We are both married to diferent people and we are both unhappy in our marriage. I already told her that i Love her but she says she doesnt feel the same way. But she stills accepts my gifts from my trips and she talks with me about everything that happens in her life including with her husband. I am also her best male friend.
2006-06-15 06:51:53 · 7 answers · asked by charlie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I guess you are right, but I must say one thing to our defense. We dont have a relationship, we are just friendes right. As a matter of fact I love her so much I respect her in every way. And I also feel that if I love her I have to wait if she is for me and I am for her we both have to divorce and start with that. Thanks for all the answers.
2006-06-15 07:04:50 · update #1
you are right I know I have to give my best in my marriage and belive I have, I invited my wife and me alone to go to cancun and we did have a good time but we still cant seem to manage with easch other. I guess thats why they say never marry young. And I understand about seeing all the factors. I do really she doesnt leave her husband not beacuase of financial dificulties actually she earns more than he does. But our relationship is kind of weird. I really really love her and care for her I know I cant live without her. She needs me too i think because we once stopped talking for like a month and she started to talk with again after that.
2006-06-15 07:14:41 · update #2
You know i also beleive what you say, if she is for me and iam for her things on their on accord should move that way. Iam not really obsessed with her, but I do care for her and Ive told her that. I really really want her to be happy, even if it isnt with me. I wish it was with me but if it isnt and I know she is happy with that then iam okay, i might feel sad but i just want her to be happy always. Thats why i havent kissed her or hold her or pressure her. All i want is for her to know that i am there for her always, no matter what.
2006-06-15 07:43:27 · update #3
I think she really loves her husband .But than yet you make her feel good . See some husbands or wifes out there look for things in other places specially if you cant get something good from your wife or husband . I say don't pressure her let her come to you .And if your gutt tells you you are not going to get nothing from it stop talking to her before things get complicated .Gifts, women always accept gifts its normal dont take it personal. Just give it your beest with your wife it takes two to make things work.And if things just don't work out get a divorce and find someone that is not married . If your friend really likes you she will come to you good luck!
2006-06-15 07:24:29 · answer #1 · answered by shasilk67 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Before you start addressing any questions regarding this other woman you need to decide what you want regarding your marriage. The answers to an unhappy marriage can never be found outside of that relationship. Give your marriage everything you've got. Do what ever it takes to try and make it work together. Then if it just isn't going to work out you can come out of that relationship knowing you did all you could. Then and only then can you move on to other relationships. I hope this makes some sense, I feel like I have rambled on and on. Sorry
2006-06-15 14:01:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a married woman has an affair, she is typically looking for a man to compensate for the shortcomings in her marriage. No doubt, you are filling that void in her life and for that she loves you. You, on the other hand, are expecting her to be "in love" with you.
Women are complex, they try to look at things from all angles. She may be unhappy in her marriage, but now, with you to fill the void, she is not unhappy enough to end the marriage. She may not be willing to buy into a relationship to the extinct of falling "in love", when she feels that the relationship will never be more than it is right now.
Yes, you are in love with her, but to what end?
2006-06-15 14:19:02 · answer #3 · answered by Spicyone 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she may care for you, but is possibly not in love with you. If she says she doesn't, she doesn't. Remember there's more than the two of you involved here and you need to resolve your current marriage relationships before persueing other romantic relationships. She may not like her husband right now, but may be scared to leave for financial reasons and if they have kids she has to think about what it would do to them. In this case use your head not your heart, look at the big picture.
2006-06-15 14:04:21 · answer #4 · answered by bohemian12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dangerous territory! Personally, if you even consider other women, you should take care of your home front first. Adultery has a nasty taste to it and adds fuel to a nasty divorce. Remember, 4 people are involved in your decision if you choose to persue an issue you shouldn't be until you are divorced and she is too.
2006-06-15 13:59:55 · answer #5 · answered by fortuitousoppty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both need to break it off and work on your marriages. This is just not good at all and will only end up in disaster!
2006-06-15 14:18:34 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'am still married to my soon to be ex-hubby
And inlove with another married man and we are very happy
Together,and are geting remarried in december2006....
2006-06-24 04:36:08 · answer #7 · answered by wendi_timney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋