Muddy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are going to do it, then just do it and get it over with. End the relationship now. Youare both too young to be dicking about with long distance e-relationships.
2006-06-15 08:58:01 · answer #6 · answered by aimee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the truth, you'll break her heart but she will get over you and start over her love life.
2006-06-15 08:58:08 · answer #7 · answered by BelleVie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
break up!! or wait till she eventually breaks up.
long distance relationships is a big failure. it doesnt work period.
2006-06-15 09:00:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to do what makes you happy. if this relationship is stressful and emotionally hurting you, then break it off.
2006-06-15 08:58:54 · answer #9 · answered by Rock Goddess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break it off.
2006-06-15 08:57:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋