My bf has no drivers license. My parents want me to get an abortion which they said they would pay for.
2006-06-15 07:37:40 · 19 answers · asked by idog 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
MY bf was also busted for drugs early this year but has finished comm service. He says it does not matter to him if I get an abortion.
2006-06-15 10:23:24 · update #1
No abortion!!! Call planned parenting. They will help you get money to buy groceries to eat while pregnant and after, they will help you with everything. They will even help you put it up for adoption if need be. Dont get an abortion, cause many many people would love a newborn. Also a botched abortion could kill you or make you sterile. Love your unborn enough to not kill her. Let her live even if its not with you.
2006-06-15 07:42:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you feel about this? Do you think you would feel remorse if you aborted this baby? It's really about your morals and mindset here.
Do not let people lay a guilt trip on you. It is your decision, and not an easy one. Rather than taking any advice from people on this site, because I know you will get a lot of bible-thumpers telling you not to kill your baby, I recommend you find a friend or family member that you trust to talk this through with. It sounds like your parents are trying to be helpful so they might even know a professional counselor that you could talk with to help you make your decision, and possibly refer you to reputable agencies to assist you with adoption, abortion, or pregnancy management.
What ever you do, do it quickly, because you don't want to wait long if you choose to have an abortion. Of course, if you choose to continue with the pregnancy and have the baby, you need to begin to take the best care of yourself.
I wish you strength and all that is best in this situation.
2006-06-15 14:51:09 · answer #2 · answered by nighthawk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As another person has told you about the abortion, you and your boyfriend are the only ones that can decide to do it or not.
BUT, I encourage you to not doing it. Unfortunately you had sex before been married, before been able to sustain (economically) any type/kind of relationship/consequences, and without any conscious sense of your acts... I encourage you to rethink all this. Take your time, think about what are you going to do. Don't think about what you have done, because it has been done, but think in the future WITH your child.
Under NO CIRCUMSTANCES I agree with abortion, because that little kid didn't asked to be alive, didn't asked to come by; all was your decision. Make your economic/financing plans for the baby; look for help, you will definitely find it. And above all other things, look for Jesus Christ, I guarantee that He will change your life and give you all what you need; give Him a try!
Best wishes...
2006-06-15 15:05:37 · answer #3 · answered by dioshy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that there is no way for youto take care of that child then I say why bring a child into the world...I was 17 pregnant neither me or my now husband were finished with highschool or had a liscense neither of us had jobs...I graduated from homeschool my now husband didnt graduate at all...but things worked out he went into the navy, i now have a 2 year old and a 3 month old and am doing fine...so the point im trying to make is...
It really is your desicion, if you trust that your BF will and can take care of you and the baby then he/she is a keeper, if not then i would weigh the options of do you want to do it alone...Im only 20 so I dont know if you want to throw out my advice or use it...
2006-06-15 14:48:15 · answer #4 · answered by mrs.wright 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is something that you and your boyfriend will have to decide for yourselves. I personally do not believe in abortion, for many reasons, but mainly, I don't think I could live with myself knowing I killed something I created. The child did not ask to be brought into the world. Please carefully consider all your options. Adoption has been mentioned in some of the previous postings and I think it is an option that you should consider. Most adoptive parents would be more than willing to cover your medical expenses, etc. Also, you have options on the types of adoptions: open, closed, etc. Please weigh all your options before making a rash decision. Only you and your boyfriend know what is best for yourself and the future of the unborn child. Best of luck!
2006-06-15 14:48:59 · answer #5 · answered by rockinout 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH HONEY!!!!!! Yahoo answer is not the place to answer this question. I am pro-choice but do not forget that while your parents might pay for the abortion YOU have to live with it forever. Consider your options, although it's hard to imagine right now, ask yourself if in 10 years you will have regret over whatever you decide? We should not live with regret. You might have regret no matter what you and your bf decide so choose the lesser emotionally painful for YOU!
Have you considered adoption?
2006-06-15 14:43:10 · answer #6 · answered by girlysledgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally i dont believe in abortion. there are so many couples out there that can't have children and would pay your medical expenses for the child to be born. look into adoption before abortion. i know women who have gotten abortions and it is something that will really mess with your head. at least if you give up a child for adoption, you can discuss with them before hand possibly staying in touch so you can still have contact with the child you birthed.
2006-06-15 14:43:14 · answer #7 · answered by Earthy Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 2 kids are my Priority. & if I were in ur situation a would not get an abortion no matter what the situation is. There is always light at the end of the tunel, believe me. Please do what ur heart tells u to do.Otherwise U may regret it in the future. My Best wishes to U and Ur Baby!
2006-06-15 15:45:16 · answer #8 · answered by Madam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not abort the baby. If you can't take care of it, put it up for adoption or find a loving couple to take care of it. How would you feel for the rest of your life knowing you killed your own baby that you helped create.
2006-06-15 14:41:58 · answer #9 · answered by sundragonjess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my cousin took abortion pills and tried to abort their child 17 years ago. the abortion was not successful and my niece lived and turned-out to be good and smart. she graduated last year with honors.
after the graduation, she learned about the unsuccessful abortion... it broke her heart and tears just fell from her eyes while holding her school medal she offered to her mom (my cousin) as a gift for helping her graduate. and the only words she uttered were: "was it my mistake for being alive and conceived 17 years ago, and i deserve to be aborted and killed by my own parents?"
she still is doing good in school, and stayed a good daughter to her parents... but still cries from time to time.
i know you have realized your mistake and it is going to be hard to bring your kid up to this world. but think, if you were the kid inside your womb... would you like the idea of being aborted?
2006-06-15 15:03:12 · answer #10 · answered by Ross 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋