Should I divorce her or wait?

Question

I told my wife before we got married, I didn't want a fat wife and if she got fat on me, Im steppin. I mean like she knew I caint be seen with no fat chick. So here it is, just three years later and she done put on 50 lbs. At first, I thought she was pregnant but she took a test and it came back negative.

Well, I done told her a hundred times I'm leavin if she don't lose the weight and I'm beginning to think she dont believe me cause Ive been sayin the same thing for a whole year. I mean, I used to love her, but hell, AINT NO WAY I'm gonna love a pig let alone stay married to one.

Do you think I should leave her now or should I wait another 6 months and hope she dont pork up even more?

By the way, I exercise daily and I've tried to encourage her but she won't even try. I also started buying healthy groceries but she keeps sneaking junk food in and tryin to hide it under the bed

Answer 1

Dump her now. Not because she is bad for you, but becuase you are bad for HER. If you are so shallow that you can't get past her waist size, then get away from her. If she has no self respect because of her weight, she won't have the guts to leave first, you do it.

Answer 2

I Understand You And I Know You Dont Like Fat But,,You Should Love Your Wife And Not Look How She Look Like ..But,,If You Already Told Her She Need to Lose Weight And All That She Should Its Better To Lose Weight Then Losein My Husband + She Should Care More About Her Self She need 2 Take Care Of Her Self And Start Losein Sum Weight...And I Think You Should Wait till 6 months and give her anther chance i hope she listen 2 you dis time..

Answer 3

I think that she should leav your a$$ at the curb. what kind of person marrys some one for there wieght. you are the worst kind of person there is shallow and hateful. did you think to ask the dr if she has a health prob that causes it NO you are a PIG not your wife. another thing the more you tell her to "get skinny or you will leave" aint hellping things only hurting. why do you men think that ultimatums work?? but in all since leave that way a REAL man can come into her life. you know she will be much better of then being with your stupid hateful a$$.

Answer 4

You vowed to love her through thick and thin,good or bad.If you love her, it doesn't matter if she gained 300 lbs. Eating is an emotional thing. Shes trying to feed a hunger in her for something that's missing. It might even be her need for your love and unconditional support. I know If you nag her it will just get worse. Start exercising with her.Her ego needs to know that shes still attractive to you, Marriage is SO hard,dude.Don't make the same mistakes I did.Believe me looks don't mean a thing. If youre mean to her about this she could take her love and leave with it. You might not think so now, but you will suffer over it once shes gone. Good Luck

Answer 5

I understand you want to be with a well built lady and i also understand the fact that that you told her before you got married that you were leaving if she got fat...what i don't understand is why she would marry someone who says something like this. You said you loved her............BULL! Love isn't skinny or fat. How would you feel if something happend to you and she said well because you are this way i am leaving? If you say oh well you never cared for her in the first place. I know you didn't and don't love her so it's probably best to hang it up......you are done anyway.

Answer 6

How swallow is one's mind? You married her for her looks, or soul? I really think you need to sit down and write what do you value in your own marriage? If you had a bad accident and lost your leg? Would your wife leave you because your not the type of man she married? What happen to unconditional love, you have to help her lose the weight not beat her up about it? You should be your wife best friend, you just don't throw something away because its out of place or simply changed.. That's what happens lives change everyday, tomorrow is not promised.. BE CAREFUL IN WHAT YOU ASK FOR!!! How can you walk away from someone based on weight?? You need to pray and ask for forgiveness, what goes around will come around....

Answer 7

You should leave her and let her find a real man. First of all you never loved her to start with and second of all if I were her you wouldn't have to leave because I would throw you out on the seat of your pants. You are not perfect and she deserves better that is only mental torture. I have been there except in the opposite situation I was to skinny. Maybe you can go find you a skinny model since you think you are so hot. Leave her alone and let her have a real life and a real man.

Answer 8

You said you love her but i believe you didnt you only love her body.If you love her you would love her either way big or small.When time go by and if you get big for no reason and a woman you love very much leaves you because of your weigh and brake your heart into two then you would know how your wife feel right now.The only thing i hear from you is her weigh not the love between you two.Some day you will regret it in the long run if you really ffine out you love her i would think about it really hard deep inside your heart how you really feel.

Answer 9

Why dont you help her lose the wait and encourage her to diet and eat fruit and better and you eat it with her and buy the foods she needs to do this with. Take walks with her and love her where she is at. You seem pretty shallow though to only love her if she ways a certain weight. Are you your perfect wait at all times and physically fit and do you eat right at all times? Do not divorce her i think you need to love her for her and help her lose the weight. She is not a PIG and i dont think she oinks. No wonder why she has no self esteen and does not seem to care anymore. I feel really bad for her and if you do choose to leave her i know she can do better then you! She deserves better for sure! Remember you vowed before God to love her through better or worse till death do you part!

Answer 10

I think you need to grow up, And accept your wife the way she is you know things do change people change .You will change phisically to sooner or later .If you are not happy with her stop telling bad stuff you are just making the relationship get wosrser .Help her out if you love her if not then leave her alone .One thing I can tell you is that if you want a good looking women than just keep on daiting all your life.

Answer 11

ok, you are a jerk...did you ever stop to think that calling your wife a pig, and probably other rotten names - contributes to her weight gain because you are hurting her and lowering her self esteem? And do you know what people do when they are upset and hurting? EAT!

I seriously doubt you are an addonis yourself - why don't you do something positive and start taking walks together, or shopping with her for health y foods - giving her POSITIVE encouragement and treating her with the resepect she deserves.

Get to a marriage counselor - she is obviously very unhappy - and I have a stong feeling how you treat her has A LOT to do with it.

I wouldn't be surprised if she wants a divorce herself but you have made her feel so low she doesn't have the strength to go forward with it.

You took vows buddy, better worse richer poorer....live up to them.