Is it hard to get them to do a good job on their chores? am I expecting to much. Example, tell her to pick up the branches under the weeping willow tree. She does, but doesn't bother with the branch just past the tree. Isn't it a no brainer. She knows we're picky on certain things, is she being a teen or just lazy. She's a great kid, just does things half way when she knows better.
2006-06-15 07:59:16 · 15 answers · asked by ? 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
You have to understand how she is thinking. She is expressing that she really doesn't want to do this chore but she will obey you. Therefore she only does exactly as little as she can get away with.
Tell her that she is smarter than that. You know that she knows what you mean when you tell her to pick up branches. Make her go back and do the job again, right when she is busy with something. Explain that if she had done the job properly the first time, she wouldn't have to interrupt her fun to finish the chore.
2006-06-15 08:06:04 · answer #1 · answered by crgrier 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lazy, and a mild smart-aleck. She knows perfectly well that you mean all the branches in the general vicinity. She won't pick them up willingly as her own form of "payback" for you making her do chores. And if that's her only chore, you're definitely not expecting too much. If you give her an allowance in payment for the chores, I would suggest "convincing" her that a good job is needed by not paying her the full price when she does a bad job. You can point out she needs to do such-and-such, but don't try to force her to do it. She's old enough to know better and will have to go through the consequences for doing things half-arsed.
2006-06-15 08:13:02 · answer #2 · answered by Belie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know I only did as much as I had to to get by. Challenge her to have higher standards. Let her know you expect a better job and that she knows what your standards are. Certainly, don't let it slip. They will challenge you and take every inch you will give them. It's not on purpose, just kinda some programming they get when they turn 13. But also, if she only does a half-*** job on her chores, what does she do in school? Sure, she might get A's and it's hard to say she's doing anything wrong there, but is she being challenged to reach her full potential, work as hard as she can? It's just something to think about because I know I never did more on an assignment than I had to, though I know I could have done some great work. Now I feel like I'm lazy and could do so much more, but I've gotten used to just doing enough to get by.
2006-06-15 08:14:10 · answer #3 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not expecting too much. During that age most teens are just thinking about hanging out with friends or doing their own thing. Chores is the last thing they want to do. Obviously it is not in her interest to do chores so when she has to, she doesn't care too much because she feels that she has much better things to do. It's just a teen phase. She'll learn to take initiative after a while.
2006-06-15 08:13:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 14 year old daughter (she's the baby) and getting her to do anything without whining is hard.
We have tried doing it together, we have tried the keep doing it until you do it right thing or redoing the chore, we have tried getting paid and we have tried grounding. All have worked at different times.
I would say just remember you are her parent, not her friend and sometimes 'because I said so and you won't get to go anywhere, talk to anyone or do anything until it's done right' is a perfectly acceptable way to handle it. She doesn't have to like it or even want to do it - but she has to do it.
2006-06-15 09:16:04 · answer #5 · answered by Miss Vicki 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's testing you.
Teach her that doing the chore correctly the first time would have eliminated the extra trip out there to redo what she should have done the first time.
I always did age appropriate chores, and yes I hated them, and my friends didn't have to do chores. Now that I'm an adult, and have seen how many people were never made to take care of themselves, pitch in and do their share for their family, I've decided that I was lucky to have learned how to take care of myself, my home, and my belongings.
Glad I didn't have to learn the hard way. Immensely ecstatic that my parents taught me a work ethic.
2006-06-15 08:15:22 · answer #6 · answered by niffer's mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She naturally doesn't wan tto work hard for no rewards. You tell her what you expect and to go the extra mile every once in a while and tell her she gets payed or a reward for obeying. Make her feel loved no matter what and just think of when you were a teeager...mom and dad didn't know anything and you wanted to be independent.
2006-06-15 08:29:21 · answer #7 · answered by cracker2423 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shes being a teen and she doesn't want to do it... and who the heck makes their kids pick up branches from underneath a tree? and it sounds like u make her do it often... chores are supposed to be like washing dishes, washing clothes, sweeping, mopping, dusting, cleaning their room, and vacuuming... but not ALL of those, maybe 2-3 in the same day.
2006-06-16 20:27:20 · answer #8 · answered by amber 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ohohohoh... this is soooo familiar.. my stepdaughter will be 10 really soon. we asked her to wash the dishes, and she did, but she didnt wash the pots and pans.... and she tells us thats it because they arent dishes... its so nice to here that my daughter is not the only one doin this. but i honestly think thats its just a faze.. as much as i hate it, i have to be VERY specific with the child now. good luck
2006-06-15 08:12:54 · answer #9 · answered by BigMaMa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup, just being lazy & stubborn. Typical teen crap.
2006-06-15 08:06:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋