how do u get over a loss in the family?

Answer 1

There is no magic foruma for getting over it, and there is NO set amount of time for the grieving to end. The pain of your loss will become less and less sharp as time goes by. But you will never foget, and you don't want to do that. Everybody grieves in their own way, so just let it happen. You haven't really lost them, they will always be in your heart. They may not be here, with you, but you now have a brand new Guaradian Angel.

Answer 2

I'm sorry for your loss. When I was 9, my mother passed away. It's always been hard and now it's 21 years later and I think about her all the time. But life is for the living. I know my mom would be very proud of the woman I am today. You just have to hold on to those good memories of happy times spen together. You can also start a foundation or scholarship, which my father did in my mother's name. Sometimes helping others can ease your own pain. Time makes it easier to accept. There are also support groups you can join to meet other people like you who have suffered a loss. My condolences.

Answer 3

You just keep living. There's no easy way to go about it, or faster way, or whatever. You keep getting up each day, smile, breathe, and never forget the one you lost. My grandfather was the heart of my family, and pretty much raised me, he was a father to me and he was 96 years old when I was 18 but his mind was sharper than ever. He went through with a surgery he knew he wouldn't make it through, but I didn't know that and I was the reason he did it. He was okay after the operation, and I thought that the critical period was over and I was relieved. When I left the hospital the last words he told me was bye and I love you. He slipped into a coma and died the next day. I was the only one in my entire family who wasn't there when he died, but i think he wanted it that way, he made sure I wasn't. He was the only one who protected me, and he HATED seeing me cry. My last memory now is my grandfather casually saying and I love you, like we always did, as if I will see him again...and I know I will. It's been 4 years since then and it was so hard for my family and myself, but life does go on, and I think of him and smile EVERY day. Remember them and never forgetting them and why they meant so much to you, is how you don't get OVER a loss, but how you keep living through it. I really do wish you the best, and day by day it won't hurt as bad....I bet they're smiling at you right now, not crying, so smile back and they will always be there to help you through it too.

Answer 4

I don't think u ever really do. I lost my cousin over four years ago, and I still cry at times thinking of her. The pain subsides a little as time goes by, and the void does fill, and gets pushed aside, but the memories will always be there, and when an occasion comes up that they're not there for, it'll hurt, because u know that they can only be present in spirit now.

Answer 5

it is hard at first. I just had one about 2 months ago. It is hard. All uu need to do is tink about all the good times u had and what the person would say to u if he/she were there right now. It is okay to cry but u need to take a deep breath and think. Once u have done that try to do somthing fun with ur friends and dont think about. The best thin gthat u can do is pray every night. I hope that all goes well and u are able to have fun. I am sry bout the death.

Answer 6

my father's still trying to get over the loss of my mother from back in 2001.

I talked about it. I was open and honest. I saught help from friends and other family members. But the best help is to NOT HOLD BACK the greiving.

I'm sorry for your loss.

Answer 7

You never really get over the loss of anyone close to you. The only thing you can do is come to realize and understand that they are gone. You will always have a whole in your heart but in time the whole will mend but never be healed!

Answer 8

To be honset there is no cure for bereavement other than time. One thing you must do is stop asking questions...(why did this happen?, he/she looked fine the day before, etc...) there are NO answers to these things so you have to stop trying to sort out the details so that it can all make sense, it will never make sense.
Also, you have to try try your best not to dwell on it, not to bring it up in every conversation... Im not in ANY way saying to put the family memeber out of your head... you will always think of him/her and that is how its supposed to be BUT just keep it more private... find one or 2 people that you can talk to you and go to them wehn you need to talk about it.
Dont keep millions of pictures around like a shrine wither...keep one or 2 nice ones around and that is it (for now anyway)

Answer 9

Time is the best thing. Alot of times though talking about the good times with the person you have lost will hlep. Laughter is always the best medicine so remember the fun times and they will overshadow the hard times you are having now. Sorry for your loss.

Answer 10

You need your good friends. Something that's worked for me is trying to help those who suffer from the loss as well. This way you focus on them, and you realise they need you so you get better. Sorry for your loss.