What do you think about abortion?

Question

Is it wrong to have a abortion when you are a 19 year old and 3 weeks pregnant. When you are still within the 3 weeks it does not have a heart beat. What is your opinion?

this is a experienced question so that means that I have experienced this and it is the past and I have made a desission but I would just like to know how people feel about this situation. Please do not treat me like a child because I am very independent. I work a 9:30 -5:30 job and get payed 55,000/ yearly at a real estate office and i do believe I am very successful for my age. So please answer more seriously.

The reason I did not want to put it up for adoption is because I do not want my child to live his life without feeling wanted and not loved for. I do want to be a great mother someday but right now I am not financially secure and I dont want to bring a child in a hard life. Once that I am secure then I will know that my child will have a wonderful life.

If some people are wondering there was protection but my doctor said unfortunately I fell in that 1%

Thank You for all your replies. For the people who are wondering I did go for the abortion. And it is true that there are times that I would think that if I kept the child he would be 3 months old. But I would also wonder how would I be able to take care of the child while going to work and college. I posted this to just hear what people think. dont get me wrong someday I will be a great mother but not when he would have to be made fun of in school because he lives in a lower class due to his mothers mistakes, or even to be born premature because of my age. And from what I personally think is that it is not called murder if there is no heart beat. Once again thank you for all the support and comments.

Answer 1

I think abortion is YOUR choice!!! not anyone else...they may think its wrong but its your dicision that comes out in the end! you cant just rely on abortion ALL the time but if you arent ready then you ARE making the right desicion....you cant just give a baby up for adoption, lots of babies still have no familes and yet people still think THATS a better alturnitive ....i really dont get it
being a baby with out a home is worse in my opinion!

p.s ur right its not fully a baby yet

Answer 2

Abortion is wrong because it means murdering your own child. Some people argue that it is the woman's choice. Women are given 2 choices; the choice not to have sex and the choice to use protection. A heartbeat can be heard between 4-6 weeks and anything with a heart that beats is a living thing. If you didnt want to get pregnant, you should have either practiced abstinence or used proper protection. It irks me when people use the excuse that they are young and can't handle having a child. I think you should have thought about that in the first place. I got pregnant at 17 and then again at 18. I never thought twice about giving my daughters life. I'm glad I made the decision to let them grow inside of me. They are 1 and 2 now and i'm not going to say it's easy raising babies, but it's well worth it. Aborion as a form of birth control should be illegal. There are all these options of the depo shot, the pill, nuva ring, patch, IUD, implant, condoms, and many more. More people should use those instead of taking an innocent baby's life. Your parents didnt abort you, thank them for giving you life.

Answer 3

I know that it is difficult, one tries to console ourselves about giving the fact that we are to be so early that maybe it is not wrong... Go online and simply type in "picture of 6 week pregnant", there is a specific website which will give you in detailed exactly what is going on at the time that you say that you are... I find it very weird that you would know to be pregnant at such an early stage, because your period would not even be late, and besides an abortion would not be done at this time at any clinic because the baby cannot be seen, therefore, they can miss it, so you would have to wait until the baby could be seen, which will be about six to seven weeks, and if you see that picture, how big he/she is, you will simply start to cry... So, you will be killing the baby, because the abortion makes you wait that long... I mean, I know that you are young, but it seems that you could try to have your baby . . . I mean, I know that it depends on the circumstances, but at least you are not a 16 or 15 year old teen.. good luck

Answer 4

I think it is wrong , I don't believe in abortions. I think that you were old enough to take responsibility. There are so many people out there that want to adopt! If the timing was not right for you I understand things don't always work out but you and someone else took the time to make a baby so it should have been given a chance at life even if it wasn't with you. Everyone deserves a chance at life, who are you to make that choice.

Answer 5

I once found myself in your very situation. I debated abortion, but it came down to this. What if this is the only child you are able to conceive? Are you willing to give up the only opportunity that you may have to be a mother?

My daughter is now 21, and she is the joy of my life! I cannot imagine my life without her. When I think of what I could have done by having an abortion, I shudder.

Give your baby a chance at life. Even if you choose adoption -- your baby doesn't deserve to die.

Sure, you may disappoint a lot of people by having an unwanted pregnancy -- but can you live with yourself if you kill your own child?

Answer 6

My opinion is this. I think people have a right to choose, but I warn you, it will be a choice for good or ill, that will haunt your for the rest of your life. A long time ago, we chose to have an abortion and seven years later it still torments me. Here's the flip side, I am getting ready to have my first child and the excitement and joy I feel is completely undescribeable! I can't wait to meet my child and if I could take back what happened years ago, I honestly would. Ultimately the decision has to be yours and you need to base it on legitimate reasons, not because you want to be selfish. There will always be those that judge you, but it is not their place as they have never walked in your shoes, nor you in thiers. Ignore them for you should not cast stones if you live in a glass house.

Answer 7

its good that your only 19 and doing well for yourself in my opinion i think that everybaby no matter what the circumstances
should have a chance at life because what if ur mother deciced to abort you. you wouldnt be here today making 55,000 a year i got pregnant when i was 16 and i am 17 years old waiting for my baby to arrive (july 26 2006) and even though i have only one year of school left i still making it because i love my baby and u should love yours as well i know exactly how u feel i felt the same way but i have good advice and great friends so i hope you dont go through with the abortion. love your baby because when she/he is older they will love you
god bless.sweetie.

Answer 8

You need to look deep inside yourself to determine what you believe. Do you believe it's morally wrong to terminate a pregnancy? If so, how will you support the child? Should you decide to terminate, will you have emotional support?

For a decision like this, please don't look to popular opinion to determine what you will do. Really look to see what you believe, and act accordingly. It's your choice.

A very good friend of mine had an abortion. She was about as old as you are and she had recently broken up with the father of the child. Thinking in the long-term, she knew she wouldn't be able to properly provide for the child if she had to drop out of college and be a single mom. She also thought it would be very difficult to give the child up for adoption after carrying it in her womb for 9 months. Although it was a very tough decision, she chose to terminate her pregnancy. She thinks about her decision from time to time, but never regrets it.

So please, don't look to everyone else's answers; they do not matter in the end. Search YOUR soul and make your OWN decision.

Good luck.

Answer 9

okay so i know so many people believe that Abortion is wrong and this and that, but its our Choice as women. and sometimes its the best thing you can do at the time. i had an abortion when I was 18, and thought I felt bad after wards i knew it was the best thing for me at the time. and if you are making that kind of money when you are 19 I think you are Successful, so screw what everyone else thinks!!!

Answer 10

3 weeks is very early on and it is not even close to being a baby yet. If you are not ready to be a mom and are not financially able to raise a child at this point, you should not let anyone talk you into having it.