been married 12 years. 3 kids. he doesn't spend time with them or seem to notice they are even around. but swears he will fight me to the grave for them. they are young...3, 4 and 8. i thinkhe is saying it just to keep me here....is he bluffing and should i call his bluff, or do i stay because of them? and if i take them and leave, is it kidnapping, could it be held against me? not across the country, just to a friends house?
2006-06-15 07:42:41 · 11 answers · asked by melissa 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
leaving to a friends house is not kidnapping. and call his bluff, if you take care of them just as well if not better, they wont just give full custody to someone. most states are joint physical custody anyway...good luck...
2006-06-15 07:51:51 · answer #1 · answered by ckck1978 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were u I would contact a lawyer before doing anything. There is nothing wrong with taking your kids with u to stay at a friends house, as long as it is not out of the country. Your husband is probably just bluffing, but I wouldn't take any chances. Discuss everything with a lawyer that way there won't be anything for him to use against u in court.
2006-06-15 15:31:45 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can pack up your kids and go to a friend's house. That is not kidnapping. Where it can get hairy is if you refuse him contact with the kids. If you are serious, leave then contact a lawyer. Do not stay just because of the kids. They can see you are not happy, I'm sure. There is no reason for you to stay miserable, just to try to improve their lives. It won't work. If there is a chance in the marriage, try to get him into counseling. If he won't do that, talk to the lawyer. You aren't making any final decisions by contacting a lawyer. You are just getting advice in case you do leave.
2006-06-15 14:50:22 · answer #3 · answered by mine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a legal separation. You will win custody of the kids, but ... be careful, if he is spiteful, he may end up kidnapping them...all kinds of things to think out here.
2006-06-15 14:46:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried talking to him about the time he spends with them? He can fight you for them but it doesn't mean that he will win. Have a friend in the same situation and she won custody
2006-06-15 14:47:39 · answer #5 · answered by bill c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can take your kids wear ever you want there yours.
you must talk to your lawyer now.
file with the courts for a divorce & temp.custy.papers
this way he cant get them untill you go and talk with the judge.
if it takes a year he cant get them..
also has to pay child support till thain.
GOOD LUCK.
2006-06-15 14:56:31 · answer #6 · answered by glennmettlen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I wouldnt want to be miserable for any childrens sake. They know you are misreable and can feel that and you dont want to raise them to think that is normal or acceptable. He probably will fight you just because he doesnt want to leave you....but you owe it to yourself and your children to try to be in a happy environment.
2006-06-15 14:47:07 · answer #7 · answered by boomerang3que 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to a lawyer to see what you can do they will give you free legal advice if you call the right people
2006-06-15 14:45:35 · answer #8 · answered by buzy_bee_21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is NOT kidnapping if you are still married! get a lawyer and sue his butt.
2006-06-15 14:52:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-06-15 15:10:59 · answer #10 · answered by anginfla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋