for some reason I want to get pregnant! But I am only16! I think it stupid to have a baby at my age! Is there something wrong me or is it my hormones? Or is it just my head!? I dont know~! HELP!
2006-06-15 08:51:29 · 14 answers · asked by Courtney 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
No, there is nothing wrong with you. You already know that it's a bad idea to have a baby at your age, so right there, should tell you that you at least have your head on straight. You wanting a baby at a young age can mean that you have a lack of affection and love from home. So you think by you having a baby, you will get that love that your longing for. Keep your head in school
2006-06-15 08:59:18 · answer #1 · answered by sweet_truth 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you i had my 1st child when i was 16 and believe me WAIT if you can it's real hard to be a single mom at 16.... I tried to get pregnant cause my boyfriend and i at the time were not getting along and i thought that having a baby would fix everything.. Not only did it NOT fix anything, i missed out on some of the best years of my life... don't get me wrong i love my kids to death and know knowing how my life was gunna turn out i wouldn't change a thing... but at the time of everything it was real, realo hard to deal with but you don't have a choice after the baby gets here... so i say take your time... be a teen... enjoy it, you always have time for kids in the future.
2006-06-15 16:00:00 · answer #2 · answered by busy mama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't crazy and it happens to a lot of young women. I felt the same way myself at 17 and am so glad I didn't follow through with it. I personally feel it is a need we go through in our lives, whether it's because we have that urge to nurture, or we come from an unhappy home and want our own families to love, or it could be some other reason. Whatever the reason, fight the urge. You need to experience life a bit more to truly be a good parent and bring the best to the experience. Put it off and it will be well worth it.
2006-06-15 16:03:07 · answer #3 · answered by Trish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, you are CRAZY as HELL. Children are not toys and they aren't easy to have, either. The pain of child birth only last for so long, but the responsibility is forever, even after they are adults. They are not CUTE to have. A baby is someone who needs a parent that can care for it without the aid of others, esp. their own grandparents. When you decide to have a baby, why don't you wait until you are independent enough to beable to care for, provide for, and support(financially) the child yourself.
It's not always guaranteed that you will have the help of the father, so be patient and wait until YOU can handle the responsibility on your own, if necessary.
Think about the WHOLE picture, not just the fragments!
2006-06-15 16:12:43 · answer #4 · answered by honeyb43t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe you are looking for someone to love you. A baby will love his mother unconditionally. But you are right, you shouldn't try to get pregnant at your age. It is unfair to a child, and unfair to yourself.
You sound very vulnerable. You need to stop having sex. You are giving a very special part of yourself away every time you do it, and that could be leaving an empty hole inside of you. Start building relationships without using your body. You can say no, even if you said yes before.
I know, I've been there. My boyfriend broke up with me because he said I didn't love him anymore, because I didn't MAKE love to him anymore. But I *knew* it wasn't good for me. I really loved him and took a while to get over. But now it's been 12 years, and I 'm really happy. Married to a good man who loves me no matter what. And I have kids too.
You are in charge of your happiness. You can't rely on others to make you happy. Lay off the physical for a while, keep that part private, and find who you are, what makes you happy, and what you want. You'll get there!
2006-06-15 16:02:59 · answer #5 · answered by mommyjo2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's in your head hun! And it may be hormones talking!
You are right you don't need a baby right now!
You need to finish school and get involved in a relationship where both you and your partner understand the choice of having a baby and are willin to make sacrifices!
Babies are such blessings and derserve the best in the world! Bringing them into a world where you should be in school and where you haven't quite got everything figured out wouldn't be the best situation for them, and i believe its unfair!
If you want your child to make the best of themselves as well you need to be the best you can! Go to school, get an education and so on!
I hope this helps!
Good Luck!
2006-06-15 15:56:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt call it ruining your life! i got pregnant 2 months after i turned 17. It sux at first thinking of how and what your going to do to help the baby and take care of the baby. but i now have a job am married to my sons Father and we have our own place. I guess you would say i am one of the lucky ones... i thinkit is your hormones, and i do think you should wait. if i were you i would think about collage and all that first... in away i wish i had but then again i wouldnt change anything if i had a chance!
2006-06-15 15:59:50 · answer #7 · answered by AC 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your right your stupid for wanting a baby. If you need help to prove that your age and life style does not meet the needs of a baby, i have 3 friends who are about 16 (one's 15, ones 16, and one's 17) who would be willing for you to babysitt for a weekend and show you what it is really like to have a child depend on you 24/7 365. It's not easy to care for it and while your body is ready to handle it, emotionally and socially you are not.
2006-06-15 16:17:27 · answer #8 · answered by kansas2535 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be your hormones. Are your parents together? or not. Have you have a boyfriend and he broked your heart? I believe that it's both your hormones and feeling lonely that making you think like that coz you just want someone to love you. I think you should wait to have baby.
2006-06-15 16:03:32 · answer #9 · answered by kayla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to realize having a baby is though. Its more then just having it and taking care of it. Think about how u feel and plus ur too young!
2006-06-15 15:55:22 · answer #10 · answered by babysnare_09 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋