My Wife is a Biach!?

Question

I am sick with cancer and my mom is here taking care of me. My wife has never been much of a houswife. She just recently started taking care of her own kids. My wife is more a career woman than a homebody. She tries but she just doesn't fit the bill. My mom runs circles around her in the cleaning cooking and pampering department. She is more attentive to my needs. She is available for me 24/7. For example. One night at 2am I nudged my wife awake to aske her to bring me a glass of water. I have a terminal illness and am bedridden so I can't do these things for myself. She gets up with an attitude and brings it. I don't have to worry about that with my mom. She does everything I ask with a smile. My wife quit her job and stopped going to school she says to take care of me, but, she doesn't do half the things my mother does. My mom wants to leave and go back down south because my insecure wife doesn't want her around. I know I will not recieve the care I have been getting once my mom goes

I have aches and pains all the time. I ask my mom for a massage and get it with no questions. My wife moans when I ask her and then gives me half of a massage. I can count on my wife financially but she just can't cut the mustard where it really matters. She is super lazy! I knew this when I married her but I really need her now. I am going away with my mom. I know for sure my needs will be met with her. I don't trust my wife to take care of me at all. She's incompetent.

Another thing is she can't get over the past either. I cheated on her repeatedly throughout the marraige and I have told her how sorry I am, but, she keeps bringing it up. I am ill and I can't deal with her drama right now. I need to be in a good frame of mind so I can heal. She is going to kill me with her constant nagging and whining. Am I being unreasonable?

Answer 1

I think u need to do what u feel is going to make u happy. If living with your mom is what u need right now, then do it. If your wife was any kind of wife she would do anything and everything to help u. Maybe this is just too much for your wife to handle. I sure would not treat my husband the way she is treating you. Yeah, I am sure she probably gets frustrated with everything, but that is no reason for her to treat you the way she does. How would she feel if the situation was turned around? I don't think she would enjoy getting treated like s***. Go with your mom, at least she seems to care. Good luck!

Answer 2

You are one seriously confused puppy, aren't you? By your own statement, your wife brings home the paychecks, and you criticize her for not being a housewife. You say you cheated all over the place on her, but now that you are dying, you are sooooo sorry. Yes, you are sorry that you are dying, but not for cheating. I think you should count your blessings that your wife hasn't left you to your mom. If I were her, I would have been gone long ago. And you biotch about her??? Perhaps it is your meds or pain that makes your outlook so warped, but you are certainly not coming from a real place.

Answer 3

well i know you don't want to here what i got to say your wife is showing you what kinda of hell you put her through ...two wrongs don't make it right but i can see where shes cumming from and maybe you should leave with your mom you ll be better off and then maybe your wife could let her Gard down Little a be a better person and i want you to know if i was your wife i would have sent you packing along time go you Brock your promise to her and she is still there with you and you need to stop and think i would have bad feeling for you two cause when she need you .......you stepped out on her you should be happy see is even by your side your luck and stop being so dump SORRY I DIDN'T WANT TO PUT IT LIKE THIS TO YOU BUT YOUR BEING SELFISH

Answer 4

You are being a momma's boy. Cancer or not, you need to try and do things for yourself, not just sit there and biiatch about yourself. Your wife don't wanna help you cause you act like your paralized. sure you are hurting sure she needs to be there for emotional support, but she ain't gotta be at your beck and call 24/7 she deserves some her time as well. You get up off of your lazy *** and tell her thank you for all the help you give me. Have you ever told her thank you?

Answer 5

It sounds like you need to see about getting professional help. If you are on SSD then there are programs to help. If you are not, then you should be. As far as your wife being a biach, it seems to me that she has a point. I wouldn't want to take care of someone who had cheated on me in the past. I am sure your mother is also tired (physically) from taking care of you. You need a nurse, or some kind of professional help.

Answer 6

you are a baby grow the fu@k up. you may be in pain but your being a big pain why at 2 am would you need water Fu@k go to bed. that is how life is and you know what your karma is kicking you in the A$$ with cancer for your cheating. and if you can use the computer you can get your own water. what goes a around comes around

Answer 7

What comes around goes around. Now the shoe is on the other foot. How do you think she felt when she needed you and you were too busy somewhere else. Go live with your mom and let your wife have a life.

Answer 8

for being as sick as you say shouldn't your mom have typed this and maybe a mothers pampering is what you need maybe you should get an at home nurse to care for you so mom can go home and your wife can do the bread winning she may be overwhelmed and scared for you as for the cheating karma came back to you you didn't care for her now it's your turn

Answer 9

Then go with your mother. Have you ever been a caregiver and seen things from their point of view? Every now and then the small things DO GET ANNOYING.

Then there is also the fact that apparently you weren't to nice to her in the past. You cheated, i wouldn't have stayed and supported your scrub *** when things got tough, once you staid "I've cheated" you would have kissed my career woman *** goodbye.

Answer 10

You said you knew she was like this when you married her, why do you think she will change just because you are sick...as far as her complaining and not taking care of you, it sounds to me like both of you guys have a love and respect issue...you don't respect her by cheating repeatedly, she sounds like she is deeply hurt and is having a hard time healing herself from that blow.