Seriously theres this dude who is indian and me being a pakistani girl im forbidden to talk to or see him due to the different races as well as religions (muslim/ hindu), we are young and confused and need a bit of insight on the matter so if possible plz try to help...
2006-06-15 08:17:28 · 9 answers · asked by titli uri 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I am in no way against people of different races dating, however, what is the goal of your relationship. If you are thinking of marriage, how will you raise your children and conduct your household. How will you handle attending religious services. This differences will become huge issues. If either of you are strong in your religious, you will think twice about dating someone whose religious beliefs are vastly different that yours. Ask yourself, do you or he really want to give up your current religion for a relationship? You may really like this boy and that's fine but the conflict of religious views will be great.
2006-06-15 08:24:35 · answer #1 · answered by truly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what ur going through. I have the same problem. No matter what, make sure both of u get ur educations and a job B4 u declare ur love to ur parents and move out together! But as long as u guys have e-mails, and calling cards, u can sneak around and call each other. If u guys go to the same school, or work in the same place, u guys can date one another(go early, stay late), and if the relationship grows, and u guys still want to be with each other, then when ur ready to take care of urselves, tell ur parents. That way, if for some reason, they NEVER approve, u'll be self-sufficient. But I do advise, if u guys do make it through, make sure religion and the culture that goes along with it doesn't ruin u guys, especially if this happens AFTER the parents know. Make sure u guys REALLY love each other, and this isn't just a forbidden fruit kind of thing.
2006-06-15 08:32:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly like and possibly love each other although tradition forbids it religion nor race should stop you guys from seeing each other. It's kind of like the forbidden love it just depends how far your willing to go to actually stick to what you believe in. Were not in the old days anymore and if he makes you happy stick to your guns and go with it. Even though your family might disagree maybe they'll respect your decision and let you live your life. Good luck gurly!
*We come to love not by fiding a perfect person but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly! *
2006-06-15 08:21:41 · answer #3 · answered by Mia A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know first hand I am a adult and my family disowned me and don't have anything to do with our children. It is terrible that there is so much hatred for other races. I have learned that its fear of the unknown and people fear what is different. I would write them a letter and explain how you feel and that you would like them to get to know him. I always wrote letters to my family, my motto is you cannot argue back with a letter. Also everyone needs to respect each others feelings. I think parents want whats best for there children and in wanting that don't realize that they are sometimes hurting them more then anything. I know it's not intentional at all. You have to have patience, respect , and honesty. I really wish you the best. Always stand up for yourself and fight for what you believe in.
2006-06-15 08:25:55 · answer #4 · answered by twinsmakesfive 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the two of you really care about one another. Your parents should see that and let it go. In today society things such as race and religion doesn't cause a big showdown. I suggest that you search your heart and go with it
2006-06-15 08:24:46 · answer #5 · answered by letish869 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you still live under your parents roof then you need to follow their rules. If you and this guy really love each other and want to make it work then you need to find the means to support yourselves and try to work on your relationship. Not too familiar with your culture and if they will eventually accept your decision once they see your happy. Good luck
2006-06-15 08:21:50 · answer #6 · answered by shae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the both of you love one other,then who cares what parents think.Yea,they are your parents,but they cant rule your life.Do what you feel is the right thing.One day they will come thou and see that their daughter is happy.What more should matter?
2006-06-15 08:24:03 · answer #7 · answered by ~Devilz~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are young, you should take heed to your parents but that's what being young is all about. loving and making your own choices. Trial and error.
2006-06-15 08:24:37 · answer #8 · answered by Tae Kwon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its best to listen to your parents, it won't work without their approval. Unless you live by yourself, you did not say your age.
2006-06-15 08:25:00 · answer #9 · answered by Ellyn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋