My daughter, son, and I are going to Texas to visit my mother for a month. We live in Arkansas. My husband is going to stay here. Is it possible that we will make it through this if I have trust issues with him???
2006-06-15 08:16:59 · 34 answers · asked by kemommi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you already have trust issues....it's going to be a very, very tough month.
I wish you all the luck!
2006-06-15 08:19:35 · answer #1 · answered by Ginny Lou the Peachy One 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mmmmm from a woman that has been there done that!! You can not sit or make your own self sick about what a man or husband is going to do, If he going to do anything he's doing it now anyway. You have known in her heart what is what, why are you holding on to someone that is not respecting you as a woman or a wife even as a best friend.. You have to learn what self worth is? You have to live you life as you want your daughter to grow up into, Love is not easy by far, time is priceless, tomorrow is not promised, either is family and love ones.... You can ask your mate to come visit you guys there for a week, but would it change the problem at hand and sometimes being you can sit down and go over your own life and find peace within your self to changes things in your marriage of the better or good.. Prayer changes a lot of things, you can't worry about something you can't fix only GOD can change the soul of one' s heart..
2006-06-15 08:30:02 · answer #2 · answered by M M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it should be fine, but if you already have trust issues with him then it could get ugly. are the trust issues just the way you are or because he has given you reason to doubt him in the past? how is he acting about the trip? if he's basically pushing you out the door i'd be worried (and i'd ask a friend to sorta keep track of him for you while your gone). oh well it will work out however its supposed to, maybe it will make you realize how much you miss each other and things will get better, then again maybe you'll realize that you really enjoy being without him and will decide to stay in texas. good luck to you either way!
2006-06-15 08:23:05 · answer #3 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not if you have trust issues.
Why is he not coming with you?
I don't think any relationship with trust issues survives , even if you are there with him. I'm sorry, this is probably not what you wanted to hear. Maybe you can use this time away to figure out if you really want to continue in this relationship. People take significant others for granted when they feel secure in their spot. I can bet you anything that if you told him that you were leaving him, and actually left it would be a wake up call.
Concentrate on you, your feelings, your thoughts, and what you really want. Enjoy your vacation and try not to think about what he would be doing.
2006-06-15 08:24:30 · answer #4 · answered by wonderwoman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have trust issues with him you should explore that way before leaving for a month, if you want to stay married. One month is too long. Trim your visit to two weeks, or leave the kids with Mom and come back for 'em after 3 weeks, and spend a week with mom. Or have your husband come out during the middle weekend, it is not that far from AR to TX.
2006-06-15 08:22:27 · answer #5 · answered by boogersmama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a lot your not saying, if you dont already trust him, you've already answered your question.. No it's not gonna work. What is the trust issue, do you think he'll cheat on you? Why does he want to stay? Come on now, open your eyes... The guy your married to, who you dont trust, doesnt want to come with you, and you doubting if your marriage is gonna work..? COMMUNICATION IS KEY!!! Talk Talk Talk, If the issue of trust was ruined by infidelity, chances are you wont believe if he's telling the truth (or not) when you do return back home.
2006-06-15 08:22:21 · answer #6 · answered by Abstract Expression 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be able to trust your husband. If you do not trust him then you really should not be with him. Look inside your heart, and you will know if he deserves your trust. Talking openly about trust issues may also help.
I think it is a great thing to bring your kids to spend a month with their grandmother. We live in a motorized world today. A hundred years ago, which is a blink of the eye in humanity, this type of thing was common.
"Absence makes the heart grow fonder"
2006-06-15 08:21:53 · answer #7 · answered by barter256 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a sound basis for trust issues? Or is it simple paranoia?
If you are going, you should go. Your husband can screw around on you while your home just as easily as if you're a few hundred miles away - trust me on this one.
If your marriage is doomed to failure, whether or not you're home will make little if any difference to the end result - it may just speed things up a bit is all.
2006-06-15 08:19:41 · answer #8 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u have trust issues, don't leave him open to temptation. But if ur just a bit scared, but certain that he wouldn't jepordize ur trust,marriage,friendship, and the wellness of ur kids(nothing leading to separation), then, yeah, give him a tiny test, but be confident, no worrying about his fidelity once u get to mom's house. God will show u if he's been good. Put ur faith in that. If that ain't enough, take him along, or reschedule your trip, or just send the kids, and u guys chill alone, and maybe...he'll help u trust him again.
2006-06-15 08:21:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to go on your instincts , by you asking this question makes me know that you think something is going to happen when you leave. All you can do is put your trust in him and hope that he loves you enough to do the right thing. Talk to him before you leave and let him know that you love him and trust him and you hope that he feels the same way and value you and your marriage. If something do happen after that then you have to make a decision what is enough and then do it, leave him.
2006-06-15 08:30:18 · answer #10 · answered by reeseusps 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll make it through the trip just fine, enjoy yourself. The trust issue you have with your husband, will still be there when you get back. How you choose to deal with "that," is the question.
2006-06-15 08:25:30 · answer #11 · answered by uconnramfan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋