What should I do.....?

Question

Ok here it is when I was 15-16 I was about 5 months along and I told my mom she and my dad were mad at first and then she was happy I could understand I was only 16 I mean yeah its to young well I lost my baby about 5 months along then this past Jan. I was going to have another baby and I told my mom and everybody but then a month later I lost my baby and now its June and I am pargent with my 3rd Baby I hope this one works out I dont think I can handle loosing another baby and the boyfriend I have its his baby but one day he will say that he wounts it then the next day he will say he dont wount our baby that he just dont care about it and that he is leaveing in a year to go back to his home town so what do I do how do I tell my family agin I am just so scared I mean I am old enough to have a baby now dont worry about that but I just have no idea what I should do about this please somebody give me some great ideas any ideas might can help me out I love him so much.....

Oh yeah I am 19 and he is 21 years old and I would do anything for him because I love him so much and I know that he loves me.....

Well I just wounted some answers but some of you are just being so ******* mean to me I just did not know what to do and yes I am 19 years old and yes he is 21 years old think you very much some of you just dont need to be on here answering qusitons.....An for the girls that are really helping me thank you very much you have been a big help and I have only had 2 diffrent dad and yes this is the 3rd and I know who my babys dad is.....

Answer 1

If you have a problem with this pregnancy, I suggest you talk to a specialist. You may have an incompetent uterus or cervix (I think that's what it's called)

Answer 2

1. Check with a doctor. There may be reasons why you haven't yet carried to term. And there may be ways that they can help you carry this one to term if you want it.

2. The boyfriend is just scared. A baby is a big responsibility and not everyone is prepared to deal with the care and provision of a human life. Babies change everything - they change how you relate to others and how you prioritize your life. You may find, even, that you assess the parental fitness of your boyfriend differently once you have a baby.

On the plus side, there are millions of successful single mothers who utilize various child rearing strategies - including familial help, daycare (for working mothers) and other types that help see them through. Don't be intimidated, one way or the other, into anything you are not ready to do.

3. As for telling your parents, keep them in the loop. If you have the baby it will be a moment of joy. If you miscarry, they will support you during your grief.

*good thoughts*

I wish you luck.

Answer 3

I know what you are going through, ive had 2 miscarriages and im 6 months pregnant....ask your doctor about things you can do to insure that you dont lose your baby...bedrest is probably a good thing to do....im 18 and my boyfriend is 22 and hes like your boyfriend....changes his mind every day....its a guy thing...they are just scared...its a big change for women...and also men...they are used to caring about themselves and not worrying about a little human being, i know in my boyfriends case hes scared...yours is too...they both say the same things.....keep your stress down...stress is a big factor in miscarriages...well good luck to you, and congrats...if you ever need to talk my email is [e-mail]...i know what you are going through...and everything will be ok!

Answer 4

Well hun listen sometimes your body refuses pregnancy my cousin has been going thru the same thing she has misscarried 2 times already but stress is a big issue and your bf is causing alot of stress by his behavior ...and to be safe you should have your family doctor check you for a uterain disease that afflicted my baby sister after her first they normally dont check for them unless they need to so make sure to try and let the stress go and as for your bf remember in the end it will be his loss if this pregnancy works out he misses out on a special angel god has given.....And I have one more thing to add god only puts us thru what he knows we can handle and all things happen for a reason.....GOOD LUCK AND I PRAY YOU HAVE A HAPPY AND HEALTHY BABY

Answer 5

You are not old enough to have a baby. You sound and write like a 13 year old. You need to grow up and become alot more responsible and stop making babies with all these different men.

Answer 6

I don't want to be cruel but you seem to have a problem making wise choices. How many children would you have & with different fathers if you hadn't miscarried? Would you be on welfare while I paid to raise your kids? Birth control is easily available, everywhere! There is no excuse for somone your age to have been pregnant this many times. If your BF says he plans to leave you & the kid, I'd pay attention. He's warning you that he will not be responsible for the child or you. I strongly suggest you get counseling & PLEASE consider adoption.

Answer 7

first of all you should see a doctor so that he can tell you why are you having miscarriges thats not normal, you should worry about your baby first than the guy, a baby is a wonderful gift from god, if he doesn't want to be with you its ok, i can tell you that its because of your pregnancy that he is acting like that, just let him go and i can asure you that he will go back to you soon, or maybe when you have your baby. take care!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 8

Don't be afraid to talk to your parents again. But please do not choose abortion! I'm sorry you lost your other two babies, hopefully this one goes alright. If your boyfriend really does love you, he'll do whatever he wants for you as well. Talk to him about it and ask him why you two decided to have sex in the first place if he doesn't want a child.

Answer 9

try to explain to him that this babys is yours and his and if he really loves you then he will move to your hometown before the baby is born to help you because you didnt make it on your own he helped and yes tell your family they will be excited and sorry for the other losses. good luck

Answer 10

I would wait to tell everyone if I were you! just give it a little time to make sure its a viable pregnancy! and it sound like your boyfriend is an *** and isn't ready to be a father. there isn't anything you can do to make him want to be a father.